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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have this problem where I often go back to guys I've had a relashionship with. Theirs one guy in particular that already has a girlfriend but hooks up with me from time to time. I keep thinking I'm a whore or something...am I? I mean I like him, I think. Theirs other guys I flirt with and all... but they all seem like their using me to get stuff.. (hint, hint) just like he is? Well we hung out one day and went pretty far but he never texted me after that... what do I do? I mean it'd be nice to stay solo for a while but then i'd just feel lonely and its way too hard to find a decent guy where I live.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): When you feel lonely, it can sometimes seem like it's better to be with anyone than to be with no one. So even though these guys aren't treating you as well as you deserve to be treated, you still hold onto them. Also, if it's difficult to meet people, it can be easier to stick to the people you know.I also think that it can feel safer somehow to stick to guys you are familiar with, even if they treat you badly, because it can seem scary to get to know new guys from scratch.This must be hard for you, but I don't think you deserve to be used by these guys. It must be difficult to stay single when you feel lonely, but these relationships sound like pretty lonely experiences too. Do you have friends you could spend more time with? Or could you start some activity, something to keep you occupied and away from these guys?I think that, if you start to feel better about yourself, you will find it easier to wait for someone who will treat you right, the way you deserve.I hope this helps a bit, and that things improve. x
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