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Archived questions from: January, 2013 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

Boyfriend in love with his ex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4348 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - Hello, I got back with my ex of 6 months January, after finding out that he had never broken up with his ex of two years. He felt really guilty and kept saying how sorry he was. He was being really lovely and paying me lots of attention. Everythi...

Ten years with a man only to be cheated on then left for her, so why cant I move on??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4348 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - Well, I am 26 years of age and about 1 year ago I got out of a 10 year relationship. He left me for another woman! He had also been sleeping with her for a month or who knows how much longer before we actually broke up. I spent my life loving this ...

I can't get over my ex that passed away over a year ago

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4348 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - I don't know where to start but a year and 2 months ago I lost the love of my life. We broke up a few months before he passed away and saw each other once after we broke up. I never stopped loving him, I would be obsessed with reading his facebook, ...

How can I stop torturing myself thinking about the night my b/f had sex with another girl

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4348 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years. A year into our relationship we had some bad problems, mainly that my boyfriend hated the fact that I was friends with my ex and he became convinced I was going to cheat on him with him. (I never did not ...

I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend and I wish I wasn't.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4348 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - I need help or someone to talk to... I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend and I wish I wasn't. We've been broken up for 2 months but he is moving halfway across the country in a month, so we've been spending time with each other, acting li...

I hate that my boyfriend said his best vacation was with his ex! Should I be mad?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4348 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - Hi everyone, we talked with my bf the other day about spending some summer vacation together. We want to go to the sea, because we haven´t been by the sea for a long time. My BF told me he was by the sea few years ago and it was the best, most ama...

My ex is threatening me by saying that unless I get back with him, he will assassinate my character and ruin me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4350 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - i am from India..i am in a major trouble. i broke up with my boyfriend because he was so manipulative and controlling. he made my life like hell.In the initial days of our relationship i gave him my gmail and facebook password.Not even in my dr...

Should I remain a friend to my ex, or should I leave him alone?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4350 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - Should I remain a friend to my ex, or should I leave him alone? BACKGROUND: My ex-boyfriend and I dated for three years in university then broke up. Before we split up we never fought. We are both down-to-earth and had only dated one...

Why does he he feel guilty?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4350 days ago

28 January 2013 (F) - My boyfriend is separated and has been having a hard time getting his ex to give him all of his things. He received a text last night from her saying he could go get his stuff. He said he would be back in a little while but before he left he said," ...

This ex is stuck in my head and I'm afraid it's going to ruin my new relationship!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4351 days ago

28 January 2013 (F) - I am in such a mess. I was with a guy for a year and we had a great relationship then things came to an abrupt end, he was moving away with work and we mutually agreed it wouldn't work because of the distance. We agreed to remain friends but he said ...

How can I stop hoping my ex will get back to me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4351 days ago

28 January 2013 (M) - I met the girl of my dreams last summer. We hit it off quickly and it wasn't long before we changed our status on facebook to 'in a relationship'. We live in different towns, but would meet up a couple of times a week. Then we stayed at each other's ...

Are you unable to express yourself around your spouse?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4350 days ago

28 January 2013 (F) - I moved to a rural town from a large city to be with my fiance. Sorry, this is sort of a long read. Whenever I talk about my past--this is general talk or reflection between two people as couples do and I am showing a couple of examples here, b...

Is my G/f still in love with her ex? Why is she keeping their sexual photos and is she just using me for the life I can provide for her ?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4351 days ago

28 January 2013 (M) - Hi there, I just need some advice I've been with my girlfriend now for nearly 3 years n it's really good, we're both in our early 40,s Before me she was with someone just for sex she said but she got attached to him but he left and lived hundre...

Ever since my boyfriend confided that he and his ex engaged in anal sex, I've had difficulty being intimate with him

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4349 days ago

28 January 2013 (F) - I have been dating the most amazing man for four months. Everything was wonderful until two weeks ago when he confided that he and his ex engaged in anal sex. Since then, I've had difficulty being intimate with him. I think anal sex is disgustin...

My boyfriend got his ex pregnant. How can I live with this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4352 days ago

28 January 2013 (F) - I have boyfriend dat we have 5year inrelationship ilove him very much n i knw he realy love me too ,idnt knw hw to trust him again n forgving him after finding out that he impregnant one of his ex-gf dat they date 6year ago ,he said it was mistake ...

Backed away while he's healing; worried he won't want to try again when he's better

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4351 days ago

27 January 2013 (F) - I was dating someone for just under 3 months then he developed depression from witnessing a traumatic event. I also identified in the short time of dating he can be paranoid and i suspected trust issues undealt with. He had a girlfriend in past ...

Ran into my ex, now what?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4351 days ago

27 January 2013 (F) - I ran into my Ex at the gym. We both smiled and waved, then he came over and talked to me. I didn't expect that. We tried to be friends and I just found it too hard and eventually I told him I couldn't have him in my life becuase it was too hard ...

