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writes:Ok so my girlfriend of 3 months got an apartment about just over a month ago and she put up pictures of her and her 2 year old daughter around her apartment and asked what I thought about them. I noticed a couple pics up in her room of her daughter and one of her ex's and he's not even the father of her child. I told her that bothered me having pics of her ex's up in her apartment and her excuse was she had then framed and didn't want to waste it. But it bothered me and she said she would take them down but she still hasn't and I've mentioned it again but she just brushed it off and said she would but I just seen them up there still. What should I say or do about that?
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (29 July 2013):
 So, it's just pictures of her, her daughter, and one of her ex? Are you sure there aren't pictures of her other friends around as well? Because if she's friends with her ex, then I don't think it's that big of deal. Especially if they were together for a very long time and managed to remain good friends.I'd suggest taking your own pictures with her, so that she has something else to put in the frame.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (29 July 2013):
Easy.... Do it for her. Tell her that since she's not going to do it, you'll save her the trouble. Then go and take the pictures out of the frame. If she raises a stink tell her you'll put one of you two in there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2013): It's been probably a few weeks since I first said something and a couple days since I last brought it up. I know she's being insensitive and disrespectful about it. It also bothers me that she's said she'd take it down multiple times and hasn't yet. No she doesn't have any pics up of her daughter and her dad. Thanks for the replies!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2013): Ask her once more to take down the pictures and don't bring it up again.
Here's a suggestion. Go have a few great pictures professionally made of yourself, and one framed. Then replace the old pictures of her ex with nice pictures of you. Let your pictures match the sizes of those of her ex.
You can also buy her a nice photo-album, where she can place her pictures.
Explain to her for the last time, that it hurts your feelings to see her hanging on to his old pictures. She can replace your pictures in those frames.
Please don't be a big baby about it.
It's one thing to be sentimental; but she's being insensitive.
Pictures of your ex, belong in a drawer or album with other old keepsakes. Not out glaring at your new girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, or wife.
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