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Archived questions from: September, 2013 (see latest in Sex category)

Sex: Help and advice

New to sex and finding it uncomfortable. Any advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4061 days ago

30 September 2013 (M) - Sup everyone. So I lost my virginity a few days ago with this girl I'm in a LTR with. We ended up having sex twice that night, and once more yesterday. The thing is I'm having issues/weird feelings while having sex. This might get graphic but this ...

Did Karma use me for sex because I tried to use her for sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4061 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - Is Karma with merit? I ask this because what I did to another person seems to be happening to me now. I'm bisexual and I was trying to use a nice woman for sex but it never panned out. She found out what I was really about as far as only wanting to ...

Why can't he cum during oral sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4061 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - During oral sex my boyfriend gets himself close to cumming and his breathing changes and all these normal things but he can't!! I'm pretty sure it's not me because he has no problem with handjobs and when he's in the shower he can't. In pretty sure ...

How much should I dress up or make up for my FWB?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4062 days ago

29 September 2013 (F) - Hello aunts and uncles. I have a fwb with this guy who I really fancy! He knows How much I fancy him, but we both know it will not become anything more. I'm just wondering how much effort should I or shouldn't I be putting in into our sexy time? I...

Vibrators - are they all penetrative?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4062 days ago

29 September 2013 (M) - Hi, We've discussed vibrators and wanted to know if vibrators have to be inserted? my wife always has clitoral orgasms and is not comfortable with anything being inserted into her. Having a brief look, it looks like they need to be penetrative w...

Does he really take Viagra just to masturbate?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4060 days ago

29 September 2013 (F) - I have been in Married 15 years. I love him very much. However, I found two times he took Viagra with him when he is a way for a long trip. First time I found he took about 2 pill, this time was half of the bill. Both times, I talked to him. I asked ...

She's unhappy about it. Is it wrong to be in a casual relationship with a guy who has an open relationship with his Gf?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - Is it wrong of me to be continuing a casual relationship with a guy who is in an open relationship with another girl, and the girl is beginning to be unhappy about it? It's nothing serious between us (though it is ongoing, around once or twice a ...

Feeling confused and upset. Was the unsuccessful sex, with my housemate and friend, his fault, my fault, the alcohol, or none of that, and why?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - I'm 19 years old, my housemate (male) is the same age. I've never really been attracted to him really, he's always been "just a friend" Anyhow, we got REALLY drunk a few nights ago and ended up chatting until gone 4am when we went to his room. He...

What's the difference between "real sex" and soft, vanilla-porn?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4062 days ago

28 September 2013 (M) - I have yet to be in a relationship or, as pathetic as it is to admit, have sex (mostly because - and it's not a low self-esteem thing - I'm unattractive; women aren't interested in me, never have and it seems like never will; I get it, and I'm okay ...

How to overcome the lack of sex in our marriage?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

28 September 2013 (M) - My spouse are both in our seventies and I still get the urge for sex, but because of her medical problems she's afraid to even try to have sex. She won't even let me touch her. We've been married for fifty years, it wouldn't make sense for me to ...

What advice should I give my friend about dating/sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

28 September 2013 (M) - Here goes nothing. I have a friend of my mine who is a girl that disclosed some stuff to me. We are close friends. Basically she "dated" this guy for about 3 weeks. I put in quotes because until the 3rd week - they really didn't go on full blown ...

How can I not be tight after having sex just once?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - Hi guys! I wanna ask some advice from u. I have a first boyfriend now at my 28yrs of age. He's been my bf for a week. Then he was assigned to my area and s0mething happened to us. It is my first time to have sex in my entire life. I wanna ask why is ...

How do I cope with my girlfriend when she's immature and aggressive?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

27 September 2013 (M) - my girlfriend is 18 in a few months and im 20 were at the same college and our classes are close as she does photography and i do graphic design. anyway lately i asked her at college to help me do some photography and she said yes but when we ...

How Can I Help Him Help Me Cum?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

27 September 2013 (F) - I've never came before. I've been having sex since turning 17 4 years ago and not one of my ex' that I had sex with made me cum, nor has my current boyfriend. I find receiving oral (in a way) very ticklish and feel like I can't take anymore but...

The night we met she went out had sex with her ex afterwards!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4062 days ago

27 September 2013 (M) - Advice needed please! I met this girl a couple of months ago on a night out with friends, we hit it off straight away, swapped numbers and had a really good time that night. We started dating soon after and are going steady now. Everything h...

How does a tongue piercing make sex better?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

27 September 2013 (M) - Can some one please explain this to me.I keep hearing girls say tongue piercings makes you give better oral.how does it make it better?...

