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writes:My boyfriends ex lied about being pregnant and the baby being his as she cheated on him on 5 occasions with a friend of his. (Some people even disbelieve she was even pregnant as she was drinking and smoking the night after she apparently had blood tests which 'proved' that she was pregnant) she then apparently had an abortion. A mutual friend offered to go with her but she declined. My boyfriend was away for work at the time and had no idea. Apparently there were complications and now she'll never be able to carry to full term. Again my boyfriend had no idea, but the guy she cheated with did and helped her through the whole thing. Then she met someone I happen to be friends with and started going out with him. Later I met my boyfriend and we started going out. She did not like this and made a huge deal of it and split with my friend saying she can't get over my boyfriend and he's the love of her life and him and I will never last. A year on I'm still with him getting a small house together and are happy and she is still spreading lies. Apparently now he beat her up, forced her to get an abortion because he was seeing me yet this was long before I met him. Apparently she started going out with my friend because he was going out with me yet the day we went official we went for dinner with friend where she and my friend were also with us together. She's now accusing my friend of "forcing" himself on her which is ridiculous. She's tried to tell me that my boyfriend is lying to me and the proof is on his phone though messages. He has no lock on his phone and when we first started seeing each other he showed me it all. Including all the messages where she was begging for him to take her back when him and I were publicly together. Not only this a lot of their friends were there through the whole mess and they all know different stories to the ones I've been told by her and others. I suppose she can't lie to people who were actually there. How do I get rid of her? My boyfriend made it clear her actions are unacceptable and he wants her to stay out of our lives yet she's still here trying to be friends with all his friends as she moved to our town after he and I started being together and she has no other friends here. Help!! How can I put a stop to all this? I'm sick of watching the man I love have to justify himself to strangers and get hurt repeatedly
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reader, Tezz88 +, writes (23 January 2013):
Tezz88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't have contact with the ex any more. We were friendly, or I thought we were when my boyfriend and I first started dating as she was friends with his and wasn't going anywhere then I was told all these things which is why I use the word apparently a lot. No one told my boyfriend I had to tell him what was being said and that's when he told his ex that the lies need to stop and that she needs to stay out of our lives. I'd also like to point out that we'd been together a year when all this came out.
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reader, Tezz88 +, writes (23 January 2013):
Tezz88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's exactly what we or he did, as i said in the question... We're completely ignoring her yet another story pops up every week.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (23 January 2013):
 There's 'way too much drama here..... I can imagine just ONE way to handle it...
Show this submittal to your current B/F and ask him: "So, hunky-punky,.... are you - or are you NOT - the guy who knocked up this drama queen? Are you - or are you not - committed to be MY B/F? IF you really want to be MY B/F... then exorcise this sorry b**ch from your (and mine!) lives.... and let's go on together. IF you consent or concur with ANY contact with this B**ch in the future, then that future does not, and will not, include me...."
Let him respond to that... and you will know where you (and he) stand...... and you can plan your future based upon that.....
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2013): First off, sorry you have to deal with this. It sounds like a lot of drama that can seriously squash your romance.Your boyfriend needs to handle this. As the new girlfriend, you really shouldn't have to have any contact with his Ex. I know that sounds difficult, but you need a chance to create a future with him. Her time with him is over!Because you never dealt with her, it is your boyfriend who must put a stop to this and put his foot down with her. You can't control what she says. If you believe your boyfriend, then it really shouldn't matter what others say. I'm a firm believer that you shouldn't know all the details of your ex's past because it brings up problems like what you're going through. Don't worry about what he did with her- you must go off of how he treats YOU. Good luck!
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