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anonymous
writes:I was working at a company for about 8 months. There was a girl there who came from where I am originally from. When I started working there we had a long chat and she said she would love to talk more and really enjoyed it, but needed to get back to work. We worked in completely different areas.Over time we chatted a little bit here and there. I did almost all initiating of chats, she always seemed to be waiting for me to begin, making me never sure if I should go for more. Once in the canteen I was missing a spoon and she really went out of her way to bring me one. Then, about 4 weeks ago, I told her that I would be leaving as my contracting co are sending me somewhere else. She seemed to be seriously taken aback, saying she really enjoyed my company and how she will miss me. To me her face looked as if she could burst into tears any moment, but maybe I am wrong there. I said, "hopefully we would meet again".Then last week I was passing that old place of work and popped in to say hello. I went to the area where she is, thinking she would be excited or at least show interest in seeing me. But no, she was relatively cold, just hello and general things.Any idea what's going on in her mind? I know no one can really know. Just interested what you think. And do you think I should visit there again for another try, or forget about her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2013): Maybe the moment has passed. When you told her you were not going to be working there anymore and she looked disappointed that might have been the time to suggest keeping in touch and asking for her number. I take it you didn't. Now its going to be difficult to pick up the thread.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (29 October 2013):
 This one is very hard to tell, women are strange creatures after all.
She could be interested in you, or she could just feel you are a good friend, maybe that day when you went and saw her and said hello, she may of just had a hard day at work or was feeling ill or whatever.
I think if you are interested in her, then you should go for it, I think you should drop in and maybe ask to meet up outside of work and see what she thinks?
Don't call it a "date" just ask if she would be interested grabbing a coffee or something, then maybe if that goes well you could ask her out to dinner, and see how that goes.
After all what have you got to lose? I'd go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2013): To me, it seems that she might have an interest in you. Sometimes woman are afraid to start off a conversation, and most of the time men are the one of approaching first. If she stated that she will miss you, then it is because she will miss speaking to you and getting to know you in a sort of way. I would say for you to not give up on her just yet. It could of been that she was having a bad day, and it was bad timing for you to arrive, or it was a busy day and a lot of pressure going on. I would chat with her and ask for her number. Invite her for lunch, nothing serious just something casual and see how things go from there. A lot of the times we miss out on something great or something that can have potential due to assumptions or the way we see things but it can be completely different things.Try again, you have nothing to lose. Good luck!
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