Is it a bad idea to apologize to an ex girlfriend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4352 days ago

27 January 2013 (M) - Hey,i am debating contacting a ex girlfriend just to apologise for my behaviour. My concern tho is i don't want her to think I'm trying become friends with her again or re enter her life,that is not my goal,only apologising.no hidden motives. ...

My wife's continous chatting with x husband is killing me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4349 days ago

27 January 2013 (M) - My wife of one year ( my second and her third marriage ) continues to communcicate with her x husband whom she left. He has not moved on and still loves her and seems to me to be controlling with narisistic behavior via email,skype etc. She responds ...

On off ex boyfriend won't stop contacting me even when I've told him to stop. There's another woman in the picture. What's he playing at?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4348 days ago

27 January 2013 (F) - i was in a relationship with this guy. at first things were okay.. then we started having fights because of various reasons. i had also been talking to my ex - just talking btw... could that have also messed the situation up? ( because he kinda ...

Husband texting ex and making comments about me that are leaving me feeling very insecure

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4352 days ago

27 January 2013 (F) - I heard my now husband tell a friend of his that I was not much to look at but I make him happy. It killed me inside. I asked him about and basically said I took it out of context and has since made me feel like a beautiful princess and we have ...

He didn't tell me I was his stop gap live in lover!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4352 days ago

27 January 2013 (F) - We lived together for about 7 months. He had an old friend. He slept with her once, if he's not lying, and she got pregnant. Then she left to her country which is Russia. He's divorced 33 year old guy and he always wanted a baby but didnt grt one in ...

Ex boyfriend called after 4 years! Do I phone him back?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4350 days ago

26 January 2013 (F) - Today i received a missed call from my ex boyfriend. I haven't seen him since end of 2008! When we were together, i did lend him money (one of the things i regret the most and never do that now!) and i have never got it back. I'm confused why he ...

I want my ex back, he wants to be friends

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4353 days ago

26 January 2013 (F) - My boyfriend dumped me last night and it was only the day before he was lookin at houses with me and saying he thought we were heading for a full relationship . A little bit of history behind us is that we met last year and I was ready with my ex of ...

My boyfriend wants to know if he can go to a party where his ex will be. What do I say?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4353 days ago

25 January 2013 (F) - My bf met up with his ex behind my back 2 years ago. He lied about it but the truth eventually came out. Not only that he'd saved semi naked (recent) photos on his computer from her facebook. We had a massive argument and had a break but I ...

I can't seem to come to terms with the fact that the relationship has been over for 2 years

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4351 days ago

25 January 2013 (F) - hi, I'm 22 yrs old. i was in a relationship 2 years back which lasted for 9 months and was my first ever and ended because the guy started to like someone else and broke up to date the other girl. its been 2 years and i havent moved on. the guy brok...

I confronted my husband about flirting with girls and now he has turned cold on me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4354 days ago

25 January 2013 (F) - How can I improve my relationship with my husband?I found out that he was flirting with girls that he termed as just friends,I confronted him,but todate he has completely changed.He treats me coldly,doesnt show any affection,is never interested in ...

Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4337 days ago

24 January 2013 (M) - Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...

I experimented with my male friend, but decided to go back to females. Why is he so upset?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4346 days ago

24 January 2013 (?) - I’m a young man and I’ve trouble with a friend. I’m very outgoing person, I like to try new things and everything new. My friend is gay and although I’m straight, I thought that I’m living only once and decided I want to try something with another ...

I feel threatened by my emotionally abusive ex. What can I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

24 January 2013 (F) - Hi all, I broke up with an emotionally abusive ex half a year ago. On top of that, he owed me a few hundred dollars. The breakup was not pleasant. He threatened to commit suicide if I wouldn't get back with him. He has also left voice messages...

How can I get through this bitter breakup? I don't know how to cope.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4354 days ago

24 January 2013 (F) - I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years and things are disturbingly bitter, so much so that I don't know how to get over this whole experience. I had to break it off, I didn't trust him at all and I felt taken for granted. We are currentl...

If she would go behind his back, she would mine too, Correct? Or should I wait for her to choose me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4355 days ago

24 January 2013 (M) - This is a messed up one. I finally found my soulmate. She has a child. We were together for a year. She hated her child's daddy. We have been apart for 4 months now. She has started texting me, wanting me to come see her. Here is the exciting stu...

Did I mean nothing to him the whole 7 months we were dating? He broke up with me because of his ex

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 January 2013 (F) - 5 weeks ago my boyfriend dumped me because he said he still has feelings for his ex girlfriend that he was with for 3.5 years. They broke up about 1 year ago. He was really honest about it, he cried too and said it will be hard for him letting me ...

My ex keeps texting me wanting an explanation for why I broke up with him

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 January 2013 (F) - My ex boyfriend and I broke up October last year, but it was a long drawn out process of being off and on since April. He cheated on me back then and I still loved him but couldn't trust him, realised I needed some space. Eventually when we done ...

