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*eriem1421
writes:Hi everyone! I'm 15 but I got the problems of an old woman with 10 children. I wanna ask you for help to solve at least some of these problems.1- I love a boy and we go to the same school but we never talked before and we don't know each other at all. I'll call him 'wb' ok? Wb is in my friend's class and he knows her and every time he sees me with her he comes to us and tries to talk to me but I just look somewhere else and act like I dont care, I even walked away many times. I'm just too too shy and when he's around, I blush, my cheeks become so so red and my heart beats like hell. I saw him staring at me many times and even my friends did. I think he likes me too but he's the shy type too and I'm afraid he's gonna let go because whenever he tries to talk to me I let him down. How can I get rid of this shyness and what should I say when he tries to talk to me again.2- One of my classmates is so in love with me. He didn't tell me but he told my bff. He always gives me presents and he thinks we may work but we won't cuz I love another ('wb') which is his cousin. How can I tell him that we'll never be more than friends? I don't want him to think he can buy me! I don't wanna hurt him please help me!3- Because I'm always thinking of 'wb' my grades are just good when they used to be the best!!! He's taking control of my head and brain and everything in my life and if I don't become his friend and be able to talk to him at least I'll go crazy!!!4- One of my bffs, lets call her 'k' is so jealous from me and she's always lying and making stories of boys who wanna go out with her and who truly love her when they don't and it's all because many many boys asked me out and boys always tell me: you got beautiful eyes, your hair is so cool, your pretty (I'm not bragging it's true) and I don't know how to tell her to stop lying because I don't wanna lose her, we've been friends since we were 6. I think she has less self confidence and she doesn't admit it!!help me please!!! 5- Coming back to home sucks now cause my parents are always pushing me to be the best at school and they are mad at me because of my grades. There's just so much stress that I can't take any more! I feel like there's no hope for me to live a happy life at all! Help!
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reader, justme..x  +, writes (19 April 2009):
 Hey :) woah, i felt honestly bad for you reading your letter. I hope this will help and things will work out soon xx I've tried to answer most of the problems that I could! lol xxxx 1 - You're both shy, and you both like each other. Be brave! The only way you're gonna break the ice is by plucking up the courage to get to know him. After The first time you properly talk, you'll probably be more relaxed around him so you no longer have to worry about being shy and embarassed. To start with, just talk about school or a lesson you just had as you know you have this in common! It is an easy subject to begin on.2 - Yeah, i have a similar situation to this and it is so awkward!! Although it is tempting, don't deliberately avoid him as it looks unsubtle and rude, and will make him even more clingy. Find a place where you are alone, but there are other people in the background so he can't try anything! Just gently tell him that you can't return his feelings, and you do like him just not in the way he wants. Ask him to please stop buying you gifts as it makes you feel guilty and you don't need them. Good luck!3 - see number 1. Once you're together or you've at least got to know him, you should be more relaxed and can therefore concentrate better.4 - God I hate this situation. My sister is in it and it is so hard to know what to do. The only thing you can really do is be loyal. K is having a tough time. Just carry on being friendly. Don't show that you don't believe her or pretend that you DO believe her. Either way will probably make her angry and upset and she'll feel bad about herself. Don't give up on her. She'll come through it. In the meantime, just be patient and loyal and be yourself. Although she won't show it she will be grateful for you sticking by her.5 - see 3 and 1, and your grades will probably come back. :P If not, talk to your parents about how you are doing your best and how stressed u are. They should understand and be grateful for your effort.Hope that helped! Good luck! xxx
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reader, jay12toes  +, writes (18 April 2009):
 Just be strong and be yourself. its not easy to get over shyness but if you can i think it could solve a couple of your problems. Be brave and just talk to WB.
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