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Archived questions from: September, 2016 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

Do you think I my married lover is tiring of me? In the beginning we talked. Now he only sends a text

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3010 days ago

30 September 2016 (F) - I've been friends with this married man for 8 months now, who doesn't have sex with his wife I guess. He is 38 and I am 22. He was my first lover. He took me to his house 3 times and we never had actual sex because I said I want to remain a virgin. ...

My dad seems suspicious of me and I'm afraid he'll have my aunt restrict me!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2986 days ago

30 September 2016 (F) - Hi everyone I really need some advise.. I recently moved to a different country to study and even though I'm living my aunt, my dad keeps on calling me everyday and honestly, it's a very intensive course and sometimes I don't pick due to the fact ...

He caught me in a small white lie about my smoking cannabis!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3010 days ago

30 September 2016 (F) - Ok so I told a small white lie to my boyfriend that I hadn't smoked cannabis in a while but he found out I had infact the day before but it was only a tiny bit and I didn't enjoy it anyway. When he got with me he knew I smoked and had given up...

How can we slow things down? And why does he keep slipping out?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2895 days ago

30 September 2016 (F) - Ok, so, After messaging and chatting to my guy, we both agreed to meet . I really like him, he likes me too. We get on so well, laughing, relaxing and enjoying each other's company. We arranged a few more dates, there is definately a spa...

At 19 I kissed another guy. What is the kindest way to tell my husband the truth? I can't forgive my indiscretion.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2964 days ago

29 September 2016 (F) - So I've been with my husband ten years, married for two years. We have always had our ups and downs but now we are very strong and we have two children. However, when I was nineteen I made a terrible mistake. I kissed another man in a club while ...

Is becoming angry a normal reaction to being accused of cheating?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 3008 days ago

29 September 2016 (F) - If you accuse your boyfriend of cheating and he says he is remaining calm because if he doesn't he will become violent and walk out the door and never come back, would that raise a red flag? He said he doesn't like being called a cheater. Is t...

I feel bad for my pregnant sister as her mother in law is so mean to her. Sometimes I wish she would get divorced. What can I do to support my sister?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3011 days ago

29 September 2016 (F) - Hello everyone.. I have a problem that is about my sister.. It really affects me and i feel so bad for her ! My sister has a mother in law or should i say a devil in law... She has done nothing but try to ruin my sisters marriage.. Cause...

Do I back off and hope he'll approach me? Or do I make a move and tell him how I feel? Eight year age difference.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3011 days ago

29 September 2016 (F) - I have posted about this before so some of you may be familiar with my story. Just need a bit more advice. I met a guy, he is a PT at my gym. Cutting a long story short. There seems to be an attraction due to the way he looked at me. I did not li...

How can I overcome my anxiety around women?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3011 days ago

28 September 2016 (M) - I suffer from anxiety near women. I try to avoid women as best I can in social settings. Not in a malicious way but nervously. I had some bad experiences growing up and it's made me wary around women. Growing up girls were particularly mea...

Is this legitimate suspicion or paranoia?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3012 days ago

28 September 2016 (M) - As I venture more and more into the gay world (possibly the same in the straight world), I recognise that I have this unique skill in winning over guys and making friends easily. This gives me a great power, in that im not afraid to put myself out ...

Considering my reasons for going in, my boyfriends comment, my age and his age and our desire to have kids, is it too late to join the military?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3012 days ago

28 September 2016 (F) - For some time now, it has been a dream of mine to join the military. I was in ROTC for a bit in college but to be honest, did not succeed very well. I got out after a year but then after graduating with my degree about 2.5 years ago, I got the same ...

Should I act now? I don't want things to go too far, but I like my tutor and I think he likes me. What should I do...?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3012 days ago

28 September 2016 (F) - I'm a 24 year old girl who just started college 6 months ago. For the last 3 months I've been getting help from a tutor in a class that I had trouble keeping up in. The tutors at my college are students that have shown excellence in their past mon...

