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Dating: Help and advice

Even although I've had anal sex before and it didn't hurt, why did it hurt so badly this time?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5695 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - I've had anal sex before... quite a few times and all has been fine. Even my very first time didn't hurt at all. However... it's been a few months since and my boyfriend now wants to try it again.. so we try to.. but it hurts so much I'm in agony ...

Can I get past this and get my life together again? Please help me with your advice!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - Whoever can help me would be greatly appreciated. To start my story - my boyfriend and I have been together for 12 years, we have children together and I love him with all my heart. I just recently found out that he had an affair, it just crushed ...

Should I wonder if she is cheating again or should I trust her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

18 April 2009 (M) - My girlfriend went out on me with her ex for 1 month before we moved into our apartment. I recently found out she had been looking at his myspace profile. I asked her why and she said she just wanted to see how he was doing. Should I wonder if she ...

I want him to get a boner over me!!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - I finally go out with the boy I like, he asked me out but last night I went to see him and then we went about with his mates and they were like Drew she's the only one you haven't gotten a boner over and then he was like you don't know, you weren't ...

I don't get butterflies with my boyfriend... something's not quite right!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5485 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - This is driving me mad... please I need advice!! I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months, I was in love with his friend, before I met him and I was young at the time but that's all in the past. My boyfriend is loving caring, polite, thoughtf...

My boyfriend refuses to go down on me. Help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - my boyfriend wont go down on me! i am very clean and shaven down there, just how he likes, and i dont taste bad either. hes only given me oral sex 3 times in 2 months we've been together. its been about 3 weeks since the last time and when ive asked ...

I was sick, I said NO, and now I haven't heard from him for 4 days. Why do think that is?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is not calling me... Why?? I guess it started with a few days ago. I know this may seem long but please read..it's actually a quick read and i really need to know why?? He came over even though I told him I was sick and that it...

How could I trust her in the future now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (M) - I have been dating my 24 year old girlfriend for 2 years(I am 32). We had some minor issues over the last few months over us being a bit more serious(i.e moving in together) so we gave each other a little space however we still saw each other at l...

Am I over-reacting in my current (LDR) situation?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5692 days ago

18 April 2009 (M) - Well my question is if im overreacting in my current situation? I'm in a long distance relationship and at first my girlfriend didn't trust me much. She finally started to trust me but know i have doubts about her being fateful. Recently my girl...

Tell me what can I do to protect myself from this narcissist who thinks he can manipulate me, my time and my emotions.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - I have gone through emotional and severe psychological abuse from this guy who manipulates me with court orders and officers who mitigates me using other women, who abandoned me and uses every weapon to push me to the edge of anguish. He disappea...

I find it hard to make a single friend.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - Is the middle child ever wanted? Is the middle child just a hassle? I am a middle child and I live at home, I am 28 years old, my younger sister is 14 years and my brother is 34 years old. My dad listens to my 14 year old sister before he'd listen ...

I am confused, depressed, frustrated, devastated, sick of my life! What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - Hi everyone! I'm 15 but I got the problems of an old woman with 10 children. I wanna ask you for help to solve at least some of these problems. 1- I love a boy and we go to the same school but we never talked before and we don't know each ...

How can I get the motivation I require to lose weight and gain some confidence in my body?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - Hi. This isn't a love problem well not exactly. It's just I have no motivation! I have a baby of 9 months. After I gave birth I was actually slimmer than what I had been for a couple of years! But then I started piling on the pounds again, I want to ...

He still mourns for her, even although she's been dead 5 years now.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - I need advice. My boyfriend was divorced from his wife for 20 years when she committed suicide. She had been re-married to another man for 10 of those years. She's been dead for 5 years yet my boyfriend still cries about her death sometimes as if ...

Am I over thinking the age difference? I'm 41 she is 27

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

18 April 2009 (M) - I recently met a beautiful and wonderful woman who is 27. I am 41 and we met online have gone out the past few weeks. To give you an idea what this is about, I’ll give you the details: As I stated, I am 41. However, if you saw me your jaw would d...