A conversation about a friend led to resentment of my wife's different treatment of me and her ex lovers.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

26 September 2013 (M) - aqwsasThe other night at supper I was telling my wife of 32 years about a young lady at work. This woman was telling a story about a friend of hers who worked three jobs and when he came home from work his wife turned their three kids over to him ...

Boyfriend has become obsessed over his penis size and its ruining our sex lives!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - My partner has a real issue with the size of his penis to the point of obsession. I'm not innocent in this but I feel helpless as to how to sort it out, move on and heal our relationship if possible. We've been together 7 years and he's always ...

Why can't he have sex properly?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4065 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - hi i was with a guy for few years then he cheated on me. he was away few years ive just recently started to talk to him. he came over to my place we tried having sex things were ok but he cant seem to have sex properly. why? does anyone know the ...

Really want to do oral but can't

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2737 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - Hi aunts and uncles! Thank you in advance for all the help. I'm 19 years old and i'm in a very serious relationship with a guy 6 years my senior. We've been together for just over a year now. My problem is i'm afraid of letting him go own on me ...

I'm not sure I can get into the dirty talk!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4065 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - I am in a new relationship and one of the things that my guy likes is rough sex. I can handle rough sex, but he also likes dirty talk like saying words like whore. I'm not sure if I can get into it. I'm trying to be positive about it since I have ...

My boyfriend says I don't have enough experience

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4066 days ago

25 September 2013 (F) - My boyfriend told me last night that he is concerned that I don't have enough sexual experience for him to get more serious about our relationship. He is concerned that since I have only been in one other serious relationship that I cant be ready ...

It feels like he blames me for finding out about this child with an ex of his!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

24 September 2013 (F) - I've been married for almost 17-years. When we started dating (first year) we had sex almost everyday. After 5-months into our relationship, we were informed that my husband could be a dad from a former girlfriend (she had four boyfriends at the ...

Did I lose out by not dating or having sex?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

24 September 2013 (M) - I am 27 years old virgin boy from India currently I live in Melbourne.In my Home country it is pretty common(no sex before marriage). I feel that I lost a big part of my life with out sex or relationships.Remaining virgin even after20 or 25 is ...

I worry that men think I'm only good for sex

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

24 September 2013 (?) - Even though I have had relationships in the past, lately I think sometimes that I am only good for sex and I guess it's because of the guys I meet. I am attractive and whenever I talk to them they just see my body and not my personality so I...

I don't want to think I'm damaged but how do I get over a bad relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4066 days ago

24 September 2013 (F) - I left a very abusive relationship a couple of months ago, and in class I've met a wonderful law student who is helping me with all the legal issues involving my ex. He has been very kind and supportive and always encourages me to keep pursuing ...

How do I bring it up in a conversation to ask if he's married?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4065 days ago

23 September 2013 (F) - On Saturday, I went to a club and danced with a guy. Since I was there with my friends, I didn't want to come back with him but I gave him my number and told him to meet me after. He said he needed to take his buddy back so it was perfect. Long...

I found out husband is taking viagra. Is he lying to me about the reason?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2200 days ago

23 September 2013 (F) - my husband is way. I found he took some Viagra with him. I asked him why did he need it? He said he need it when he feel like to have a sex and he will do it by himself with out any partner? I don't believe him.To you, it is a case? And do you think ...

Any tips on coping with body issues/insecurity?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

23 September 2013 (F) - Any tips on coping with body issues/insecurity? In a couple months, I will be seeing a man I haven't seen in almost 20 years. We have been chatting a lot online, and I'm pretty sure his visit will be a romantic one. I'm anxious because I'm n...

Why do I break condoms?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

23 September 2013 (M) - Why is it that I break condoms regularly. It happens about 20% of the time which is very often considering I'm very sexually active. It's very concerning to me as usual hookups that are supposed to be pleasurable end up in paranoia and fear of ...

I feel like my wife settled with me and its really bothering me!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3765 days ago

23 September 2013 (M) - Ok here is my story. I met my wife 14 years ago. She was 19 and i was 28. I met her through a friend. She had a daughter and i had 2 daughters from previous relstionships. The first time I met her I asked her what she thought of me and she said I ...

I fantasize about my man with other woman and it turns me on but then I feel jealous?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

23 September 2013 (F) - I sometimes when I'm alone I play with myself thinking of my man having sex with another women yet I'm a real jealous person! at the moment I'm turned on and bring it up and am really turned on then after I get hurt mad jealous! Why?...

Contraception -- condoms and what else?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

22 September 2013 (F) - When having sex should i use one or two forms of contraception just to be on the safe side?? I know i should ask him to use a condom but what other contraception should i use???...