A text from another woman has made me wonder if I can trust my boyfriend

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3012 days ago

27 September 2016 (F) - I've been with my b/f for 3 years and just found a text from a woman saying she misses him too. I questioned him and he said its nothing just someone he's helping find a job. He says she's nothing and not to worry about it.I said why would you tell ...

Should I back off and forget about him or am I being a bit dramatic?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3012 days ago

26 September 2016 (F) - Hi, I really fancy this guy at work, the other girls have been trying to set us up for months but we're both a bit shy so nothing's ever happened. We were out with everyone from work a couple of weeks ago and he told one of the girls he was inte...

How Can one forgive BETRAYAL of someone you love, cheating and now the the woman is pregnant?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3011 days ago

26 September 2016 (F) - I met the man of my dreams, my best friend over a year ago. we live together and his kids come over every other weekend " I Love Them". we went on vacation 5- months ago and I saw a girl kept calling? I asked who is she then my life forever cha...

Do just forgive and forget? He called out the name of his ex, twice, during sex with me. How do I deal with this? He was drunk at the time

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3012 days ago

26 September 2016 (F) - My fiance (together 4 years), called me by his ex girlfriends name during sex (twice in one sentence) when he was drunk after his bachelor party. I dont know how to deal with it. This ex caused a lot of rubbish at the start of our relation...

I'm putting up a wall. Should I show some trust and let him know how I feel?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3015 days ago

25 September 2016 (F) - I'm having a really difficult time telling my best friend how I feel. Whenever I get unusually upset about something (and I try and hold it in), but he always seems to know that something's up and asks me about it. At first, I play it cool with a s...

Am I crazy or is this gaslighting?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3013 days ago

25 September 2016 (F) - Am I crazy? My husband has the habit of lying to me about little things. For example, he'll say he has nothing planned for the weekend and the weekend will roll around and he'll tell me that he has to go to work (and he does- I can verify that and ...

Is it possible that there actually isn't anyone out there for you?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3014 days ago

24 September 2016 (F) - Is it possible that there actually isn't anyone out there for you? I can't imagine finding anyone who suits my needs, I rarely see anyone who I would like to date. There must come a time when you finally meet someone who is trustworthy and ...

I wonder if my boyfriend is cheating, how do I know for sure?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3014 days ago

24 September 2016 (F) - I would like to know whether or not my boyfriend is cheating. Of course you can never really know but understanding the signs my boyfriend is presenting would be great, if any at all. I have been dating this guy for roughly 2 months and a bit...

I feel like my trust meter is broken. How can I tell if this guy is trustworthy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3016 days ago

24 September 2016 (F) - I am in the middle of a divorce. I had sworn to myself to stay out of the dating scene until at least the divorce was finalized. I even purposely stopped dressing nicely or wearing makeup in order to avoid attracting attention. My soon to be ex ...

Fiance lied about her age

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3016 days ago

24 September 2016 (M) - I've been with my fiance for 2.5 years and we are legally getting married in 2 weeks. When filling out the paperwork i noticed she kept writing the wrong age. It was only a year difference but later that day she told me she us actually a year older ...

Would it be acceptable to ask if our family could go again to their vacation home?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3016 days ago

23 September 2016 (M) - I have known a couple for a very long time and used to see them often, but for the last couple of years it seems like they only want to get together once a year. My family used to borrow their vacation house-- we haven't been in about 5 years. Do...

Do you think she sees a future with us at some point? How can I get things moving forward?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3016 days ago

23 September 2016 (M) - Hi there. I have a problem with a girl that I have lost all my hang ups on and I have admitted to myself that I love her. I am a male in my mid 20's. Near the turn of the year I met a lovely girl and things developed quite fast. The girl had a c...