I'm a little confused about my b/f's behavior. What's your take on this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - A little confused about my b/f's behavior. Been together 5 years, things going fairly well overall. But I've noticed lately when we go out with other couples to party on Friday night, my b/f is a dream; sweet, romantic, flirtaeous with me. But wh...

Ideas for token of how I miss her while I am away on holidays?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (M) - Hi There, I am going on holiday soon for two weeks and I'm going to miss my gf very much and she says she is gunna miss me. What can I do to make her feel that im thinking bout her whilst im gone. I was thinking of organising some flowers to ...

I think my younger g/f's best friend like her.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5676 days ago

18 April 2009 (M) - I'm a forty-seven year old male who's been married four times before and has five children (wih only two of the women). I am also currently dating a twenty-one year old woman. We've been together since last Christmas and yes, we have had sex. But ...

Why do I keep going back to guys I've had a relashionship with?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - I have this problem where I often go back to guys I've had a relashionship with. Theirs one guy in particular that already has a girlfriend but hooks up with me from time to time. I keep thinking I'm a whore or something...am I? I mean I like him,...

I keep craving attention and flirting all the time

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - Hi all! My problem is that i cant stop flirting with men. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years in a long distance relationship-i have always been faithful and would never cheat on him. Lately though i just want to keep flirting with other...

Do I love this narcissistic egotist?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - Hey. Well I'll start off by saying I've never been in love. I believe in it but I've never really liked anyone enough to think it is love. Now I've moved recently and I've met this guy. He's a narcissistic egotist. He annoys me so much and now we ...

Do I need to cut all contact with her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (M) - Hello people, we broke up 2 weeks ago and I cleared the message to her that it's over now... no hopes please...! We cared A LOT and can't think of letting go completely. Also she became very panicky about losing me so we we decided to remain ...

I am sick of his abuse!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - Oh gosh, I have this boyfriend who is now my fiance. I want to break up with him. I just don't love him any more and I am sick of his abuse. He mentally and emotionally abuses me. He swears me and calls me names all the time for nothing and tells me ...

I think I told him "I love you" too soon...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - I'm currently going out with a boy and we have been together for two months now, although we have been talking for about six months. I really like him now and I stupidly told him that I love him. He said it's a bit too soon to say that sort of ...

Does this Claire have a crush on my fiance or are they just friends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm in my first serious relationship (22 years old) with a man in his 30's. We met on a blind date which in a strange way was set up by his mother who I knew. We got on real well and got engaged recently. His Mum sometimes spoke about these tw...

So... are we girlfriend and boyfriend yet?...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - I am kind of slow about relationships so I need people to clearly tell me what is going on but this question is way too stupid so I don't wanna ask my partner. Today, we had a talk about where we were. He told me "yes, we are seeing each other" a...

It's my first relationship where we both tend to be rather quiet, can this work long time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5698 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - My partner nad I have been together for about a year now and am just wondering if our relationship can stand the test of time. A couple of years ago I dated a guy for about a month (he went back to his ex who was also his fiance) who was very pas...

Flirting is hurting! Would asking her out relieve the pain?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5703 days ago

18 April 2009 (M) - Hello. I was always told that flirting should be fun but with this woman at work the flirting is hurting. Does this mean I have feelings for her? Is it a bad sign to have feelings for someone when we have not even been on a date together? Am I ...

Is an affair in the cards...non stop emails and phone conversations

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (M) - Hi. A question for the ladies out there. The older man is higher up in the organisation than the younger man, the younger man is slighty better looking, the older man is taller and stronger, the older man is English and sophisticated, the younger ...

Handsome man in nightclub alone intimidates a woman?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

18 April 2009 (M) - I am in a bit of a pickle.... I am a 26 year old guy. I have been told I am very attractive by many females, and I have noticed a lot of woman looking at me.....in streets, at clubs etc. However I am totally clueless and I may be misinter...

What do I do? My b/f doesn't hang out with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5703 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - We have only been together for a couple of months and we barelly see each other. We are both in college and I live on campus, he lives off. He comes to my place about once a week and we usually spend friday night together but never saturday or ...

