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writes:Is what I'm about to do a terrible idea? I want to write a guy a love letter of sorts. He's a good friend of mine I met last year, and although we hardly actually see each other, I talk to him on facebook and he always responds enthusiastically. He rarely starts the conversation though. So I think he might not feel the same. He's leaving to go study far next year and I might never see him again, so I wanted to write him something telling him how special he has been to me. I won't pressurize him to answer or expect anything in return, only tell him how I feel. He is so sweet and kind, I feel he won't judge me. Is it a terrible idea? Will I regret it? How much emotion should I filter in the letter and how honest can I be? How long is too long? He's a romantic but has been pretty messed by girls in the past, so how he react? How do guys react to such things? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really appreciate all the answers, thanks guys. After thinking quite hard about it again I've decided I will write it to him. It will be my last chance with him anyway, so I think I have nothing to lose. The things I'm going to say there I feel he HAS to hear, because he really has been an amazing guy to me and needs to know it. Thanks CMMP+ for pointing the fact that it might scare him away out. I hadn't thought of that and I'll be mindful of it while writing it. If I mess this up, then okay. I'll try move on while he's away.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (27 October 2013):
 i think it's a great idea! i mean, you said you may never see him again, so why not? and you also said he's mature, so you think he will be able to handle it properly if the feelings aren't mutual.
you only live once, and sitting in silence and never telling someone you love/care for them and never knowing seems like such a waste!
i wouldn't expect the feelings to be mutual, though, to be honest, because you say you always start the conversations. however, you never really know. so i say go for it! what does it hurt?
as for how much emotion you should put in; as much as feels right to you! don't filter yourself! as for how long? once again, whatever just flows naturally. just sit down and let whatever comes from your heart flow out of you. there's no set limit on page length lol. just say what you feel. i don't think you'll regret it. it's never a mistake to express how you feel.
good luck.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (26 October 2013):
What would be the point? "Hey, I have a huge crush on you but I'll probably never see you again. Bye!"
My opinion is that there needs to be a reason. I'm also not a big fan of revealing your feelings unless your sure they're mutual, as it can often scare the other person away.
Telling someone who doesn't like you that you really like them won't magically make them like you. But if you ask them out and give them a chance to develop feelings THEN you can say something. At that point it'll be better recieved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2013): Horrible idea.. Indeed.
Tell him that you would miss him a lot..and you hope to see him again.. Make sure that it should be your last words to him.. Before he leaves...
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