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*_maldita
writes:How would you know that your boyfriend is cheating on you??? What strong signs that he is doing it??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Abella  +, writes (28 June 2011):
 A few more suggestions have been shared with me, when I talked this issue of men cheating with friends, and I felt it only fair to share them here.
My view is that if I so mis-trusted my man and thougt he was cheating I would question if I still wanted to be in a relationship. I need trust. complete trust. And I do not think I would run lots of checks on my guy. Because I do trust him. However I have been reminded by others that thye "Really want to know". So for those who feel like that I am including the suggestions given to me.
The second one that was suggested has never occured to me before, but the guy who suggested this one says it is something that catches out cheaters.
The first is, smell his hair when he comes home and you greet him. Don't make it obvious. But you know the normal smell of his hair and the shampoo in the bathroom. If he has been with a woman then his hair is likely to have picked up the other scent of the other woman. Unless she uses the exact same shampoo you can smell the difference.
The second is slightly icky. But apparently true. It is this. If you and he have been apart for perhaps a week and he comes home then the viscosity of his semen, unless he masterbates regularly, should thus be thick. But if it is thin and watery he either masterbates all the time... or he has been having relations with someone
Another is do not suggest that you are suspicious. But if he says he is just going out locally with the guys/his friends and you know where that is. For instance a golf course 3 miles away. Then check the odomoter on his car before he leaves. write it down, while he is getting ready.
When he returns find an opportunity to check the odomoter again after he arrives home from 'golf??'
If the odometer shows and extra 50 milies but he only went to the 'golf course???' Do not question him on it - that will alert him. But do a few more odometer checks on other occasions when he is just 'going out with the guys' to a defined place that you know and see if his version adds up with the odometer reading.
Tricky guys are cheaters
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female
reader, a_maldita +, writes (26 June 2011):
a_maldita is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks Abella.. This is very helpful to me since I'm really having hard time figuring out my bf... I need to understand more so I could adjust better and not make some false assumptions base on behaviors that I'm seeing!
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reader, Abella +, writes (26 June 2011):
hi Maldita,
May I recommend that you locate the Very special Uncle on DearCupid, namely: Anonymousmale1
via 'friends' on Dear Cupid. He writes the Very Best articles that help women to better understand men, especial 'players' and how to spot genuine guys.
Some guys, incorrectly, think they are manly if they keep a harem of girl friends. But a really manly man is Faithful to One Woman exclusively, once he has made a contract to be the 'One' for that women. An honorable man is True to his word and and does not dishonor that contract every time he meets a different attractive woman. .
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reader, a_maldita +, writes (26 June 2011):
a_maldita is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell he has been like that since the day I met him. He shares things with me but he still keep secrets especially his job. He doesn't want to tell me since I wouldn't understand any and he don't want me to worry about it. He swears that he never cheats on me and never will but there are times he seems so distant. If I try to be near him he draws back and I would just stop since I don't want to push it too far. He said he is very stressed because of his job but sometimes he felt I'm also far distant he makes some efforts to make me feel better. I don't understand why he is acting like that towards me??? But I know he is not the sweet and appreciative type of bf. He likes to be quiet most of the time... Although he doesn't usually tells me he loves me but when I'm sleeping I can feel that he really cares for me though but just afraid to show it.. Those signs that you've elaborated are signs that I can sense in him.. What should I do???
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (25 June 2011):
he will become very secretive and distant like for instance if you come onto him for sex and he pulls away it will probably because he is getting it else where he may also lie about where he has been and who he has been with if you suspect him of cheating ask him out right good luck
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reader, Abella +, writes (25 June 2011):
also he becomes more distant towards you. He disinterested. He gets irritated with you very quickly. He starts to find fault with you all the time. He puts on a frowning face when you speak to him. He's tense, not relaxed. He does not want to make long term plans (because he does not expect to be around that long)
He treats you with disrespect in private and in public. He humiliates you. He tries to drive you away. He stops sounding
genuine when he says he 'loves'
You start getting phone calls at home, where the silent person on the phone says nothing, just hangs up when you (female) and the phone
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reader, Abella +, writes (25 June 2011):
cheating signs.
He starts being evasive, more secretive, and difficult to locate at times - when his phone is switched off.
He takes a Lot more interest in his appearance, trims his nose hairs, gets a better hair cut. Starts paying more attention to his appearance.
He out 'shopping' for far longer than his few purchases would indicate.
He goes outside or into the bathroom WITH his phone. He locks his phone.
He claims to be with his male friends but it doesn't ring true.
He starts to mention 'this girl at work' one too many times.
He changes his habits, leaves home earlier i the morning, comes home later at night. But is not earning any overtime for all this effort.
people try to give you hints, but you dismiss the rumors as rubbish, but you do continue to worry.
He suddenly develops a hobby that requires evening classes. And then arrives home smelling different.
He heads for the shower as soon as he gets home, even before he kisses you. And then takes his clothes to the washing machine as soon as he's out the shower.
If you raise your suspicions about him his EXTREME reaction is so far over the top as to indicate/confirm guilt on his part.. Many men believe reacting totally OUTRAGED will subdue the woman from ever daring to suggest it is happening.
(even though he knows he is cheating)
Hope that helps - there are some fabulous articles on Cheating in the Dear Cupid Articles
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