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writes:Hello everyone. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I'm going through a situation and I'm trying to get some opinions. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 months now. My problem is that he's still friends with his ex, and they continue to talk online every couple of days or so. (They both still play this online game they met each other on, and they talk on there.)They were together for 2 and a half years. He broke up with her 7 months ago when he found out she cheated on him. My boyfriend was completely in love with this girl like no other, he absolutely adored her and they were extremely close.Deep down inside I don't think he is completely over her. I'm not sure why he continues to be friends with her when she cheated on him and then left him for the other guy. He says he will always love her and she will always have a place in his heart but that he will never trust her again or want to be with her. I just don't know how to feel about this. Why does he continue to be friends with her, and do you think we can continue to have a relationship while she's still in his life?
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reader, malvern  +, writes (29 July 2013):
 He's being very unfair to you. I think you would be best to end the relationship. He cannot expect you to settle for second place in his affections. Finishing with him may just make him think about the effect his actions are having on you and he may come to his senses and realise what he's doing.
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reader, alien invasion +, writes (29 July 2013):
 this type of stuff really sucks and still even kind of confuses me. it sounds like he is probably not completely over her. for me, i feel like you can not truly love someone until you are completely over the last person you loved. and if he is still talking to her, it's probably because once having someone so close to you for such a long period of time, it's really really hard to completely wash every one of those memories and feelings away so you sometimes talk to that person. ya catch my drift?i went through something similar and it really bugged the shit out of me and hurt me a lot. but now, i feel like when i get into another relationship, it won't phase me because you have to be confident that the person you are with sees you as the #1 person in their life, regardless of who they talk to.
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