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Archived questions from: October, 2013 (see latest in Friends category)

Friends: Help and advice

He needs time to think about it? What can I do? I am left wondering and waiting if he's planning to break up with me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4029 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - I am hoping that my boyfriend and i eventually make-up. At the moment he is really angry with me because of something i should have not said to him in the heat of an argument. I have sent him 3 apologies, via texting. After i asked him if he wante...

An Angry Boyfriend? What to do with him when he is like this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4029 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - I feel like lately things have escalated way out of control. So the other day he and I decided to see each other for a couple of hours before he starts work. While I was waiting for him to arrive, we spoke on the phone and got into a small disagr...

What do I do with a dog a friend has never picked up or looked after?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4030 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - Hi all, I have found myself in a very difficult situation. I quite like dogs but I'm by no means an experienced dog owner and certainly wouldn't have chosen one as a forever pet but in the summer (June) I heard that a friend-of-a-frie...

Should I talk about this when I meet up with an old friend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4029 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - Should I talk about this when I meet up with an old friend? I'm meeting a friend this weekend, who I haven't seen for a few years. I want to talk about everything that has been going on recently, such as when I went on holiday for the weekend to v...

My friend is self-centered, but I live with her

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - I am in my last year in college and living with 3 other students. One is a great roommate, the other is a friend from high school and her friend. The only one I have any trouble with is my friend from high school. In high school, we were very clo...

Should I just let him go? He doesn't like me as I like him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4030 days ago

30 October 2013 (?) - Hi everyone.. I promise ill try to keep this short but I just tend to vent a lot and I apologize..But I live in new york and from brooklyn..and had to go to a town two hours away from where I live because I had to attend this modeling thing.....

What am I doing wrong in my friendships?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4031 days ago

30 October 2013 (F) - Need advice about friendships.. I'm going to try not to sound too much like a victim here, just bear in mind i've fallen in a heap and am feeling a bit sorry for myself.. For as long as i can remember i've had difficulties with friendships an...

I messed with her emotions and crushed her heart. Do I deserve her friendship again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4031 days ago

30 October 2013 (F) - Hi. I'm bisexual and some time ago I was seeing a woman during a rough point in my life. I was going through a divorce and simultaneously trying to detach from an emotional affair I was having with my male boss. The woman I was seeing had no idea I ...

Co worker goes from friend to just a co worker?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4031 days ago

29 October 2013 (F) - Hi. I work at a school and it pays ok for now. Well I am engaged and there is a male coworker who is married with a baby. We hit it off and became friends at work, so I thought. We both talked a lot during work and texts about games work etc not ...

Should I visit my old workplace again and try again? Or should I forget her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4032 days ago

29 October 2013 (M) - I was working at a company for about 8 months. There was a girl there who came from where I am originally from. When I started working there we had a long chat and she said she would love to talk more and really enjoyed it, but needed to get back...

He keeps flaking out on plans

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4032 days ago

28 October 2013 (F) - Hi, There is a guy on my university degree who for the past year has been showing interest. We have never spoke in person (just hey, you alright?) We have different friendship groups and were both abit shy around each other. We speak on fac...

Am I allowed to have these thoughts towards a friend? The "what if" might have happened?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4032 days ago

28 October 2013 (F) - ok so there's this friend of mine, lets call him *dave, who i get on with famously. but friday night he had far too much to drink and ended up making a pass at me. now thankfully he didn't force me or anything but he didn't exactly stop pre...

Should I walk away from my jealous and possessive male friend? I have a boyfriend and haven't dared tell the friend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4033 days ago

28 October 2013 (F) - Hi, basically I am a girl and I have this guy friend, and he told me he liked me in that way, but I don't so I let him down gently and we continued to be friends. Then my current bf came on the scene, and if truth be told I still haven't told my ...

I don't want to let go of my ex ... what do his recent actions mean?!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4031 days ago

28 October 2013 (F) - I fell for a guy just over a year ago and we got together, we were together for a couple of months and everyday he would message me 24/7 and I would message him back, we'd talk until all hours of the morning until one of us fell asleep. It was ...

Do abusers ever leave you alone?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4033 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - I recently just got out of an abusive relationship. My family and friends are fully aware of it and absolutely support my decision and want nothing to do with this man themselves. It has been a few weeks since the break up. I have him blocked on ...

Am I turning into an old lady by not wanting clubbing every weekend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4034 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - I am in my early twenties, and I don't like hanging out with my friends at clubs. But this is all they do: as soon as weekend comes, it's a club time. I don't mind going there few times a year, but not that often. Then we stay up late, my next day ...

