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writes:I ran into my Ex at the gym. We both smiled and waved, then he came over and talked to me. I didn't expect that. We tried to be friends and I just found it too hard and eventually I told him I couldn't have him in my life becuase it was too hard for me. It's now been over 1 month since I told him that. I still think of his all the time and there is a small part of me that wishes we could give it another try. He is a nice guy, so was he just being nice by coming over to talk to me? Or is there a part of him that missed having me around this past month? I know it's silly to ask online, and he's probably the only person to answer that question. Should I just wait until I see him at the gym next time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2013): I think time has passed and you are now calm so if you want him back it might be the right time to approach him again and show the old/new you. I would go back to the gym and bump into him or hang around other places that you know he frequents. He was friendly to you in the first place which is a good sign so the door is not closed. I think enough time has gone by to be able to talk to him and show that you have dealt with the problems you had and are now back to being a super confident independent woman. Engineer a meet and take it from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question It was too hard for me to be his friend when he was complaining about being single to me. He is the one who broke up with me. The reason it was so hard for me is becuase I still want to give it another try.
I was having a really rough time at work ( for months) when we broke up. I wasn't sure how to handle my difficulties at work, and in turn he wasn't able to handle me being upset all the time becuase of work. I have since taken some time off, seen a therapist and got a new job. I am myself again. The girl he liked when we first me.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (27 January 2013):
 It is hard for him to be in your life, therefore you have to banish him from your mind also. It doesn't matter anymore why he walked up to you. You have already made up your mind that he is out of your life.
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