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writes:I have been dating my 24 year old girlfriend for 2 years(I am 32). We had some minor issues over the last few months over us being a bit more serious(i.e moving in together) so we gave each other a little space however we still saw each other at least 2-3 times a week. Then last week I found out she stopped taking birth control 3 months ago! One day after having sex my intuition convinced me to ask her if she was still on birth control and sure enough she told me had stopped 3 months ago! She said it was no big deal and that the birth control remained in her system for a few months so she had time to tell me as we resolved our minor issues and she didn't want that added pressure. I know for fact that she could still easily get pregnant but the worst part is I was always cautious and pulled out to be extra safe but one week prior she really encouraged me to just orgasm inside her. I love this girl but isn't this a huge red flag and shouldn't I just break up with her and never look back? She has relentlessly apologized and said she just wanted to give her body some time off birth control but I also know that she is anxious to have a baby. I just think this raises questions about how I could trust her in the future. I appreciate any insight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): I think you need to break things off. It sounds like she was trying to trap you into something longterm. Women are notorious for that.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (18 April 2009):
 Erm, unfortunately women tend to do this. She is no worse that most of us. We are controlled by our hormones, and when you come of birth control and are on your own hormones again, it goes totally to your head (or elsewhere!!) and I honestly think you can barely be held responsible for your actions. I know I have a completely one-track mind around that fertile time, and it isn't something I have much control over, if any.
For a woman, having someone you love orgasm inside you without any protection is just about the nicest thing they can do. I understand why she just couldn't help herself. I don't think you should be too hard on her, really. It is a bit like being totally drunk and not entirely knowing what you're doing - nature makes sure all caution is thrown out of the window.
She hasn't lied or betrayed or abused you. She has just been desperate to, well, create new life with you. It's a pretty big compliment when you think about it. It doesn't mean you can't trust her about a million other things.
Personally, I would forgive her as really what she has done is want to be as close possible to you., You do reailse thought that there is a strong chance of her being pregnant ...
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