His actions say one thing, his words another!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4033 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - Last night I went to a bar with my 2 girl friends, they invited the guys they're talking to and the guy I'm talking to as well along with other friends. The guy I'm talking to was being really shy and strange because he was with his "boys" I'm not ...

Boyfriend has a problem with me catching up with a male friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4019 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - I met my bf on an online dating website ( you can look for partners or friendship). We've beem together For 5 yrs. About 8 months before i chatted to a guy on there and we met. I wasnt interested but he was a bit but knew nothing would happen e...

I have feelings for my best female friend and don't know how to act!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4035 days ago

27 October 2013 (M) - So I've started having feelings for my best girl friend. We've known each other for about 4 months but we've gotten really close as friends. She's friendly with me like she kisses me on the cheek in public and jokes around with me. Everytime I ...

My friend always brings her boyfriend to girls night out and it's annoying!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4034 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - My three best friends and I have been a group since high school. Now that we're seniors in college, we're busy but we still organize bi-monthly hangouts. I attend the same school as one of my friends whom I see more often. She is the one I see most ...

Should I write him a letter to explain how I feel?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4020 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - Is what I'm about to do a terrible idea? I want to write a guy a love letter of sorts. He's a good friend of mine I met last year, and although we hardly actually see each other, I talk to him on facebook and he always responds enthusiastically. He ...

Guys are the last thing on my mind just now, so why won't my friends listen?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4035 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - My friends are always trying to set me up with guys and my best friend especially. She's started seeing some lad and is trying to get me to go on a date with his friend. I understand their intentions are good and everything but it's so infuriating ...

Male friend has changed behaviour since we hooked up. What's his problem?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4035 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - Ok so I have a friend who is quite flirty and anyway we hooked up once a couple weeks but we don't like each other or anything. So anyway we used to talk like all the time but all of a sudden he just stopped replying to my messages and starts ...

Did I offend her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4035 days ago

25 October 2013 (M) - Did I offend her? I'm originally from Pakistan and studying at a university in London. There I befriended a Lebanese girl. We became really good friends. We hung out and did all kinds of stuff together. She usually interacted with other girls and ...

Want to become friends, but I don't want to come across as creepy

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4036 days ago

25 October 2013 (F) - There's this girl who I graduated from hs last year who I'm following on twitter. We barely talked in hs but she seems really cool and nice and I would like to be friends. I've been feeling really lonely since I started college and haven't really ...

I get self conscious that they joke that they don't want me there, what do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4035 days ago

25 October 2013 (F) - I've always had trouble making friends because im quite shy, i only really have two friends, one is in a relationship so is always off with her boyfriend and the other girl is really popular and literally everybody likes her because she actually ...

Friendship with women is no problem, but relationships are another matter

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4023 days ago

25 October 2013 (M) - Why I get along well with my female friends for years but not in relationship? Why the same spark in relationship ends quickly and negative things get bigger and bigger? Why I talk to my female friends for hours and hours on Internet, phone and in ...

How do I explain my time off?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4036 days ago

24 October 2013 (M) - So I decided to take this year off due to complete exhaustion and stress. I've been in school for several years now, and I needed a break. I haven't told any of my friends yet, because in my past experience they have asked nosy questions. I di...

Ex is telling embarrassing personal details!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

24 October 2013 (F) - My ex from 5 years started telling people about 2 years ago some very personal information of mine. Why he is doing this I don't know but I am horrified to the point where I can't stop thinking about it. We have had no contact now for years and I ...

We have a great friendship that I'm afraid to mess up by asking her out

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4038 days ago

23 October 2013 (M) - hey guys, this isnt the first time ive been here, so i hope to keep gettig good advice so, here 's the problem (im a sophmore now, and this story spans the last two ywars, so sorry for length.) Back when i was in eigth grade, i had asked a girl out...

We work together and my ex is trying to remain friends. I don't need the drama!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4034 days ago

23 October 2013 (F) - So my ex-gf has been trying to maintain a friendly contact with me. I have ignored her for the most part because I told her I do not do the friend thing with exes. We work together so it has been hard, and although I have maintained a professional ...

I love him, but seem much more affectionate than he is. What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

22 October 2013 (F) - I'm a very affectionate, outgoing person. I like texting people saying goodmorning and goodnight, asking people how their day is, wishing them well. I do it to close family members and my boyfriend. Because of my job, I work and live several hours ...

I have a crush on best friend's hot roommate!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

22 October 2013 (M) - My buddy recently got a new roommate, who just happens to be a really sexy, intelligent, funny girl, who does awesome shit like make pancakes and watches all my favorite movies. It's very hard not to be attracted to her. He went out and left us ...

