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writes:I've always had trouble making friends because im quite shy, i only really have two friends, one is in a relationship so is always off with her boyfriend and the other girl is really popular and literally everybody likes her because she actually such a lovely confident person, but the thing is i spend my lunches with her and we kind of formed a group with two guys and another girl but it's kind of awkward because ive hooked up with both the guys yet dont really know them and the other girl so sometimes i feel like they don't really want me there, especially since although there nice to me they sometimes joke that they don't want me there and i get stuff conscience that there not joking what do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2013): When you say "hooked up with", I don't know if you mean sexually (or even just making out/messing around), or if you mean "hung out with/talked to outside of lunches". I would get paranoid too, but even if they're just kidding, it sounds like a mean joke (not something a lovely person would do). There's a total of five people, right? Guy1, Guy2, PopularGirl and TakenGirl. I hope I got that right. I have a feeling that if you told them you took those "we don't want you here" comments seriously, they would tell you they were joking - even if they weren't. Are they coupled off? Do they know each other and hang out without you? I hate to be mean, but maybe they consider it "their group" and feel like you're a hanger-on. I hope that's not the case! If it is, it doesn't sound like they're very nice people. If you have spent time with Guys1&2 and TakenGirl (or PopularGirl), maybe you are close enough to say, "Hey it's not funny to joke around that you don't want me. It makes me feel uncomfortable." Either they'll cut it out or else they'll tell you outright that they don't want to. If that's the case, they're very immature and need to be forgotten. Good luck making friends that are actually friends, it sounds like you're surrounded by asshats.
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