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writes:I am kind of slow about relationships so I need people to clearly tell me what is going on but this question is way too stupid so I don't wanna ask my partner.Today, we had a talk about where we were. He told me "yes, we are seeing each other" and a while ago he told me we were dating. I asked him if this was exclusive or casual. He told me "I told you many times that I am not seeing anybody else and I don't plan to"I kissed him tonight and my housemate saw it. I was embarrassed and he was laughing. He said :"before you just wanted to keep me secret and now u have to tell ppl about us."So...are we bf and gf (are we together yet)? or we are still testing it out? Reply to this Question
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (18 April 2009):
 I think you may have to ask him again, he realises that you are a bit slow on the uptake of these things, so he'll understand if you ask him, but to be honest I don't get the American system of dating and bases and being exclusive etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell, even I hesitate to let HIS friends know about our relationship. He used to be my graduate student instructor last year but our relationship at that time was nothing more than student-prof. I can understand if he won't let his frds know about us because he might be seen as unprofessional.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): In my opinion yes, I think yes he is your boyfriend as he is seeing only you and told you so. That's kind of seling it maybe he's shy or something, however, has he introduced you to his parents, friends etc. if not, then ask why. He shouldn't be embarrassed to admit your his gf, but if he is then there's a problem.
How long have you been with him for is also a big question? A month, week? You could be still testing it out, but he's not seeing anyone else, so I don't think there is a need to worry.
If you want to get the answer out of his mouth, while with a friend, go 'oh ... aren't I lucky to have such a wonderful boyfriend..' blah blah so infront of soeone you are publicly admitting as you seeing yourself in a serious relationship with him. Then his answer will tell you clearly. Probe it out of him, or if that fails, I'd just ask him straight out because it's annoying you, that way you get the answer without any wisheywashey stuff, it's either yes or no! Lol.
Let me know how it goes..
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): How does he introduce you to other people like his friends/family? Does he refer to you as his girlfriend or a friend? If you are someone's girlfriend, they usually make it clear to everyone. You said something about it being a secret so I'm not sure if he's hesitant to tell others since you are acting embarrassed about it.
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