Red flag or not? He has an inordinate number of 20-30 yo beautiful girls as friends on FB

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4029 days ago

22 October 2013 (F) - Is this a red flag or nothing at all? I found a college friend on Facebook. He's 57 and I'm 52. Looks as if by his profile he's a nice normal guy. Loves animals. Not a million pictures of himself. Nor a million 'friends'. Posts insight...

I think my married friend that I work with is attracted to me and I don't feel the same way!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

22 October 2013 (F) - I have a friend whom Ive known for about three years. He is 35 I am 45. We are also now work colleagues although I only work at the same place one day per week. He introduced me there by asking his boss to let me cover for him whilst he was posted ...

Do I ask my friend out now that she's told me she's a lesbian too?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4031 days ago

22 October 2013 (F) - I need some advice on what to do. My friend has recently told me shes a lesbian, I am too and she told me she already knew that. I could not tell if she had been flirting with me for the past few months, my chances are better now I know she is a ...

Should I trust my friend's judgement and possibly skip some heartache?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4040 days ago

22 October 2013 (F) - So basically I like this guy at my college who's into music and stuff,but I've been way too nervous to talk to him. I told a friend of mine (who he happens to hang out with)that I liked him, and I joked that she should give him a hint that someone ...

My friendships are fading and I can't stop it!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4038 days ago

21 October 2013 (M) - I have trouble making and keeping friends. I used to not care but lately it has been on my mind a lot. My only best friends are my girlfriend and her best friend. I have hung out with co workers and I have a great time. It's more of a group thing...

Rejection

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4013 days ago

21 October 2013 (M) - I just commented on a post by a guy who had a long history of rejection. The post tickled my memory all the way back to Junior High School (12 years of age). I was rejected a lot. I've got to say that out of the 15 or so girls in my class 10 ...

I love men, but don't at the same time. Can anyone help with these feelings I feel?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4040 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - I dont know if im a lesbian or not. Or bisexual. I'm totally lost. I like a man right now, but he treats me so crappy. I have been with women before as a teenager, and dated them, even cried over one. But I thought it was for sure a phase and...

Do you think he's found out about my hook-up? I don't want to text him because I don't want to annoy him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - I went on a date with this guy and It went well, his definitely my type. We've texted each other and are always flirty and he said we definitely have to hangout again. However there was a party I went to and one thing lead to another I hooked u...

What kind of costumes or looks would you recommend? Because the manager's demands seem unreasonable.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - I'm a restaurant server and our manager just sent out a ridiculous memo. We have to wear costumes for the week of Halloween or we do not get our tips. I feel this is unethical and illegal. I also learned that if we order through the catalog ...

How do I organize a nice evening at home?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4040 days ago

21 October 2013 (M) - Hi, I have met 2 females whose company I really enjoy. One, we have agrees to remain friends and have started sharing many secrets with eachother, the other I am very interested in. Now both have started coming over my house to hang out but both...

I hate her for leaving me but giving everyone else a second chance. Is this wrong?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4041 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - During my freshman year of high school, my best friend left me in December. She never gave a reason, and was suddenly out of my life. It was tragic, but I wasn't alone. I had my sister, my best friend (who goes to another school), and my mother. B...

How do you deal with being the only single person in your group of friends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4041 days ago

20 October 2013 (M) - All of my friends are coupled up. How do you not let it get you down when you're in that situation. I'm also the only one in my group of friends who's never done anything with a girl which makes it worse....

Then I met this guy.. He is a friend. But am I being led up the garden path here?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4041 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - I'm hoping some lovely aunts/uncles can advise me / voice your opinions and tell me if I'm being an idiot. I came out of an emotionally and slightly physical relationship at the start of the year, it was pretty horrendous and took me a while to...

Was the feeling I was being disrespected real or imagined? Was backing out of the arrangements the right action?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4040 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - Thanks in advance to the great people who offer help here.I had made a standing commitment to spend time with a friend this evening and called this morning to confirm.She said that was fine but she would also call another friend to join us. I was ...

She has recently broken up with her BF. She is a co-worker. Should I ask her out on a date?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4041 days ago

19 October 2013 (M) - Kind of a weird one here. I work with this girl who I have liked for a while, 5 months ago we got drunk and kissed at a party and it didn't go so well in terms of trying to develop a relationship. I came across too serious and dramatic. So we didn't...

Why would he flirt but never ask me out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4042 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - Was wondering if someone could possibly give me some insight as to why a man would constantly flirt with someone but, never ask them out. A particular man in question works with me but, on a higher level than I do. I have worked at the same plac...

Am I overreacting? My boyfriend wants to add his boss' girlfriend on facebook.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4042 days ago

18 October 2013 (F) - I need some advice so I don't turn this into an argument between my bf and I. We've been together for 3 years. We're both in our early 30's. We don't live together but do spend weekends together and any days during the week if we can find time ...