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Dating: Help and advice

What is he thinking?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (?) - I asked this question earlier but didnt get the response I needed. I left out some information. I have been dating this guy for 4 mths. Everything was going great. About 2 weeks ago he started talking about falling in love and things were headed ...

Thinking about plastic surgery

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - Hello, Sorry to bring a common and depressing post, but I feel very negative right now, and I don't have close friends and I can't talk about this with my boyfriend because he gets annoyed. Well I feel ugly. Everyone around me is prettier. ...

How to move from friendship into more?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5715 days ago

4 April 2009 (M) - My best friend is very flertive and touchy naturally, I'd like to know how I can get confirmation if she does like me or not in a special manner. I've been thinking of dating her for approximately 2 months now. I am afraid asking her out while she ...

I want a handsome younger boyfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - how to get a younger handsome boyfreind when fat,ugly and short and in yours 30s+. is it hard to get a handsome younger boyfreind...

If you see a goodlooking guy do you assume he has a girlfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - do people automatic think a good looking guy has a girlfreind...

I don't think my parents will want me to marry till I'm 24 but what if I lose him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - Hi im a muslim girl and have a boyfriend of 4 years, which is a very big "sin" as we arent even supposed to shake hands with a member of the opposite sex. My parents arent exactly as strict as other muslim parents, who force there kids at ho...

I asked her to meet me in an email so that I could ask her out...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (M) - Hey, im 17 and in sixth form and i've waned to ask this girl out for a while now and when i finally got up the courage to she wasnt at college and it was the day before a 2 week break so i wouldnt see her for 2 weeks. so i sent her a email aski...

He seems to hate everything about me - am I not good enough to be with someone?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months now .. have ups and downs .. the usual the thing is he seems to not like lots about me , we usally play this what u like and hate thing and im not saying he is perfect but there is like nothing ...

Am I just clutching at straws? or does he like me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5709 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - Am a 55yr old widow who has feeling for a single man at work we have been work mates for 4yrs .invited him to my home and told him that i would like us to be more just mates.He explaines that he had not had a relationship for 4yrs as he is the main ...

I feel like I'm not exciting enough for my boyfriend!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - We are both in college and have been seeing each other for a month now but I feel like he thinks I am boring because I don't really party and smoke like he does. I like to party once in a while but not every weekend like he does. He has a lot of f...

I get super self conscious whenever we do anything and I end up ruining it for myself

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5710 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is really experienced and I'm not. I get super self conscious whenever we do anything and I end up ruining it for myself which is what I'm trying not to do. But whenever he fingers me or eats me out it feel sooooo good and I don't know ...

I want to work everything out but don't know how

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - I love my boyfriend (age 20) a lot. We have been together for 8 months now. However, I feel like hes hiding something from me. it bothers me so much. For example, he never told me that he has a daughter until I confronted him about it. I had to f...

I think he's to good looking to even contemplate going out with me. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - I would really appreciate advice. I lack severely in confidence, especially when it comes to men I like. They's a guy who works across from me who I like the look of but I'm to shy to let him know or even smile at him! Every time he looks over I tu...

I had my heart set on a handsome Latino, but I feel like I missed the boat.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5715 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - Sorry this is long... I tried to keep it concise but I wanted it to be complete. I've been feeling blue about a guy for a long time, a friend from college. I'm confused because my love for him has faded, and I know I need to move on, but... it's ...

Is he just shy or afraid in case he is rejected?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - I’ve been friends with a guy I work with for over a year (although I worked with him previously in another organization about 8 years ago). I’m in my early 40’s, he’s in his early 30’s. We are both single, although he knows I’m divorced with two ...

Am I being a terrible bitch on both of them?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - i broke up with my ex a few months ago but i just cant move on i dated someone for a while but told them i didn't want to get into anything serious as they were looking for something long term i still talk to my ex all the time and he still is my ...

I cant drive...does this make me a loser?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - Hi,i just need some honest advice. Im 26 year old female and i dont drive. I did lessons a few years ago but just couldn't get my head round them so i quit. Also i suffer with anxiety -on and off and for the past few years i've been on antidepr...

How do I get over my ex and find another boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - I'm nineteen and my ex is eighteen. Four months ago, he and I broke up after a terrible two-year relationship. He physically and mentally abused me and then decided to cheat on me (with a chick he has become friends with benefits with). Anyway, just...

