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writes:I am in a relationship with a guy for 6 months now. When we make love I am very satisfied however he enjoys masturbating onto my face or into my mouth. I just don't get it. Why do guys think this is so great? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2013): Ahh, I am pretty sure it came from porn. I had plenty of boyfriends and just sexual encounters, and only one of them during oral was trying to finish in my mouth, and I didn't let that happened, and told him to not ever do that again, becausei don't like it. He should ve at least asked. . I think it should be mutual first of all agreement on things like that.For me it's absolutely gross, but people do in bed grosser stuff than that. I don't like ruff sex at all, and once left in a middle of the night from hotel room, because a guy would just not listen and kept on going with all kind of crazy things and asking me to do different things I don't like doing. And then after all called me very inexperienced and not adventurous. Don't let anyone tell ou what to do in bed, unless ou like it. Don't do anything you don't like, and find yourself a partner who will be on one wave with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2013): Hi. I am the OP. Thank you all for your feedback. I should have written a bit more in my original post so here it is now. I stated that I just don't get it in regards to my boyfriend masturbating on my face or in my mouth however I do allow it to happen and never told him no. Some of you are correct in that it is a domination thing. I know I enjoy being very submissive sexually. I enjoy being "taken" and being used as a sex toy. I guess I do not mind him cumming on my face however I think that laying with my mouth wide open so he can use it as a target is a bit stupid on his part. I would think that he would be more satisfied if I gave him a blow job instead.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 September 2013):
 Eh, you add whatever meaning to it that you want. Plenty of guys like a finger up their butt, but if it came out in public everyone would say it means they're gay.
Same goes for this being degrading to women. It's only degrading if the parties involved find it degrading. And a finger up your butt is only gay if you're already gay.
It is up to YOU to find out if you like this or not, I hope you don't suddenly get pissed at your boyfriend because of what people online feel about it.
And semen being disgusting? I had no idea some men had such a bad relationship with their own body. It's just natural, not disgusting.
Btw, my boyfriend likes to dominate in bed, doesn't mean he likes to come on my face (he's only ever done it per my request). The two are really not that closely linked... The coming on someones face is purely a porn thing. I've been dominated before (cuffs, blindfolds, spanking, role play, collar, outfits, you name it) but there was never any spraying in the face... Just saying... Domination is about controlling the other person, not about what body part you spray your body fluids on. If the OP's boyfriend was interesting in showing domination in bed I'm pretty sure he'd have shown it through other ways than this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2013): I don't think many guys do that. In fact some of the antiques they do in porn is downright nauseating to most of us guys.Yes he is influenced by porn and he needs to grow out of it.
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reader, Pr3tty_in_pink86  +, writes (21 September 2013):
I think it's like marking the teritory or something. Yes like people are saying the porn addicts are a fan of that, they like to make real life like the porn they are watching, grim :( I don't know many women who like facials, it's giving out the wrong message to men in those films.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 September 2013):
 Do you remember how that guy in the audience, in Baghdad, threw his shoe at Prez Geo W Bush, a few years back? THAT is how - in the Muslim world - a person can express his great disdain at another person.....
What you described your guy doing is - in this world - a means by which he can best express his utter disrespect for the girl who is putting out for him (you!).....
Maybe you can find a nicer guy, next time...
Good luck....
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reader, chigirl +, writes (21 September 2013):
I never had a boyfriend who liked/wanted to try this. So my guess is your boyfriend has been watching a lot of porn. This is what they do in porn. And people in general like to try out the things they've seen others do. Same with me, I've seen this in porn/read about it (as for many girls, erotic novels are much more of a turn on than porn). So that's why I wanted to try it, but it didn't really do the trick for anyone.
Except my boyfriend likes to come on my body if he can't come inside me/in my mouth. I guess that's understandable as it's about the intimacy, and not having the ending just the same as if he was masturbating by himself.
Personally, I'd like for my man to come on my face more often, because semen does wonders to keep wrinkles at bay. But as talking about wrinkles isn't a turn on it's hard to bring up... Hehe, so I say just be happy your guy thinks it's hot and does it without you having to ask.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2013): Cerberus is correct about why some guys like it but not for others. Sometimes its about feeling completely totally accepted, sexually. As a girl are completely participating in this "dirty" part of us that we grew up feeling at least kind of ashamed about. Cumming feels like "losing control" of ourselves sexually and you are so eager to be a part of it that you will let it happen right up near your face. I have never felt any big urges to cum on a girl's face. But it would be nice to know that if I did she wouldn't mind, or possibly even get a kick out of it. Partly because it seems naughty (for her not to mind it, not only just for me to do it) and naughty can be really sexy sometimes. As for cumming in a girl's mouth. It feels great during a BJ. But just jacking myself off onto her tongue does not seem like anything to get excited about. That kind of thing is only fun for me if she is participating and having fun too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2013): You can butter my boobs but not my face. And yes guys see this done in porn.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (21 September 2013):
It may be popularized by porn, but guys wouldn't be interested in it if there wasn't a basic attraction to the idea. Hence why Cerberus' answer is right, although I don't know if I'd equate it with spitting in someone's face. But it's definitely a form of ownership and dominance, and let's face it, the majority of guys have a fantasy of being dominant in bed, and the majority of women have a fantasy of being dominated.
Although getting a load shot in their face isn't probably to most women's liking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2013): Because it means we own you, have enough power over you that you let us degrade you to the point of letting us spray some pretty disgusting bodily fluids all over your face.
Domination through degradation. Some guys find that hot. It's no different than spitting on a person's face.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 September 2013):
 It's from porn for the guy to dominate and/or degrade the woman.
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reader, Aunty Babbit +, writes (21 September 2013):
 Men are visual creatures sexually and many of them enjoy doing this because they find it a stimulating thing to watch.
CaringGuy is right though, it doesn't matter what the sexual activity is, if you don't like it you shouldn't do it.
The other Aunts and Uncles are right, it's a common theme in porn films so is erotic to some guys to act it out.
I say some, not all.
Hope this helps AB x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 September 2013):
I don't like doing this, and I'm sure there are others who don't either. But the two posters are correct below. This is from porn. If you don't like it, you don't have to put up with it.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (21 September 2013):
 Some guys are used to masturbating to porn. A lot of videos end with a guy using his hand while the girl waits. It is the visual effect. He can see better than when the bodies get in the way. The swallowing is a sign of submission. Also it lowers the risk of pregnancy.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 September 2013):
 Porn.
It's that simple. In porn this is a common theme.
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