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*_maldita
writes:I just recently got back with my 7 yrs boyfriend.We agreed to settle things after we got separated for a month and he said he will make up for the times we have been in bad terms and I told him I would do the same.Well we spent the entire week together and being with him feels really good but he needed to be away again since his vacation is over.When he left this week I felt down again and I don't know why I feel this way.I just can't take this girl off my mind.Well the reason why me and my boyfriend broke up it's because I felt so jealous with one his friend which I really knew likes him so much.I can't help thinking that when he is away he can meet this friend of his or may she will text him or visit him.I ask my boyfriend to stay away from her and he did avoided her since last year but this girl just can't get over him.She will always find ways to contact him or see him.Everyday I always call my boyfriend and ask him if they meet or if she calls or text.He said no and not to worry about anything.I don't know what is wrong with me but I can't help it.He said that I should trust him and that he would never cheat on me.But the thought of this girl is haunting me and making me crazy...I know if I keep on pushing my boyfriend he will pull back and maybe totally end the relationship but it's really eating me up everyday...Any advice would be greatly appreciated...
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reader, a_maldita +, writes (14 July 2011):
a_maldita is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yes I think your definitely right I should stop reminding him of her.
They never had relationship of any kind aside from being friends but not anymore since he already kept distance from this girl that I really hate.
If she can't take away my boyfriend from me she is trying to take away my boyfriends family which she hardly even know...
If she can't talk to my guy she will contact his family and pretend being close to them.
I just felt so jealous and wanted to tell her to back off,
Well I did that and I was really out of control w/c led me and my boyfriend to break up.
But now we are back I just wanted to shut up and be more understanding but can't really help it.
Thank youre very helpful tips...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2011): You're right -- continually nagging him about whether his friend has called him or met up with him every day is annoying, he he will eventually be fed up and leave you for good.
You need to trust your boyfriend. You say nothing here that shows he has had a sexual past with this woman. A woman can have a crush on your boyfriend without your boyfriend returning feelings.
Take a deep breath when you start feeling jealous, and stop asking him about her. In truth, he probably thinks about this girl more often because you keep talking about her. I am willing to bet she doesn't cross his mind at all until you bring her up.
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