How can improve my chances for getting a job?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5715 days ago

4 April 2009 (M) - I've never felt so low. i cant get a thing right with my girlfriend, i cant get a job, The only place I can see my life going is living on the streets. I just want to be happy but I can't see it happening. I Just want to know how to make things ...

What would YOU do here? My friend is playing mind games with me

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5713 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - What would YOU do here? My friend is playing mind games with me and a guy I really like, and I don't know what I should do in this situation? I am in love with a male pal for the past 1-2 years and he knows this since I had told him at Chri...

My huge crush is dating my best friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5706 days ago

4 April 2009 (M) - i have a huge crush that is dating my best friend, there pretty serious but my best friend never has long relationships. his girlfriend is also my best friend thats a girl. im afraid we have developed to much of a close friendship that she'll like ...

My boyfriend denies having a girlfriend to other girls. But always tells me he loves me. why?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5697 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - Hey! I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 24. This is our first ever serious relationship and didn't expect to turn out to be one either! We told each other we loved each other a couple of months ago and have recently just moved in together temporarily until ...

Should I break up with him, give him space or try to talk it out?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - Aunts! I'm in desperate need of help, I don't know what to do and I'm making myself sick about it. I got in a huuuuuuge fight with my boyfriend last night. We were out at a club watching a friends band play, and he was acting like an asshole to me. ...

What is he after? This dating game is hard.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - Hi would really appreciate opinions..i met this boy like a week ago and hes text and rang me like everyday since. I saw him out and he didnt speak to me all night other than when i said hi. He rang me that night and said it was because he was scard ...

Problems when he's drunk and my mum will be devastated...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - I am a 26 yr old Catholic girl. My boyfriend is 41. He is divorced and has 2 children and we are very much in love. We are waiting for a house offer to go through and are very excited. We plan to marry and have kids. the problem is: when he has ...

I think he just wants me for sex...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (?) - basically... i left my ex to go out with this boy from my high school. he kept telling me how much he wanted to be with me and how much he liked me.he had been trying to get with me for months and persuaded me to leave my then boyfriend for him. ...

How can I get my classmate to be my girlfriend?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4944 days ago

4 April 2009 (M) - i like my classmate very much..she is usually want to talk to me,whenever i start any talk to her..but i dont usually talk to her...sometimes she she looks at me with very innocent eyes ...so please help me , how can i start talk with her everyday ...

He's perfect on paper but is this going anywhere?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I am 42, he is 47. He is divorced and has residency of his child aged 15. I have residency of my 2 children aged 6 and 8. We say that we are made for each other and that we are ...

He asked me to suggest one thing that the two of us must do. What do you think I should suggest?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - my ex told me he is with some one else but it was just after two weeks of breaking up. though he heard rumours that i was cheating on him with his cousin along time ago he had not reacted for so long.. but am now wondering about how he got this...

I want to stop his memories interference in my current relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - i love my ex very much that i can not even give my attention to the current guy. what should i do to forget him? i keep dreaming about him all night and when ever i make love to my current guy i always wish it was him am making love to. please...

Am I wrong for asking her to stop talking to him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost a year. We recently broke up for like 3 weeks and then got back together. During the 3 weeks, she was seeing another guy quite frequently, hooking up with him several times. And now that we're back...

I think I need more than just love.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - Is love enough? Or do I need more than just love? I'm dating a guy right now who is very loving towards me, both physically and emotionally. We are both in college. I will be graduating in May and will be moving to another state, and he will be i...

Am I in any way tied to her after wearing that chain/necklace?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5717 days ago

4 April 2009 (M) - i broke up with my gf recently ...we were committed for a year and were planning about convincing our parents for our marriage... but being only 17 always used to talk about our marriage and kids and was super excited which made me feel awkward ... ...

I know right from wrong, but I choose to do wrong anyway. WHY?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5717 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - We started dating 2 years ago, as co-workers (and his uncle owns the company so we hid our relationship for the first 6 months). I looked and found another job about a year into our relationship so that our relationship could work. Six months late...

Battling the temptation and the right.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5717 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - This is the follow up to the Co-Worker question. I've kissed my co-worker the past 3 times we've worked together. My boyfriend found out about the first time and almost left. I wish he would have. I don't want to hurt him, but I really want to be ...

