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Archived questions from: July, 2013 (see latest in Dating category)

Dating: Help and advice

My girlfriend and I are in love but I am a lesbian and she says she is bisexual and I wasn't her first choice. I don't know if we can fix this.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4135 days ago

31 July 2013 (F) - I am gay and my girlfriend says she is a bisexual - she says she ignored it for fear, don't accept it, even fell in love with her best friend once, but lied to herself -, but today we were talking about it, about her exes (all boys)and I said "I am ...

We broke up but when met up again and had sex. I'm confused about what he wants

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4136 days ago

31 July 2013 (F) - I dumped my ex about three weeks ago. Let me tell you why, he started saying he doesn't know how much longer we would be together because he doesn't like being chained down all the time. I took that as him saying he wants to see other people. I ...

My face is attractive but I'm quite flabby and I'm worried girls would be put off

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4136 days ago

31 July 2013 (M) - My question is the type usually asked by females, who are generally more unsecure about their bodies. Looking on the internet, it seems from the blogs discussing the male body part that females find attractive, it seems that the great majority o...

I lost my friend to a girl, now they're fighting. Are they likely to break up or patch things up? I want my friend back.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4136 days ago

31 July 2013 (M) - Basically I'm just asking when couples start having arguments to the point where they think about breaking up, does that mean they are likely yto break up or will putting wrong to right make them stronger than ever then make them work? I'm askin...

Is it normal that I've never felt any sort of spark when meeting someone or when in a relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4136 days ago

31 July 2013 (F) - Is it normal I've never feel any sort of spark when meeting someone or when in a relationship? I haven't had many serious relationships at all, recently I went on a date a few days ago with someone who seemed perfect for me on paper and who I've rea...

What did her text mean? Was it good? Or not so good?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4136 days ago

31 July 2013 (M) - Hello I,m a 52 year old man , and I,ve just been on a first date with a woman. we had lunch, and at the end of the date, I said can I text or call you and she said yes, but a few hours later, before I texted her to thank her ...

I want this to be the best date she's ever had! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4132 days ago

31 July 2013 (M) - So I'm currently on the cusp of something big with a girl I've had a crush on for years. We met when we were 8 and grew up together and all that cliche crap. Fast forward to me actually doing something about it because frankly, I was sick of her ...

I need some tips on making my first time more pleasurable so I can relax and seem more like I know what I'm doing

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4130 days ago

31 July 2013 (F) - I'm in a very committed relationship.Im at the point where I want to have sex but I'm nervous because I'm a virgin. I just want some tips on what I can do to make it more pleasurable since they say it hurts your first time. I just need some tips t...

Any and all advice on different things that would work for lovers with a height difference would be greatly appreciated.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4134 days ago

31 July 2013 (F) - Dear Aunts and Uncles, My boyfriend and I are high school sweethearts, we've been dating for over two years now and while we've gotten really physical, we haven't had sex yet, although we are ready to. We intend to soon - with protection, we are p...

I don't know if I could ever trust again and build the relationship up, which seems like double standards based on my past behavior.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4136 days ago

31 July 2013 (M) - I'm not quite sure where to start with all of this, so here goes; I've been in a relationship with my partner for 13 years now, and I love her very much, we have three young kids together. About four years ago I discovered that my partner had t...

My fiance and I are currently planning our wedding for December 2013 but I don't want his friends there.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4136 days ago

31 July 2013 (F) - My fiance and I are currently planning our wedding for Decenber 2013. The problem is I don't want his friends there. Please advise me on how to handle this. Six months ago (when we were already engaged), he was invited to a wedding without ...

Is she really busy as she says, or just keeping me on hold?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4123 days ago

31 July 2013 (M) - There's a girl I really like and know through my summer job. We talk quite a bit and I enjoy her company. We can be really honest with each other, she tells me about things how she felt a bit overwhelmed away at school or goings on in her life, etc. ...

Lessons Learned from having a fling with an unavailable/in denial man

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31 July 2013 (M) - As the title goes this is not a question, but some lessons I have learned after having a fling with an unavailable/in denial man. I love storytelling and so I am going down that road with this one. It is going to be long but insightful and in case ...

He is almost the perfect guy but he just wont text!

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4132 days ago

31 July 2013 (F) - i've been seeing this guy for 3 months now.everything was great. i know he likes me and he knows i like him. we went to several dates. he always holds my hand, hugs me when we are watching movies, always drops me off at my bus stop. in short to me ...

Can chemistry develop over time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4138 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - I am really in need of some advice. I recently came out of (8months ago) a 5 year on a off relationship with a man that I believe was a narcissist. I think I was somewhat mentally abused but not exactly certain, I am certain that the relationship ...

Do I stay with someone I am no longer in love with because its a safe option and convenient?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4138 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - Hi everyone, any advice given would be greatly appreciated. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and 7 months, we got together at the young age of 17. The relationship was obviously a teenage fling at first but now we've grown into our adult y...

Does my ex have feelings for me, or is he just messing with my head?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4138 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - So this question is about my ex. We dated about 2 years ago for a very short period of time. We went to the same school for 4 years and remained friends after dating. He didn't seem that into me and we were both young. We would still text and flir...