I don't want to cut all contact with him. But he has been distant with me ever since I asked if he was interested in anything serious. What do I do now?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3015 days ago

23 September 2016 (F) - Hi everyone. I hope someone can shed some light on my situation. Recently, due to a change in jobs, my weekends are free, giving me more time to go out and socialise. Back in April, I went out to a local pub with my best friend where I bump...

Is it me? My Gf of 4 years just doesn't make any effort. Leaving me seriously unsatisfied

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3016 days ago

23 September 2016 (M) - I am really frustrated in my relationship. My girlfriend of 4 years I feel doesn't make effort. Or maybe it's me? We used to have a lot of sex, nearly daily. As routines changed this has reduced which is normal. Now in a week it's once and if I wak...

How should I handle her reaction? I feel I'm being completely blown off by my FWB friend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3014 days ago

23 September 2016 (F) - So I've got a Fwb relationship that's been on going for quite some time now. Roughly 10 months. We have been friends since 2012 but the sleeping together started last November. This is not your typical fwb relationship. I've never had a relation...

Tactless? Outspoken? He says he was just thinking out loud. How do I deal with his remarks?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3016 days ago

23 September 2016 (F) - My new boyfriend said he was really shocked how different I look without make up when I stayed at his last week. I dont wear that much make up and have been complimented on my natural skin and facial features. I was really taken back. He does seem ...

Should my ex and I get back together? We were Bf and Gf together since adolescene until we broke up in February

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3018 days ago

22 September 2016 (F) - I split up with my boyfriend in Feb. We were together nearly 20'years but we had a rocky relationship as he has a lot of issues. He had a rebound relationship pretty quickly after we ended and now he has split from his girlfriend. ...

Should I hang on to this relationship or part ways so we both can recover and finally move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3018 days ago

22 September 2016 (F) - Hi , my boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for almost 9 months now and it's been a long distance relationship since the beginning ! We had entered this relationship thinking that we wanted to marry each other . He had even proposed...

Frustrated by petty character assassinations and deceptions. Am I caught between two rather exploitive "friends!" ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3017 days ago

22 September 2016 (F) - I think i might be caught between two rather exploitive "friends!" Being of a kind nature i tend to help rather than hurt but if my intuition is anywhere over 50% ,then i believe i have seen my situation for exactly what it is! It is draining to m...

How can I introduce the topic of budgeting to my Bf and tips on living with and coping with a budget ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3017 days ago

22 September 2016 (F) - Hi I came across this page and hoped someone may be able to help me. I'm going to give a bit of background as it may help with your advice. I've just returned from traveling with my long term boyfriend of 8 years. We were gone for 18 month...

Why would my Bf's penis go limp after foreplay? Does it suggest that he's cheated on me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3014 days ago

22 September 2016 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. He is 63. I am 45. He is not married. Neither am I. Just to clarify. We are good friends. Our sexual relationship has always been quite wonderful too. And for a man in his 60's, my boy...

How should I approach asking this cute girl out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2875 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - There's a girl in class that I've got feelings for. She's super cute and we talk a lot, as we share many interests. I know that she is bisexual, as I've asked a while back. But she is extremley shy... It's easy for me to talk to her usually,...

What can I do to make my Bf chase me again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3019 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - As short as possible: my boyfriend of two months seems to be too relaxed in our relationship. What can i do to make him chase me again? I need him to start working for this relationship because i feel like he doesn't take me seriously anymore....

Broke up with friends. What was my former friend trying to say? should I be worried?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3019 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - I had friends who i just broke up with because they were beginning to be close friends with someone I know very well. She can't be trusted. I explained to them why i don't trust her and since we live in the same commune i know her better than they ...

Could his actions when near me mean anything at all? Psychologically? Or am I being delusional?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3019 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - So Today In class during a lab, the guy i am badly crushing on was standing right next to me. We attend all classes together, he almost all the time stands very quietly, but when he was standing next to me, he was moving a lot and cracking...

