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writes:I have a big problem im 7 months pregnant from a guy who is now disrespecting me, hes very abusive emotionally and physically. He calls me names the after day he told me he made out in a park with a girl he met on blackberry messager group. he keeps telling me im not his girlfriend and im a piece of sh** and im nothing special. i hate it when he treats me like this. i havent done anything to him. why does he take my kindness for weakness. now he he's saying da baby is not his. i cant get child support from him because he doesnt work he's on the road making money. he doesnt want me in his life anymore he said he wants see what else is out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2011): He is unhealthy and you need to end it with him for good. He produced a child with you so he needs to take responsibility and pay child support. Don't let him be a part of your child's life unless he makes some major changes down the road. Look for someone who is a good person who will make a family with you. You will be much happier this way. Good luck.
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (8 July 2011):
 You are better off without him.
Draw close to your family and your friends right now.
You need and deserve support.
Get a lawyer anyway. File for paternity and financial support. Even if he can not pay up right now, you want on court records that the child IS his and claim your legal right to support. Eventually, time will catch up with him.
Best Wishes.
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reader, megfaichney +, writes (8 July 2011):
 29 yrs ago i was in the same position as you id go to the ends of the earth for him he was my first grown up relationship my parents hated him and advised me to leave him, he eventually abandoned me 8mnths pregnant i moved back to the area where i came frm and had baby, i took mental and physical abuse of this man for along time, i never listened to anyone,29yrs later im married my son is a big strapping man and is so grateful i left that man my hubby brought him up as his own,if you cant leave this man then think of the baby respect yourself and your babys life you are a lot stronger than you think it will be a struggle but its worth it in the end
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reader, a_maldita  +, writes (8 July 2011):
 Sounds terrible to me....
At your stage he should be supporting you because usually pg women are more sensitive and tends to make things worst.
But if your bf is like that your better of a single mom.
You have to prove to him that you deserve better than this he is and bring up your kid in a different atmosphere its not healthy for both of you to stay.
Take care of yourself always and don't stress out yourself too much it's not good for the baby.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 July 2011):
 He sounds like a very horrible immature man, and you can do so much better than this waste of space. I know it is hard at the moment. But you will get benefits for being a single mother and still talk to citizens advice about what he is intitled to pay for the child because he will still need to pay something towards his or her upbringing. You deserve so much better so kick in him to kirb now and get him out of your life. You deserve better, plus you don't want your child to be born in to that atmosphere you will be much happier as a single mother believe me.
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