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*ivelifelove
writes:Okay my boyfriend is acting kinda shady. There is this girl that just got a job as a salesperson and she's drop dead hott. She has a perfect body and she's engaged and she already slept with one of the workers he works with. And ever since she started he has been accusing me of cheating and then when I was in bed he asked me if I wanted to have a threesome. Then I'm like, "What are you for real? I'm straight as a board and I believe that is cheating!" And then he said, "No, I'm just joking." I don't know if I'm doing the right thing, but I am having my step sisters friend go to his work and flirt with him and give him her number and ask for his and if he flirts back and gives her his number I don't know what i should do! Do you think I'm doing the right thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2011): If I were u I would of just gone along with his offer and would of said sure... and then ask with whom? ....Do u got someone in mind? And once he tells u his plans...... girl that's when u should be able to tell wht he is really capable of.. then that's when u make ur descision of stayn or leavn.. all depends how much ur willing to put up with... sometimes u gotta go along with them just to make them think that ur comftorable and that's when they let out... hope this helps good luck..
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 July 2011):
No. You should NEVER test someone. I personally dumped a woman for trying this with me.
Either you trust your boyfriend, in which case you don't need to test someone. Or you don't trust him, in which case you either just end it or you deal with the problem by talking to him. Testing him does nothing other than show you up as deceitful and massively insecure.
Testing people doesn't work for several reasons:
1 - If you are found out, then you're stuffed. And there is a high chance that you'll be found out. There is nothing worse than knowing someone has distrusted you and tried to trick you. It makes a relationship entirely worthless.
2 - What if he does take the number? What does it prove? It proves that he took a number. Lots of people take and give out numbers. It proves nothing.
3 - What if he takes no notice of your friend? That still doesn't prove he's not cheating.
4 - The police themselves actually cannot use this type of trap. Legally, it's called entrapment, and can't be used because in effect everything is faked and doesn't show how someone would respond to a real offer. Sure, he might take the number - but then you sent her, you used her, so what were you expecting? You set out to fin evidence that you wanted, but you provided it. He didn't do any of his own accord.
If you can't trust him, dump him. Waste no time setting tests and getting fake evidence. It just makes you appear as bad as the cheat you're trying to catch out in the first place.
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (9 July 2011):
he is accusing you of cheating men only really do that when they are the ones that are cheating yes you are doing the right thing what you could also do is get your friend to set up another facebook account and flirt with him on that and see what he says to her whether he is single or not etc and see if the conversation is flirty at least that way you can see what he has said back to her and you will also have proof if and when you confront him good luck
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reader, a_maldita  +, writes (9 July 2011):
 I'm not sure if you would like the result of it but if you are ready then why don't you do it.
Just be prepared to took off just in case he does something wrong.
Guys are guys and their natures are different from ours.
Well if he doesn't do anything stupid then it means that he is really faithful to you and you can trust him.
Good luck and hope everything turns out well...
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reader, rcn +, writes (9 July 2011):
 More than likely he is. See you feel it deep, and that should be enough of a warning sign to say something is going on here. Someone as you said, "drop dead hott" can seemingly pose a threat to you, when you see that perfect body, and her easy to spread legs. That can be threatening. So you want to make sure you're not jumping the gun there. What does show the probability of his cheating, is his new "accuse you of cheating" action. People who cheat, generally accuse their partner of doing the same thing they have done. Under that circumstance also, I can't describe how wrong it was for him to ask you if you wanted a threesome. That's almost like saying, "I'm cheating, but if she can be with both of us, then it wouldn't be like I am." That's just wrong.
I'm not against what you want to you. But I have to say, all you'd be doing is verifying what you already know.
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reader, yjmei  +, writes (9 July 2011):
I do not think a boy can be loyalty to a girl, most like this. So it is not clever for you to do this.
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