I feel jealous because this guy gets a girl who is a virgin even though he probably is not one.

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4138 days ago

30 July 2013 (M) - This question might sound childish but it has been on my mind for quite sometime. I was dating this girl for awhile and found out she is a virgin. Now that is not the problem because I am one too but about a month ago I found out she was actually ...

My boyfriend was looking at dozens of pics of his "ex" while sleeping in my room, in my parents house, after we got engaged!!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4135 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - My bf and I got engaged a few days ago. We have what I thought was a ‘perfect’ relationship, we’ve known each other for many years, started dating sometime back, we clicked, we were absolutely made for each other…or so I liked to think and from what ...

Was she hiding something, or trying to reassure me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4138 days ago

30 July 2013 (M) - My girlfriend gets a phone call from a guy while we were cuddling. They seem to know each other very well judging by their tone of their voice. Afterwards, she automatically and pro-actively explains to me who this guy was - they have known each ...

Vvirginity! why does it matter ..... or not!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4137 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - I'm reading a few of the questions on here and I'm super intrigued (and angry) about males' obsession with a girl being a virgin? Like really? Why does it matter? I would honestly rather not be a virgin (when I get married). But that's just ...

My bf of 3 years wants us to take a break as he thinks I'm too clingy.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4138 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years wants us to take a break as he thinks im too clingy. This all happened during our recent vacation. I wanted to spend time with him but he wants to hang around the bar which made us to fight. We made up during the trip ...

I've met a new guy who I like and I led him to believe I was divorced. I'm actually married and my husband is threatening to take my children away from me if I try to divorce him.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4138 days ago

29 July 2013 (F) - I met a guy recently that I am really into and he feels the same about me. This guy is long-distance and is divorced and has been for 9 years. When he asked me "are you married" I answered that I was for five years...kind of giving him the ...

My boyfriend flirts shamelessly with other women but freaks out if he sees me with another man. Why do men flirt when they are in a happy relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4139 days ago

29 July 2013 (F) - My boyfriend is 3 years older than me we've been together for 4 years and lived together for 3 years. He's very sweet and always compliment me and tell me I'm beautiful. His problem is that he likes to flirt and I know its harmless but its getting ...

I've been burned before and I'm worried it will happen again with this guy who lives in another country.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4139 days ago

29 July 2013 (F) - I met a guy a few months ago at a music event. He was the producer of the event, but I didn't know this until much later. I just saw him there and was immediately drawn to him. After the event was over I went up and introduced myself and had a chat ...

When do you tell a woman you have had a vasectomy?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4138 days ago

29 July 2013 (M) - If a man has had a vasectomy, when is he obligated to tell the woman he is dating or interested in dating? What I am wondering is, if one decided to disclose this immediately, how would one bring this up on a first date? "So, what are your i...

After two dates, he says he has no credit on his phone, do you think this is an excuse?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4139 days ago

29 July 2013 (F) - Hi ive been on 2 dates with a man we got on really well i was starting to like him i haven't spoken to him for over a week a pointless conversation we had last time we spoke we were supposed to have a 3rd date which hasn't happened he says he has no ...

My girlfriend got angry with me and wants to break up because I didn't accompany her in to Starbucks, I'm considering giving her what she wants

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4137 days ago

29 July 2013 (M) - Story: We have being dating for just 3 years. We are both each other's first gf and bf. I am 28. She's 27. We are both Asians. I went to my gf's place to pick her and her sister up to attend their parents' event about 1.5 hrs away. They wante...

Things used to be great but I'm seeing another side of him and I'm starting to feel like I can't trust him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4139 days ago

29 July 2013 (F) - I'm 23 years old, and have been in a relationship with my 23 year old boyfriend for 2 years. We don't live together. Things started off great in the beginning, but the honeymoon phase is over and I'm beginning to see the not-so-great side of him. A ...

I dreamt about kissing another man and now I feel guilty

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4139 days ago

29 July 2013 (F) - Hey everyone, I am in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 months now,and just last night both of us had a bad dream he was telling me his,and I was reluctant to tell mine,but he made me.. I dreamt that I made out with another guy(a guy we bot...

What is the problem with me dating two or three ladies at the same time?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4115 days ago

29 July 2013 (M) - I would like to know from fellow Cupid reader As a man is there any problem when I get married to two or three wife, what about dating two or three ladies is there any problem. Please help, I need to understand this better ...

I like this guy and would like to date him but he lives far away and I'm afraid I'll blow it

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4139 days ago

29 July 2013 (?) - I like this guy but he lives far away. He said that he would date me if he lived closer to me. I asked him if he would visit me and he said yes. He asked me the same and I said yes. We seem to both like music and we had a good conversation. He has ...

My boyfriend has a squirting fixation and makes me feel inadequate because I can't do it.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4137 days ago

29 July 2013 (F) - Sorry to be vulgar, but I am experiencing a bit of tension in my relationship because I am not meeting my partner's expectations. I am his first, and he has a "squirting" fixation... before we got together, he actually did not know it was poss...