Should I just let it be and hope it passes or have I done enough?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5717 days ago

4 April 2009 (M) - I've been seeing this girl for about 4 months. We used to text message each other all the time during the day and well into the night sometimes till 3 in the morning. We were really close, cuddled all the time, and spent a lot of time together. ...

How do you know if your man has cheated on you?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - [This is a follow up question to a previous posting: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-dont-know-who-to-believe.html) How do you no if your man has cheated on you, if u havent seen any signs,or never have thought he ever would cheat. u just hea...

She wants to feel loved but we get bored after only 4 hours alone together

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (M) - Ive been in a serious relationship with my gf for almost 3 years now, out of which 1 year we had a long distance relationship as i was studying out of the country. Ever since i got back i haven't been able to find anything the 2 of us can do alon...

Questions on porn and sex... Guys? What am I doing wrong?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5717 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - GUYS! I have a question... or two. I am a very attractive girl, I'm thin, tall, awesome legs and a great body, I'm in shape, but not crazy gym rat style. I think that the only down side I have is I'm small chested, but it fits my frame. My boyfr...

My g/f told me I was her first. Should I believe her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (M) - my girlfriend told me she couldn't really feel something when i was inside her, but she told me i am her first time but before me there was a boy who just fingered her for a bit but didn't have proper sex, so she told me she never really have sex ...

HE keeps reminding me that I said we were just friends!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5717 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - I had been dating this guy for about 4 months; during that time things were ok, but never really felt he cared that much. so one day he had to leave to another state so we stopped talking. After a while he came back to stay here, so for sum reas...

I don't know who to believe

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5714 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - A woman me and my fiance work with, txt me one day and said they had been having sex 4 several months. we have 2 lil kids together, and i dont no who 2 believe. he says it aint true, and he loves me and are kids dearly....

Why do we have to take a break after the breakup?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5717 days ago

4 April 2009 (M) - why do we have to take a break after the breakup? if at all we have decided to remain friends after the breakup so what purpose does taking a break fulfill? i think it kills the affection addiction closeness and all the qualities for which we love ...

After 3 years together, he started treating me differently. Why?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5717 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - Me and my x bf were together almost 3 years an he started treating me diffrent then one day about 3 weeks before Christmas I called his phone and a girl answered an I have not talked to him since an I can't stop thinking bout him an still love him ...

Did I make the right choice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - So me and this guy dated for 2 months. Then he broke up with me because we were never really allowed to see each other bc of my parents. Then after about a month he asked me out again and I said yes. But things just felt kinds different and I don'...

We're both 15 yo and in love. Need advice on trust and affection issues.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

4 April 2009 (?) - Hey-- My boyfriend and I have been together about 3 months. We were best friends before we got together, and I've liked him for 2 years. We fell in love faster than I could ever imagine--I didn't believe in love in high school, but now I'm a believ...

Why does he ignore me for days?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5717 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - I met this guy recently. He is sixteen, I am fourteen, turning fifteen in about a week. We instantley connected on many levels. Since he is moving on April 20th, started talking in Feb. We decided not to take things any further, and just remain ...

She claims that I confuse her and she doesn't know how much or how little she likes me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5715 days ago

4 April 2009 (M) - Hi, just looking for some ideas and feedback on a situation I am in. First things first, met this girl about a month ago through some friends, got talking and soon after we met up on own... Didn't do much the first time just hung out. Got on well...

How do I avoid tempting my ex to cheat on his current g/f?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5717 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - so im 15[[sophomore]] and my ex is 18[[senior]];;he has a girlfriend, which is also my friend[[were fake with each other]]. well today during 3rd period i went to visit him. i knew we would at least kiss but i didnt know that we'd do more..he told ...

Set her free or influence her choices?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5717 days ago

4 April 2009 (?) - This may sound strange to some people, but I'm the type of person that does not like to cage someone's freedom or tell her what to do or what not to do. Instead, I prefer to let her choose what she wants to do and then accept the consequences as ...

Does seeing my friends bother my boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5717 days ago

4 April 2009 (F) - Is my enthusiasm for seeing my friends bothering my boyfriend? When we plan to spend time with our friends..separately I say things we're doing blah, blah and add an exclamation point! But that's just who I am..a positive gal! And he knows thi...