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Archived questions from: 19 April, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

I'm very unhappy with my partner just now...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I'm in a relationship 10 years, things have changed an awful lot recently and I'm very unhappy with my partner. I'm afraid to break up with him in case he is 'the one' and I'm throwing it all away. Please don't tell me to try talk to him about it, ...

Opinions needed here... I can't get him out of my head, am I obsessed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I have been really happy lately well since Ii got a NEW boyfriend. We've been dating for a month now and it's like I don't want to spend any second without him, I really don't know what to do because I never felt this way before about any of my ...

I love him but I don't know why!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5682 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I know why I love boyfriend, because of the great man I see in him. I fell in love because of that but at the beginning, I asked myself why I love him and I replied to myself, I don't know, I just know I do. That's just how I feel. That was the ...

Am I his muse?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I had a talk with my boyfriend and he has told just how he has been doing some thinking lately about everything, and he figure the struggle he goes through he doesn't even have to go through it,he let it happen to him. I told him how much i miss...

I just found out the man I've been seeing is married!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5698 days ago

19 April 2009 (?) - I cant believe im in this situation right now and im so hurt and upset and confused. can someone please tell me what do here?! Ive only ever had one boyfriend, we dated almost two years, he broke my heart and walked away. since the break up i work...

Why the sudden change, after 2 years together and almost planning a summer wedding?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5574 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - i've been engaged to a girl for almost 2 years now and we we're supposed to get married this summer... about a month ago she tells me she doesn't want to get married and that she's afraid it's not the right time. Later on she says she's afraid I'm ...

Is it necessary to set boundaries and categories for male friends?.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5700 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - My confidence has been in the toilet for like longer than I can remember and have ran from almost every relationship I have come across because I want to be settled in my own life and fairly happy before I enter into anything with anyone.....

This economy is putting a strain in my relationship with my parents and boyfriend. Help!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - my life is so messed up i don't know where to start. I am 18 years old. I paid for my car but my parents refuse to put it in my phone. I'm not allowed to see my bf, the man I love, they don't like him just because, its tearing our relationship apar...

Why am I always more "enthusiastic"?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I started going out with my first boyfriend 3 months ago. Im embarrassed because i always seem more enthusiastic when we're making out and i get excited kinda easily. Is this because i've never had a boyfriend but he's had three girlfriends? We've ...

After 3 years together, do you think we are drifting apart?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5700 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - I can't help deciding what to do. I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years now, and over the last 3 months, things with us have not been great. we don't argue, but we don't talk either. I can't help but feel that we are driting apart. I went out...

It sounds like he likes me, but I'm not completely sure. What do you think?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I met a guy about a month ago,and I bumped into him last week. I went round his house, we were talking, and then we kissed. But I'm confused as to how he feels. We're not going out, but we're more than friends. He asked me why I was single, so I re...

Why don't boys reply to my texts?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5422 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - Why don't boys reply to my texts? This is a commonly asked question at dear cupid and I understand it really isn't as important as a domestic violence question, but I feel it needs answering. Now this is just a personal opinion and if any guys ...

He said it's just a bit of flirting. Should I continue with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - hi was just wondering if anyone could maybe help or if they have any suggestions i would be very grateful thanks. ok well what it is ive just recently started a new job and one of the guys who comes in has been flirting with me e.g winking smil...

I lied about my age to my boyfriend! Is he mad at me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5107 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Ok so i lied to my boyfriend that i was 15 and he is 15 turning 16 in May but i'm really 14 turning 15 next year so i told him my real age on AIM but he was offline and he hasn't txted me or anything.... Is he mad at me, does he still love me.....

We just broke up. She was my life! Help me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend just broke up. We are 15 people say thats too young but i dont think so. She said we are very different and she has exams soon and it will be too difficult. I dont know what to do, she was my life. ...

First time sex for virgins: do we still need to get checked for STDs beforehand?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Hey, I know this sounds absurd but I still really appreciate some help... My boyfriend and I are over the legal age to have sex and lately we have been getting extremely intimate and have started talking about making love. We're both virgins ...

He never has time for me...Please help me!!

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19 April 2009 (F) - I've been dating this guy for 6months who has two kids. He works away most nights and could be away from week to week. We used to see each other everyday because we couldn't bare being apart and now I hardly see him I know it's because of his job ...

I have sexual feelings for my cousin's sister

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - i am 24 year working guy. from last one month i have feelings for my cousin sister (my father's sister daughter). she is 22 studying in college.i want to do oral sex with her.we talked on phone frankly as a friend. i dont know what she think abt ...

How can I tell my b/f his kissing technique needs to be improved?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - my boyfriend is a little crazy with the kissing. B/c its all over my face, and soo much slobber. I started it a week go to where i would use my tongue more, but i was really mellow about it, and didn't push it. But his tongue is about to choke t...

Should I call it quits or hang in there a little longer?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I need some good advice! Ive been dating this guy for 4 months. The first 3 months were great! He text me all the time, called me, spent lots of time with me and the sex was great. But the last month his text and calls have been less and less...

He's not a good kisser

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - ok me and my boyfriend have been going out for a month now and well when we make out he really doesnt know what to do.... and also thats all he really wants to do but hes not really good at it what should i do because i cant tell him that he does...

Longtime boyfriend doesn't propose

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I am together with my boyfriend for 6 years now. We live together for 5 years and we match well together. We have had hard times, but now we have grown together, have many things in common. The thing is that he claims he is "free bird", never had ...

