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writes:During my freshman year of high school, my best friend left me in December. She never gave a reason, and was suddenly out of my life. It was tragic, but I wasn't alone. I had my sister, my best friend (who goes to another school), and my mother. By the end of my freshman year, I had become close with one of my friends from middle school. Over the summer and into sophomore year, we became inseperable. Throughout the year, we hung out almost every weekend, and I felt like her family was my second home. However, in December of our freshman year, she got injured when dancing, and broke her foot. She had severe nerve damage, and still has it to this day. Throughout sophomore year, she missed an awfully large amount of school, and it was a surprise when she showed up for two days out of the week. My sister and I were so generous to her, and always brought her food and drinks and homework that she needed after school. We would go to her house and hang out and try to make her feel better after laying in bed all day crying and sick. We couldn't have been better friends to her, and she was one of the only people I could tell anything to. In mid May, she flew up to Ohio to go to a clinic for rehab on her foot. She happened to be coming home the day of my birthday, and to nobody's surprise, I was very upset. Of course I wanted to see my best friend on my birthday! (Especially when I had spent her birthday with her and her family at Disney World.) She made sure I got my present, and I was okay with not being with her. She didn't go to school the next day, and I texted her hoping that we could hang out on the next day, Saturday.She never replied, and then at around 10 at night she texted me acting as if I had never texted her earlier. The next day, I made plans with my other best friend (the one who goes to another school) and the whole time I was worried about my other friend because she hadn't talked to me all day and I hoped she wasn't having a bad day with her foot and all. To my surprise, I learned that she was hanging out with this other girl who I never really approved of. I was impulsive, and I texted her when I got home yelling at her for not trying to be with me after not seeing me on my birthday. She told me rude things, and I told her rude things back. The next day, I sent her this whole, long apology and all she said was "Thank you." She never forgave me. We texted a couple of times, and I hadn't seen her for a month and then school ended. (She didn't go to school after having gone to rehab because her foot wouldn't allow it.)She stopped replying to my texts one day, and we didn't talk the entire summer. I was so upset and cried daily.Now I'm in my junior year of high school. My sister's gone away at college, and I feel so alone. I don't miss my best friend, I hate her for leaving me but giving everyone else a second chance. Is it wrong for me to feel this way? I gave her so much just to be left like this. I feel so confused, because everyone I care about always leaves. Do you know if this is normal? Do you know if people will always treat me this way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2013): I side with you. I too would have been hurt and infuriated had a so-called best friend conducted herself with me as your best friend conducted herself with you. Sure, you said ugly things but so too did she. Yet, unlike with you, she didn't apologize for her ill tongue with you. The only advice I am capable of giving you is that which I do myself....F*CK HER! STAMP HER DEAD!!!!!!...AND NEVER...I REPEAT NEVER...NEVER...EVER acknowledge her irrelevant existance again. That's how I roll.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2013): To my surprise, I learned that she was hanging out with this other girl who I never really approved of.
Wow. And you actually wonder why she doesn't want to be your friend anymore? I don't like control-freaks who think they own me either. I don't blame her one bit
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reader, CMMP +, writes (21 October 2013):
Is this normal? Almost everything is normal.
Will everyone treat you like this? Everyone is different, so no.
The lesson you need to learn is that your actions have consequences and everyone reacts to things differently. Your friend obviously took the way you lashed out on her very hard and decided she didn't need you as a friend. I've never had someone I call a friend insult me before, I'd probably take it as a sign to find a new friend as well.
Some people would be more forgiving. You never really know, so it's best to avoid treating your friends poorly when they do things that bother you.
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