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writes:Hey,i am debating contacting a ex girlfriend just to apologise for my behaviour.My concern tho is i don't want her to think I'm trying become friends with her again or re enter her life,that is not my goal,only apologising.no hidden motives.i never see her in person (haven't bumped into her in about a year)so will have to do it by email,also she has a boyfriend so i don't want to intrude or cause any grief for her.i didn't do nothing that bad (no cheating,etc) i was just young and set in my way.anyway advice on wether i should apologise or just forget about it?thanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2013): Hey! i didn't realized that my advice will make you think twice. i just said that cuz i really think its too late to apologize. though its a nice gesture. But you know what i am 100% sure whatever happened to the two of you, she might have forgotten how hurt it used to feel. If she's truly happy by now, She must have forgiven you silently.If your path cross again, that would be a nice chance to say what you want to say. But hey, its still up to you. I guess what i say makes sense to you too. Good luck and God Bless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@highmaintainance101 i don't "just suddenly want to" I've been thinking about it for ages,and know i don't still want her,i have just had certain realisations in the last few months about life and my sense of wrong and right is extreme these days,moral dilemmas.
i literally just want her to know that i know realise that i was out of order etc,literally just that.
but i do agree with the bit about "the girl will confuse"
that is what has stopped me.
i don't want her to think i want to re connect in anyway shape or form because i don't.
and out of respect for her and her current partner i think out of respect i should keep away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2013): I think it's a good idea and shows a lot of guts. Just explain to her exactly what you have said here - you have no motives for your apology but you have matured a lot since then and you regret the way you treated her. I'm sure she'll appreciate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your response.i just dont know how to go about it,i dont want to send the wrong signals.hmmmm
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 January 2013):
 It is not a bad idea. I've had an ex who strung me along. I imagine if he apologized to me without the intention of getting back into my pants, I would accept the apology and be happy for him. I think it would help me stop holding grudges for him. My memories with him would not just be bitter ones. I will remember him as someone who could hold his actions responsible and want to become a better person. It will also make me have faith that people have interests in self improvement.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2013): Its been a year. You have a lot of thinking to do why after a year you suddenly want to apologize. that's weird. to be honest. since she's happy now. i say don't bother. its not necessary. Its over so, no need to apologize. Unless, you still want her. if you dont then why are you wasting your time thinking if you have the need to apologize after a year not speaking to her? and why you bother to ask people's opinion? you still care for her.Which is good.You survived a year without apologizing to her, you can still go on another year without doing it, for all you know she have silently forgiven whatever you have done to her. Sometimes you dont even need to say sorry, even if you dont say sorry, some people just automatically forgives. Just go on with your life, leave her alone. 'cuz the girl will be confuse. whether you like it or not that's how it is.She might end up hating you more. Just my own opinion.
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