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writes:My boyfriend's best friend is a girl. She's a good friend of mine and really nice and we're pretty close. I don't want to, but every time he hangs out with her (which is like everyday) I get jealous. Recently, I've been on a 9 day trip and every day of that week, he was with her one on one... Maybe it's because she used to like him and just recently got out of a relationship, but I feel like they're always together. Every time we go somewhere, it's to her house, or wherever she's at. I don't mind it much, but it does bother me. And every time we talk/text, she always comes up in a conversation. He's said that he doesn't like her when she confessed to him a few months back, but now I feel he may start to. What do I do? ): I don't like feeling jealous.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2011): Just from what you've mentioned it raises a little suspicion in my eyes. He hangs out with her all the time, mentions her all the time in conversations..I would really reevaluate this relationship. One of my fiancee's good friend is a girl whom he used to room with, and even had a small crush with her at one point. (Nothing ever happened) Once, he even accidentally called me her name while slightly intoxicated. I've had a bad feeling for her since. He doesn't hang out with her as much, and never mentions her. In my opinion, that's how it should be.
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reader, a_maldita  +, writes (26 June 2011):
 I felt the same with this girl that my bf used to hang out also. We are far apart so this girl is with him almost everyday and even calls or text even when he is visiting at home if he got free time from work. My bf said need not to be jealous with her since she is just a friend. But I can really feel that this friend of his has feelings for him and might be taking her chances while I'm not around. Although this girl is very friendly to me I just don't like her much... It's best you ask your bf to stay away from her if he can to avoid any arguments since you already felt uneasy being around her. I think this will best work for both of you since it work for me and my bf... Good luck
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 June 2011):
 Off course you don't like feeling jealous. But I do understand where you are coming from it must be hard for you when you know that she did used to like him and now she is available again. I think what you both need is to spend some quality time alone together one on one without his best friend being around. Without telling him you are jealous you should just tell him that as a couple you want to spend more time with him alone. Off course you can both still meet up with this girl from time to time and all hang out together but tell him you both need to spend quality time together as a couple as well. Hopefully after speaking to him things might improve. Good luck.
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