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anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid my bf recently told me his ex gf ever sent hum naked photos of herself and although he said that it was quite some time back and that he had already deleted them, I still feel uneasy. Of the random things we always talk about, he suddenly mentioned it out of the blue. I even thought he was kidding initially. What made me uneasy was the fact that he claims that there was never anything sexual btw them when they were dating (they were 14 back then and now they're 18). If there wasn't anything sexual going on, why did she send such photos? I feel like he's hiding sth from me. Or why would he mention it suddenly? And why say things are clean btw them when at 14, she was already sending him her naked photos? Or am I too paranoid?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (4 November 2011):
 Maybe photos were exactly as far as they went at 14. I don't know why he tells you about it out of the blue, but I would guess he wants to make sure you know he doesn't keep secrets.
I suggest you work on trusting him and not letting your imagination run wild.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (4 November 2011):
 While its natural to doubt him, I think he might be telling the truth. Obviously your B/f and his ex were talking about sex when they were together and there was dirty talk involved, but maybe it just stopped at the picture thing. After all, 14 is too young to be involved physically. They were kids back then exploring each other sexually and perhaps that is why the pictures were involved.
I would say give him the benefit of doubt. If he says nothing happened, then probably it didn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2011): Some girls do send photo's like that even if they are not in a physical sexual relationship with someone for a number of resons, 1. they get off knowing that someone is seeing them naked. 2. they wish they were physically being sexual with someone. As for why do it when she was 14, some people start earlier than others and even though are very immature at 14 they are sexual in nature. I don't think that he should have told you this, as it seems a bit disrespectful to tell you this, but I think if he was hiding anything from you he wouldn't have said anything at all. As you said he was 14 at the time and is 18 now, so it was 4 years ago, he is with you now and is obviously honest (maybe a little too honest with some things). Whether there was anything sexual in that relationship at such a young age it really isn't any of your business anyway, you were not in a relationship with him at the time it has nothing to do with you. Leave the past in the past and concentrate on your relationship with him now. You might want to ask him not to tell you such things in future as it upsets you. Good Luck.
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