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writes:Hi. A question for the ladies out there. The older man is higher up in the organisation than the younger man, the younger man is slighty better looking, the older man is taller and stronger, the older man is English and sophisticated, the younger man is French and very sophisticated, the older man has two children and is in a relationship, the younger man has none, the older man fancies the woman (not uncontrollably so!) but appears to be on the brink of the dreaded friend-zone, the woman fancies the younger man but fears he may fancy himself and not her. The older man has admitted to the woman that he fancies someone else. However, it is clear that the older man and the woman like each other, cannot stop e-mailing each other and can have half an hour chats on the phone about non-work related issues - no problem. The older man has agreed to lend her his book on 'how to make someone fall in love with you'. Could it be that all this talk of other women and other men is a smoke screen and that deep down, if the interaction continues, the older man and the woman are likely to have an affair? They are at the point of exchanging initimate secrets to each other. Isn't that what men and women do? Special thanks for any thoughts on this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): it is just a matter f time before she and the older man embark on the dirty deed.if you are the younger man, please run, (do not justwalk away from it all, run, run, run)younger man, you are so much better, you have read the situation very well and best you steer clear of these two. if you are already involved it is not too late. as i staid it is only a matter of time.....the woman in question knows this man is married, yet she is giving him he come on, speaks volumes of her, RIGHT?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): It seems to me that she is infatuated with the older man yet his antics are more directed towards a room temperature attachment but she probably doesn't realize this. Or else, she is seeking his advice on someone she does like and he is assisting her on how to seduce that person.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (18 April 2009):
 Yes, it would appear to be going somewhere with the older man, but he is something of a player, it sounds, with his relationship and his children and his (possible) other woman and his books on how to fall in love ... The older man is conducting a practised seduction, I would think. And it would seem to be working.
If the younger man fancies himself more that anyone else, and there is not the same rapport with him, and he has made no noticeable moves, then why is he in the picture?
Having said that, I would be intrigued by the younger man. I would prefer him. I have had an older man very similar to the description, and a more diffident younger man, and of course, the ideal would be the frame and form of the younger man with the passionate intelligence of the older man. You can't always have what you want, though.
The younger man is, of course, better in that he is more physically attractive, and he has no ties - but if he doesn't have a strong interest in the woman, then is he really a proposition at all?
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