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writes:I'm hoping some lovely aunts/uncles can advise me / voice your opinions and tell me if I'm being an idiot.I came out of an emotionally and slightly physical relationship at the start of the year, it was pretty horrendous and took me a while to deal with everything that had happened. I decided I was taking a while out from dating to get back to being me again. Then I met a guy.. We spoke every day for about a month and I agreed to meet him, there was something about him. We had a great time laughing and joking and met a further few times after this.. Still communicating with each other every day, until about a week and a half ago. And now.. Nothing. BUT he is being promoted at work and is going through his training/studying for that, so I txt him after 5 days of silence to check he was ok, felt he was a bit off In his reply - the silence annoyed me and I spent days panicking wondering had I offended him or what had I done for him to be so in to me. I had all this from the ex who just talked when he wanted and it turned out he was a cheat. It reminded me of the past and I text him just saying I felt he was a bit off I was worried id offended him etc and good luck in the new job. He phoned - I didn't answer. Followed by several texts apologising and saying he's studying hard and doing these classes for promotion and he's really sorry for being so crap lately. So I thought.. Ok fine and we spoke more. Now 1 week later.... No contact since. Am I being led up the garden path here? I haven't contacted him because I want to leave him in peace to get on with his studying etc but at the same time.. I'm thinking what's going on here? I'm feeling a bit silly for allowing myself to really like someone again after everything I've been through for him to just disappear on me lol I probably sound silly but I'm just totally confused. I've deleted his number because I thought it was pointless to keep it or am I completely over reacting? It's not like we are in a relationship so he doesn't need 2 answer 2 me but still... Just confused :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2013): I am the op. Thanks for your responses. I should add that he's been very forward in talking about meeting each other's friends family etc, saying things like "are u planning to get rid of me already haha" when I make reference to my plans for my future. Saying he can't wait to see me again and just generally talking about things between us as if it's going to happen if that makes sense. He said "I'll feel so much better when this course is done and these tests are out the way" which is in 2 weeks. Very confusing!! But I think I've done the right thing too.. But yea I do really like him
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 October 2013):
 I think you did the right thing.
I don't think HE on the other hand gets how he is affecting you. He sees it as a friendship and you (I think) want more.
He isn't a mind reader and unlike your ex, he isn't out to hurt you by not contacting you.
Still, if it makes YOU feel better to not have to worry about it, then cut him off.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 October 2013):
You've done the right thing. It sounds like he has other things going on in his life now, and it's pointless to bother with someone who suddenly disappears like this.
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