What are some signs a guy is thinking of you??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - well i know when a guy calls you thats a sign hes thinking of you. but what are some other signs that hes thinking of you. whithout asking him if hes thinking of you.. xD...

Broke up...what should we do about prom?

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18 April 2009 (F) - my ex is going crazy because we broke up and we are going to prom my and his prom what should i do ?...

Quietly hurting.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5693 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - My fiancee and I have known each other for 30 years but had lost contact for a few years..we were always dating someone else..we finally caught up with each other a year and a half ago and he told me he often thought of me in a loving way and we ...

How do I survive the next two months?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend has been going away during the week to school for the past two months. He drives three hours sunday night and comes back friday nights. It was only supposed to be for two months and I was so excited that he would be home at the end of ...

He's nice an' all but he doesn't know how to ACT like a boyfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (?) - Hey, How can I try to fall out of love? I really love my bf, and we're pretty much perfect together, but he really doesn't know how to act like a bf. I need someone that does. As much as it hurts me, I'm tempted to break up with him because he ...

I didn't make a move on him one time and now he's really off with me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - I need help, I'm really confused. Me and boyfriend have always been intimate. However recently he is losing interest ever since I didn't make a move on him one time and now he's really off with me. He's not usually like this, he called himself a ...

Call me old fashoined, or stupid, or naive, but I believe that truly amazing and intense sex comes from love!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - Does the best sex ever mean he truly loves me? Call me old fashoined, or stupid, or naive, or whatever you want, but I believe that truly amazing and intense sex comes from love, and not JUST the physical stimulation. My current boyfriend is by far ...

Anyone with mild bi-polar disorder or heavy mood swings who can help?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - I am with a guy and have been for about a year. Time is coming up when we both will have to move out of our current homes. We have been thinking about getting a place together. Unfortunately, he was recently layed off and hasn't found any good ...

Are there any steps you suggest to getting over a guy you are madly in love with?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5703 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - I am asking for help how to get over a guy I love because I'm tired of being hurt and always the last to know everything. This 'relationship' with him began 2 years ago and since then he's lead me on, only talking to me if he wants sex. He never ...

2 months dating too soon for oral sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - I am 20 and he is 23 and we have been together for a month and a half. We havent done anything sexual even though he really wants to. I told him that I am not ready to have sex because I have been really hurt in previous relationships because of it ...

Would it be a good idea to move in together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5703 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - My and my bf have been going out for 9 months. I am moving out soon, and I think he wants to do this. I'm moving into an apartment complex and I would like him to come live with me. We would split the rent, and all that stuff. Should we? We fight ...

I'm 17 and feeling guilty about my sex life!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5703 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - Hey, I'm 17 and I feel very guilty about sex, I started last year and never told my mom and she found out in a messed up way so I broke up with the guy that devastated me and I feel like I should be innocent for her sake because she believe I've ...

I don't like being with him any more because of the way he looks.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5703 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - I don't like being with him any more because of the way he looks. My boyfriend is 13 and I'm 15, he's 5"2, I'm 5"6, he's small and thin, I'm broad and larger... Everyone looks at us wierdly together ect. What do I do!!!...

I now find myself feeling unsatisifed with my relationship...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5702 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - Hey, I seem to be asking for advice again... Me and my fella have been together over a year now and last time I wrote in we were bickering a lot... Now that has calmed down a bit but I now find myself feeling unsatisifed with my relationship... When ...

He means a lot to me and I can't bear to lose him, what the hell is he thinking?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5703 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 9 months now and no matter how pathetic this sounds I admit I have fallen in love with him.. We rarely argue but recently we have started to have problems. Last week everything was perfect and we w...

What is a "rainbow kiss?"

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5700 days ago

18 April 2009 (F) - I'm 13 my boyfriend is 16. We are both non virgins from other relationships. We have had sex and done everything. Finger, BJ, 69, toss off, lick out ect. We were keen to move onto a rainbow kiss he said, I don't know what a rainbow kiss is.. What is ...