How can I get rid of my boyfriend's lying trouble making ex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 January 2013 (F) - My boyfriends ex lied about being pregnant and the baby being his as she cheated on him on 5 occasions with a friend of his. (Some people even disbelieve she was even pregnant as she was drinking and smoking the night after she apparently had blood ...

Is it normal to still feel some pain whenever I see photos of her and her ex together?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 January 2013 (M) - Hello, I have a girlfriend and she has an ex. During our time of being together, I have already gotten over her relationship with her ex. Now here's my question: Is it normal to still feel some pain whenever I see photos of her and her ex toget...

My ex-boyfriend is moving away and I'm heartbroken because I still love him. Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 January 2013 (F) - My ex-boyfriend and I broke up 1.5 months ago and we weren't really in much contact. However, we decided to meet up and today he told me that he is going to be moving back home in a month, which is halfway across the country. I was already ...

How to break completely free of an ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4357 days ago

23 January 2013 (F) - I am really lost and confused. I have dated this guy for 1.5 years( 4 years ago!) We broke up because I gave him an ultimatum. We have talked maybe a total of 5 times after that. We were both dating other people and he sent me messages. (Small ...

The ex factor

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4351 days ago

22 January 2013 (F) - ex has been talking to me for almost a year now. He is now married. I only talk to him when he's working. He's retiring soon. I won't be able to call him because i won't know his schedule and he gives this to me so I know when to call him. What ...

I wish I didn't have feelings for him

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

22 January 2013 (F) - I need help. What do you think is the best solution for two people who can't let go of one another, yet what drove them apart in the first place is a fundamental issue of principle. Neither one of us has been able to move along with our lives for ...

My girlfriend had me charged for a crime when she was the one who has been abusive

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

22 January 2013 (M) - My life is in such a mess! I was with my girlfriend for about two years. Anyway, after a few months I caught her cheating. But I took her back. Then I caught her cheating again and I took her back. She then started to raise her hands to me abou...

My niece is sleeping with my ex boyfriend. Should I confront her?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4357 days ago

22 January 2013 (F) - I was involved with a guy for a period of time. I left him because of his womanising ways. Since then my niece saw it fit to contact him and send him dirty pictures of herself to him and he send to her. My niece knew he and I were involved. I ...

The EX factor is over-shadowing our relationship. She'll always be in our lives so how do I cope better with her?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

22 January 2013 (F) - I’m currently in a relationship with the most wonderful guy and have been for 10 months now... Everything is near enough perfect, except one thing, his EX girlfriend. My partner has a daughter of 2 years with his EX girlfriend, and she ...

Should my husband go to the funeral of his ex girlfriend's father?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4357 days ago

21 January 2013 (F) - My husband's x-girlfriend's father passed away. They have two children together. She tried to trap him into marriage.. Didn't work. She has also tried to cause many problems between us.. She hates me.. Should he attend her father's funeral? I ...

He says he still has his ex on his mind, but only when we fight! What does this mean?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4357 days ago

21 January 2013 (F) - Hi, What do you do if your boyfriend of 6 months is saying he still has ex in his mind? If he is still in love with her then why does he give me headgames, why mess with me at all? He has showed jealousy, when other men check me out etc. Is he ...

Nightmares are preventing me from moving forward

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4358 days ago

21 January 2013 (F) - I broke up with an ex over 3 months ago now, but I keep having vivid nightmares about it. I wake up regularly in a cold sweat and can't get back to sleep.I am now actually glad that turd of a relationship is over and I just want to move on and ...

Is it a bad idea for ex couples to live together?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4358 days ago

21 January 2013 (F) - Hi readers! I hope you can help me today. I came out of a three year relationship about three months ago, I was cheated on and lied to on multiple occasions throughout this and during this time also had my privacy taken away from me. As a result it ...

He cant call me a friend, I'm his 'thingy' and all his friends say he loves me...but we've not dated for over 2 years!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4358 days ago

21 January 2013 (F) - Um, I think I might need some assistance regarding a 'relationship, or lack there of. There's this guy, let's just call him 'A'. He is my ex boyfriend (though I don't even consider him that, as we only dated for a month) and one of my best ...

My friend and I are getting closer, but with our shared history it's complicated. Where is this going?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

21 January 2013 (F) - before i start, i just want to say that there is a long history behind this story. Almost a decade to be precise. I met S when I was in high school and we became quite good friends very quickly. I had a bit of a crush on him but he was in a relati...

Broke up with my GF because I still have feelings for my ex, but she has a BF. How can I move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4357 days ago

21 January 2013 (M) - I had been with my ex girlfriend, R, for about 2 and a half years. I always thought that I was actually happy, but near the end of our relationship I realized that I was mostly in denial. When I found out that the girl that I had been with before ...