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writes:I am in my early twenties, and I don't like hanging out with my friends at clubs. But this is all they do: as soon as weekend comes, it's a club time. I don't mind going there few times a year, but not that often. Then we stay up late, my next day is pretty much ruined, and all the guys that come there and talk to us are only after one thing: to get laid that night.I don't mind going to a bar, amd not every evening and be home by the latest at 1 am. But no one seems to want it. It's always clubs where everything starts at midnight. I am done with college, but now I work full time and also keep my old job where I worked since I was 16 at one of the family restaurants which I like very much. I work there 3 night and make good tip, plus my boss is a wonderfull man. I get tired though, my week is long, overall it's 55 working hours. I can handle its, but these every weekends night scenes are really started to be exhausting for me. Also, I am loosing interest in this kind of entertain ment. It's always the same scenarios. Guys come up to me , ask for phone number, trying to get me in bed the same night, and never call. So,it's not like I can meet someone there to date. My girlfriends telling me that I am acting like an old lady. If I stop going with them, I don't have any other friends. These are my friends from college. No one has a boyfriend, including me. But I don't think we can ever find a boyfriend in places where guys only come to find someone for the night. I am trying to break this pattern, and stop these every week drinking outings, but I don't have any other crowd to hang out with. Where can meet other people? And am I turning into an old lady by not wanting clubbing anymore?
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reader, brott  +, writes (28 October 2013):
 Yep, clubbing gets old... that doesn't mean you are.
If clubs don't do it for you, follow your passion. If you're not sure what that is, find it. Don't go someplace to meet guys... go someplace you want to be, because that's where you are most likely to meet someone who likes the same things.
If you find your passion, you will make new friends. Not friends to replace old ones, but just friends who will enrich your life. Maybe a romantic partner, maybe just a lifelong friend. It doesn't matter—you'll be doing what you love. Everything else will fall in line after that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2013): It's not uncommon at all, and most people grow out of the clubbing stage in their twenties. You just seem to have got there before your friends have. However for what it's worth I met my boyfriend in a nightclub and we've been together for 5 years now. So it can be done!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2013): I don't blame you for feeling this way!
I'm 23 and I kind of feel the same way...when I was younger I went out every weekend, but it gets old!
Try meetup to find others with similar interests to yours. You'd be surprised how much is out there!
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