What do I do? I love him, but I don't feel loved in return

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3019 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - Hi I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now he had a bad childhood which has affected his adult life the problem is he doesn't know how to show love or deal with normal things in a relationship. He is nearly 30 yr old but acts like a teenager...

Help! Calling all people with nipple piercings. What are outcomes to consider if I get this done?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3017 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - hey everyone! i am thinking of getting my nipples pierced, just wondered if anyone had any experience of this? I like how it looks a lot but as always there's some real horror stories on the internet (picture of holes in boobs after getting an...

Since the breakup of what I thought was a perfect LD relationship I can't stop thinking about him. How do I cope with this situation?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3018 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - Hi, I feel like I need a reality check and I don't have many people in my life to ask for advice or open up to. I was broken up with 2 months ago by the person I loved. The relationship ended solely because of distance and the fact that his jo...

Will he come crawling back again, soon, to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3019 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - Hi I have gone my separate ways from my on off boyfriend again. We don't live together, and he has recently started back to college as a mature student and he told me hes very stressed out and has loads going on around his head and has family i...

Do you think he just wants to have me in his life in some type of way??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3020 days ago

20 September 2016 (F) - After almost 2 years and no advancement I guess moving on is best, but what's confusing is when I cut him off he makes effort with the "I miss you and I love you" and he tells me he does want marriage and to be happy with me but he never stress me ...

Should I go home? How do I ask if I can go home? Please help

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3018 days ago

20 September 2016 (F) - Dear Cupid, I left home 6 months ago before I sat my final school exams because I was in a really bad place emotionally and I felt I needed to get away. The day I left my mother begged me to go home and I told her i couldn't do that. But now I wa...

Would the average guy spend 1.5 hours in a store or was he lying?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 3020 days ago

19 September 2016 (F) - Is it possible for a guy - your boyfriend - to be in a store for 1.5 hours??? The same store??? He was out for awhile and I asked him about it and he said he was at an auto parts store for that long. He said he was browsing. That there were lots ...

What to do? I'm dating a woman aged 30 and I can't handle her "sleeping around" in the past.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3018 days ago

19 September 2016 (M) - I'm in my early 20s, not perfect but I met a woman who's 30 recently and we really hit it off. However shes has a LOT of bad things in her past. I'm not misogynist and I have obviously slept with girlfriends but she did a load of crazy stuff when...

My LDR is stressing me out. I do want to keep the relationship. What can I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3021 days ago

19 September 2016 (F) - My relationship is stressing me out. To give a bit of background. I was with my ex for 7 years and he cheated. Left me for her. I was single for 9-10 months when I got with my current boyfriend. We've been together 8 months now. Everything w...

What can I do about my very controlling aggressive abusive husband? I want out of this abusive marriage

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

19 September 2016 (F) - Hello i have a very serious problem. My husband is very controlling and he has been disrespectful to my Mom and my children. He has called my daughters stupid bitches and he calls my son a dumb mf. He says thats just the way he talks but i hate it!...

Should I separate from my husband? Or push on in what feels like a dead marriage ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3021 days ago

18 September 2016 (F) - I've been with my hubby for nearly 11 years now and his cousin is one of his best friends and as a product of that, his cousin is also MY best friend. In fact we are closer than my hubby and his cousin is, our style of communication is the same...

Do I assume he's not intereted?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3021 days ago

18 September 2016 (F) - I'm feeling very confused about a guy at work!! I've like him for quite a while and we always have fun sort of banter, and went on a group holiday where we just got on really well and I sort of thought he might like me. anyway, a couple of weeks ago ...

Some advice please on how to ensure that things do not go any further and do not lead to sex? Because I don't want that until I'm older

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3021 days ago

18 September 2016 (F) - I am 13 years old, female and is currently in a relationship of 4 months. My boyfriend and I haven't gone any further than straddling and French kissing until yesterday. No clothes were removed but there was grinding involved. And to be complete...