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writes:Last night I went to a bar with my 2 girl friends, they invited the guys they're talking to and the guy I'm talking to as well along with other friends. The guy I'm talking to was being really shy and strange because he was with his "boys" I'm not really a big dancer so when he tried dancing with me it was only for a few minuets and I just wasn't into it. With that he goes across the bar and grabs some random girl to start dancing with. I got really bothered by it but continued to dance with his others friends in attempt to brush it off. When he was leaving he asked if I was coming with him, I did. On the way home he acted like nothing ever happened. I get that we're not dating and I shouldn't be upset but I'v been told my multiple people he always says how much he likes me and all that; Why do that then?! Time to move on right? Any advice is appreciated, thank you!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 October 2013):
 He acted as nothing happpened.. because nothing happened. You two are not dating, just " talking " . He gives you attention , wants to dance with you, - and you act off and standoffish. Rather than doubling his attentions and following you around like a puppy asking you " what's wrong ? " and creating a " situation ", he lets you be and tries to make the best of his night out, acting normal and tryng to still have fun. Since it was a GROUP outing, I don't think it was inappropriate for him to ask another girl to dance- once when he saw you acting cold to him. I don't think he was purposedly tryng to make you jealous, I think he was just keeping things light not to ruin everybody's mood.
It was a misunderstanding. Just tell him that you don't like dancing ( but you did dance with his other friends ?...) or, better yet, tell him that you don't enjoy big group outings - maybe that will give him a push to ask you out one on one...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2013): I don’t think he was trying to make you jealous. Instead, he probably felt awkward and uncomfortable in front of his friends when he picked you to dance with but you weren’t really into in it and didn’t put the effort on to have fun with him. On top of that to his friends it appears as if one person is trying to have fun but the other appears as if she (you) did not want to dance with him. Ouch. He tried to make the best of the night by having fun with friends (maybe he even enjoys dancing) and so he danced with his friends and another women.Interestingly, he asked YOU to ride home with him, not the other girl, right? Isn’t offering to take girl home after getting blown off on the dance floor earlier a sign that he is still interested in girl (you) and possible trying a second time?Lets recap. Boy tells multiple friends he likes girl. Boy asks girl to dance in front of friends at a non-date casual evening with friends. Boy asks if he can take girl home. Girl interprets that he is not interested and it’s time to dump his ass and move on. Hmmmm. Either I am missing some important information or something seems off here from what you told us. Would it hurt to perhaps meet up again with friends, a short coffee date or just connect over the phone when he clearly expressed interest in you and also to friends? Your call.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 October 2013):
 He had no idea (I'm guessing) that you aren't into dancing and maybe he felt like you rather not BE with him on the dancefloor (instead of that truth, which is you don't really like to dance). So he tried to make you jealous.
Why did you walk home with him?
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