I am not lubricated enough and my boyfriend couldn't care less.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

22 September 2013 (F) - hii..i have a problem with my boyfriends way of having sex with me the first day we could engage in foreplay first then then when am ready we get into the exact thing..just after that only one encounter he has turned to just wearing a condom and ...

My boyfriend only calls me to spend the night then pretends he's busy for work the day after.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

22 September 2013 (F) - hii am a totally confused lady..i have dated my boyfriend for two months now heading three.and i like him alot hs everything av ever wanted in a man but the problem is i think either he is seing another person or he is just using me for sex...he ...

My body issues are holding me back from losing my virginity.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

22 September 2013 (M) - Hi all, I'm in a bit of a difficult spot. I want to lose my virginity with my girlfriend but I also have intimacy issues (I am embarrassed about the way my chest looks) which is making this hard. She has mentioned making love before, but I so...

I want to lose my virginity but neither have a good place for it.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

21 September 2013 (F) - I am about 17 years old and i have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. I feel like i am ready to have sex with him but i haven't discussed it with him. I feel scared that if he says no that things will become uncomfortable between us and ...

My experience with the first girl made me cold towards relationships.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

21 September 2013 (M) - I have a pretty odd problem ATM lol I feel as though I'm incapable of getting 'feelings' for people. Maybe a fear of commitment if you will. Sooo, I've slept with 12 people in my life, I'd say 3 of them were people that I'd of been interest...

Why do guys like to do this in sex?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

21 September 2013 (F) - I am in a relationship with a guy for 6 months now. When we make love I am very satisfied however he enjoys masturbating onto my face or into my mouth. I just don't get it. Why do guys think this is so great?...

We plan to wait for sex until marriage. He still tries it on me but get pouty if I don't let him.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

21 September 2013 (F) - I'm 23yrs old while my boyfriend is 28yrs we've dating getting to 4yrs now and everything is moving fine we both love eachother so much and we've not have sex because we both agreed that sex should be when we get married but the last time i pay him ...

What does it mean when a girl needs a cigarette after sex.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

20 September 2013 (M) - What does it mean if a girl said right after sex: "after this I definitely need a cigarette". We met last week and had sex for the 1st time last night. Does it mean she enjoyed it? The issue is that she hasn't called or responded to my text. Tha...

How can we shake things up in the bedroom without him getting offended?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4071 days ago

20 September 2013 (F) - Me and my partner are engaged and we have a 3 month old daughter together. We are best friends and generally very happy but I'm just not getting as hot for him in the bedroom as I used too. It's taking me an hour to climax and he can't get me wet at ...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4072 days ago

19 September 2013 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for a 2 minths now and we had sex for the first time last weekend, (I lost my virginity to him, he has slept with girls before) and a few days later we got onto the subject of different places to have sex, he mentioned a ...

Did I overreact, or is she too cold for me?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4071 days ago

19 September 2013 (M) - I have been seeing this chick for 2 months now and the relationship so far has been very boring relationship. She really doesn't communicate. We had sex a week after we met up and it was great. Then we had sex 1 more time but it's always me ...

I've gotten involved with my friend and he loves me but I don't want a relationship!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

19 September 2013 (F) - I recently left a physically abusive relationship, so I am not dating until I get myself together. In the meantime I did have sex with one of my closest friends, it felt absolutely right and I came which my ex boyfriend rarely made me cum (I...

Would a penis pump work?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4065 days ago

19 September 2013 (M) - I've thought of getting a penis pump. I'm not big, between 4.5 and 5.5 and not very thick either. I wanted to know if i use a penis pump and pump it up say just a half inch bigger everyday over a long period of time would it grow to say 6.5/7 and ...

Do any penis enlargement creams/pills work?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4072 days ago

19 September 2013 (M) - are there any penis enlargement pills,cream,etc that actually work?...

I don't like giving oral sex because of precum

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4071 days ago

19 September 2013 (F) - okay well i have been dating my boyfriend for a year now and 3 months and he asked me to give him a BJ. i have tried before but i just seem to get discusted each time because of the precum that goes in my mouth. is there any solution to solve this i ...

Can an affair with a married man ever end happily for the other woman?

This question has 52 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

18 September 2013 (?) - Hello everyone. Before I begin, I realize I am opening myself up to a firestorm of very harsh judgment, name calling and comments from Dear Cupid's advice givers and readers. Please do not judge me. We all walk different paths in life and make...

I'm interested in a guy, and he likes me, but he had a one night stand with my friend!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4073 days ago

18 September 2013 (F) - Hi all, would really appreciate some advice. Around three/four months ago my relationship of three and a half years started to break down. Its slowly been starting to die for the last year but I guess we didn't want to face it. Therefore when t...