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female
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30-35,
*ulliepeter
writes:hii..i have a problem with my boyfriends way of having sex with me the first day we could engage in foreplay first then then when am ready we get into the exact thing..just after that only one encounter he has turned to just wearing a condom and just stating to do it he doesnt even touch or kiss me and ts so painful am always dry it hurts the whole time i dont know how to tell him even when am sleeping sometimea i just hear someone trying to spread my legs and ha already started...why does he do this i actually dont remember the last time he touched me or even kissed me..please help
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reader, misLadYd..  +, writes (22 September 2013):
 Sex without ur consent like all the others are sayin is RAPe.. And he doesn't care about u at all if all he does is wear a condom and put it in without even waitin to check if u are wet enough, without kissing you or touching u, those are signs that he is disgusted by you and doesn't want you but your vagina only. Leave this jerk for the sake of your happiness
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2013): What country are you from? I attribute much of his behavior to what may be condoned by your culture. He seems accustomed to just taking what he wants with no regard to your consent.
You have a man who uses you simply for your body and doesn't care about your feelings, or offering your foreplay. He seems to prefer to simply take it from you.
Telling a woman she's with the wrong guy is often useless advice; so many believe they can change him. They use "love" as an excuse to remain in a bad situation.
I can only say this is how he prefers it. Hurting you and submission under force. What can we tell you? It's your body and you have to make the decision of remaining with him.
Talking to him isn't going to change anything. I think that's why you wrote the post.
Cultures that don't respect women, and don't acknowledge the rights of women; give men a feeling of superiority. That's the problem you're dealing with. It's up to you to find your way out of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2013):
In my book if you do not consent to sexually intercourse then the sleepy sex which can be enjoyable if done right .. With what you described is rape.. He is taking it without permission ..
Have a serious chat and tell him either he puts effort in or as pink says ' it's him and his hand tonight ' and you will need to revaluate this relationship .
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (22 September 2013):
 Then STOP having sex with him, you are not his personal blow up doll.
Are you two living together? If not, don't let him stay over.
And to me having sex with you when you are sleeping is borderline rape.
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