Am I being paranoid or do you think something is wrong?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Okay, so it's eatser break and my boyfriend is at his Dad's for 2 weeks. We were speaking online most of the time, we usually do anyway when we're not together. But gradually he's been speaking less and less. I was fine with it and first since he's ...

I found underwear that was not mine. Should I forgive him or forget him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5696 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend (23) and I (20) have been together for three and a half years. We've lived together for six months of that. Well, last night I found underwear that was not mine and confronted my boyfriend about it. He ultimately didn't have an answer, ...

My boyfriend loves to hold my hand a lot is this good?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - my boyfriend loves to hold my hand a lot is this good?...

In Love with my Mum's Boyfriend's Son! What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - about a year ago my mum broke up with my step dad and got with someone else, he is really nice and i like him alot. i don't live with my mum and him but will be in the summer. but i met his son at christmas who doesn't live with them either and afte...

Should I be worried that my Boyfriend is acting strangly after coming back from his holidays?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been going out for a couple of years now. He's amazing and we're so happy together. However, last week he went on holiday with his brother and some friends and ever since he's come back he's been acting weird. Yesterday I was ...

I don't want to hurt my Muslim Parents, but I also love my boyfriend. What should I do?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4361 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - hi, my parents are strict muslims and are against the idea of having a boyfriend. ive had a boyfriend for 4 years now, and i love him a lot. i cant break up with him. My dad cares about me and has done a lot for me so he doesnt force me like ...

Why doesn't he text me back straight away?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Me and my friend who is a boy talk but when I text him and he texts me its only for a short while then he doesn't. I hate asking him questions and him not answering. People tell me that he's not right for me but I like him and have strong feelings...

Is my Aunty dating my ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5700 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - My aunt had sex with my ex-boyfriend(he was my boyfriend until they had sex, but I dumped him) and he's 17 and she's 32. They talk on the phone and go places together like they are a couple which they claim they are not and she is walking around ...

I have a crush on my boyfriend's best friend!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5700 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I've been dating my boyfriend for almost three years now, and I think I have been in love with his best friend for almost three years. It's so hard to explain, but I met his best friend a few months after my bf and I started dating and for some ...

Follow up: It's all so confusing for me part 2

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5700 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - This is a follow up to a question I put on here on the 17 April under the title. "It's all so confusing for me" http://www.dearcupid.org/question/its-all-so-confusing-for-me.html. Since the post I have made things worse I went and got drunk and ...

Do white girls like tanned-Dominican boys?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5385 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - ok, I'm a Hispanic dude, born in the US to Dominican parents, but I do not consider myself Dominican at all. I do not behave like your average Dominican and I definitely do not talk or write like your average Dominican. You see, that I do not c...

Are Pisces and Virgos compatible?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5702 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Ok, for those of you who know astrology well, I'd appreciate if you would shed some insight on my situation. First of all, I haven't been on the dating scene in awhile because my last relationship lasted 5 years...it was also my first so this is...

Should I go and visit my online b/f in the USA?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - i meet my online boyfriend 2 years and half ago. untill now we are still regularly communicating. chatting, texting but he doesnt call me cos he always worry about his phone bill. i insist him to come and visit so we could meet but he always want...

She is giving me mixed signals

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - I think I am getting mixed signals, or she is playing games with me. Well, there is a girl in my Clinical Psychology class who sits right next to me, she seems to give signs that she might be interested in me; such as she always leans in to whis...

Can sex with a younger man be a good experience?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I have been friends and seeing a younger man. We have a good time. I am considering the possibility of sex with him. Can sex with a man that is 10 to 15 years younger be a good idea? Can sex with a younger man be a good experience? What...

Did I just lose my best friend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Me and this guy had been talking for about 4 months now, almost everyday on the phone. I told him i liked him, something he already knew. He always told me he liked me but since i am scared of love and commitment i never responded. One day i told...

My new b/f is talking too seriously too quickly...how do I put a stop to this before I get too scared?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5702 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I've been friends with this guy for almost three years and for most of the time I knew him he was pretty much only interested in hooking up with girls or having really short relationships that were based purely on sex and as his friend, and only his ...

I don't know if I love him, but I cant get over him.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Me and my ex broke up about 3 months ago, because my family moved to QLD. After we broke up, my ex slept with a few girls, and messed with my head, and treated me horribly. A few weeks ago, I moved back to Adelaide, And I hate to admit it...

My g/f and I often broke up. Is it over this time?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5702 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - well my gf and i broke up....again and well she broke up with me like usual and i think were really over. and we broke up cause we fight to much and stuff and we break up a lot and she always comes back and i let her. but not this time shes h...

Is it OK for me to date an almost 17 year old girl when I am 19?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - Hi I have known a girl since I was around 10 years old and have always been attracted to her and thought she was really cool. Today she told me that she has always felt the same way about me. She is turning 17 in July, and I am 19 right now but will ...

Kissing disaster

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Okay well I've been thinking and I do love my boyfriend BUT... there's a problem - he has braces and in the next couple of months I'm getting braces too but I'm a little bit scared to kiss him just in case something goes wrong. Can we still kiss ...

What can I do to make sure I am 'tight' for our wedding night?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5698 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Eight and a bit years ago, I was 13 and raped by a stranger in a parking area. I'm now turning 22 and have not done sex any time after that. I'm engaged to a man I been with for 5 years. he knows about my being raped those many years ago and has ...

Is it wrong that he constantly thinks about me being with women, or him being with other women and me at the same time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - While my boyfriend and I were having sex one time, and I was on top, he said [Is it wrong that I can't wait to do this with another woman] Is there something wrong when you're with a guy for 2 and a half years and for the past 2 years, he's houn...