My new girlfriend is very attractive and it makes me feel insecure

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4139 days ago

29 July 2013 (M) - Hi I'm a 24 year old guy seeing a girl of the same age. I fairly recently got out of a 3 year relationship which didn't work and am now seeing this new girl. This is going to sound like a strange issue but here goes... She is really good look...

How can I have a relationship when she is still in his life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4139 days ago

29 July 2013 (F) - Hello everyone. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I'm going through a situation and I'm trying to get some opinions. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 months now. My problem is that he's still friends with his ex, ...

What is nervous porn?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4138 days ago

29 July 2013 (F) - Hi I'm in a six month relationship with a great guywho I recently saw has masses of nervous porn deleted from his pc in his recycle bin. He's 45 and I'm just wondering what this is? I haven't restored these files. Im worried because I have a teen ...

Should I tell the guy I'm seeing that I slept with my ex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4139 days ago

28 July 2013 (?) - Hi, Dated a guy a few months back who left me for someone that he met on a business trip. However, he didnt just tell me straight out he made up some excuse that he didnt love me abd wanted to make sure he had found the right person before se...

My girlfriend has pictures of her ex in the apartment even though I have asked her more than once to take them down

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4139 days ago

28 July 2013 (M) - Ok so my girlfriend of 3 months got an apartment about just over a month ago and she put up pictures of her and her 2 year old daughter around her apartment and asked what I thought about them. I noticed a couple pics up in her room of her daughter ...

I told my girlfriend's friend she was hot, and now there is friction between them

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4139 days ago

28 July 2013 (M) - Dear cupid, Just eight days ago , I said to my girlfriend's close friend , in front of her, that "Oh my God, you are one hell of a hot girl." . Her friend just smiled whereas my girlfriend said "Enough" . Ever since that happened, my girlfrie...

Have I just been asked out or not?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4139 days ago

28 July 2013 (F) - Can anyone - preferably male - shed any light on how a man who is otherwise very confident will behave when he is supremely shy with women, and very very rarely takes interest in a woman in the sense of being attracted to her? I ask because I'm not ...

Do guys notice the signs that girls give off when flirting/trying to get the attention of complete strangers?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4140 days ago

28 July 2013 (M) - I have been looking at the flirting/giving signals of interest from girls to complete strangers. This is what I seemed to notice: they could probably happen anywhere, but these are where I was. At the big supermarkets, if a guy she is not inter...

How can I get talking to this guy I like or perhaps even ask him out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4135 days ago

28 July 2013 (?) - I have been trying to get healthier and since I am not dating and am retired I devote more time to myself. I don't go to the gym or anything but I have been a little upset because I have gained a little weight. Anyway, I went to a health food store ...

I like a guy from my karaoke club and he flirts with me but he comes in with another girl

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4124 days ago

28 July 2013 (?) - Usually about every Saturday I go to a club(karaoke) and I have some friends male and female. One guy there he is a really good singer and him and I have done some duets together. I have been told that I sing good as well. I know it might sound ...

My ex left me over a year ago and I'm no closer to moving on. Even though I've met others there is no space in my heart for them. How can I find peace again?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4134 days ago

28 July 2013 (M) - I need help in moving on, but I can’t get to the next stage. I was in a relationship with another guy for 7 years. It was fantastic or at least I thought so. We rarely argued and I thought it would last forever. Then unexpectedly he said he needed a ...

Do I believe the things he tells me when he's sober or when he's drunk?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4140 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - I have been talking to this guy for a while now. We were once best friends but we have decided to take our relationship a little further. (we're not officially together though). He likes to go drinking with his friends but he's not a heavy dri...

Update on alcoholic partner who can't choose between me and his ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4140 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - Mod's note: this is the original post http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-with-an-alcoholic-who-goes-back-and.html This is the person who has the alcoholic mate who goes back and forth between me and his ex. All the answers were very helpful...

My fiancé is still in touch with his ex and I'm concerned about his feelings for her

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4131 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - So I know snooping etc and everything is not a good thing and I guess I wouldn't normally but the opportunity arose as my other half left his email open and I couldn't help it......my fiance had dogs with his ex wife and as far I knew they still ...

I only want to date men, so why am I becoming addicted to lesbian porn?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4140 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - I have this problem I am 100% straight I know this because I date only guys and I am attracted to only guys, yeah everyone dreams of a model body and I am rather insecure sometimes. But my issue is I am worth lesbian porn quite alot recently and ...

My boyfriend was meeting his ex behind my back and I'm finding it very hard to trust him again

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4141 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - I really want to work things out with my boyfriend but I don't know if I can trust him. We've been together two years, we met when I was finishing with someone else and he waited almost a year to actually be with me, during which time he had plen...

My future in-laws refuse to help my fiancé but do everything for his irresponsible brother who has just got his new girlfriend pregnant

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4140 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - I have a situation...well maybe not really a situation of my own, but I feel it affects my fiance and I enough that I'm not sure how to respond to it. MY fiance's brother just found out his girlfriend of 2 1/2 months is pregnant. Neither has a de...