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writes:I'm a forty-seven year old male who's been married four times before and has five children (wih only two of the women). I am also currently dating a twenty-one year old woman. We've been together since last Christmas and yes, we have had sex.But I have a slight dilemma here: my girlfriend's best friend is a guy whom is her age and I have a feeling he does not like me. I don't know what the kid's problem is, but it is really starting to irritate me. He claims I'm too old for my girlfriend and that I'm not good enough.Maybe I'm missing a beat here, but I sense the kid has a thing for my girlfriend. I don't like getting in the way of a true love story (I've been married four times, I can be a bit of a romantic), so how do I let down my girlfriend easily and show her the way to her best friend?Thanks.
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reader, tysonc +, writes (14 May 2009):
 My good man... I feel the same pains! I'm 33 and my girlfriend is 19.
I constantly get a barrage of her younger guy "friends" telling me to stay away from her and that I'm a "perv" for dating a much younger girl(I find this amusing as one of them just got charged for sleeping with a 14 yr old girl and another was just caught sleeping with his friends 43 yr old aunt)
It's pretty self explanitory to me that they are just jealous and insecure. Younger guys always struggle understanding what a younger woman sees in an older man. Usually they assume it's just a money thing since it's a politically correct assumption as far as society is concerned.
The truth of the reality is her and I have a BLAST together and are both VERY attracted to each other. With women, looks often take a back seat to intelligence, a good sense of humor and charisma. Therefore these younger men simply rely on their looks to attract these women... which don't get me wrong, it will work for them most of the time.
However there are PLENTY of younger women who have experienced the jealousy, immaturity and lake of respect these younger men often have, therefore they look for more in a mate now.
Don't sweat this kid, if your girlfriend is mature and level headed enough to appreciate you, her mind will not be swayed him. And if he does manage to talk her into leaving you... she didn't deserve you in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): Well, I was thinking I didn't want to be with her anymore because of our age difference and the fact that I actually don't feel as comfortable as I thought I could around her. I mean, I met her father... whom is five years YOUNGER than me and yes, we got along pretty well, but I could tell he just couldn't look at me right because I was introduced to him as his daughter's boyriend. I think I want someone a bit more mature anyway.
I'm going to break up with her and I'm hoping she does the right thing by going to her best friend because I've only known him for about four months, I already know he would die for her. Can't let something like that go to waste. And in any case, I don't think I want to remarry; I've been married four times before, I think that's enough.
Thanks for the advice! It was appreciated.
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reader, NeverGoodEnough  +, writes (18 April 2009):
 Talk to the kid, tell him how you feel, maybe between you and him you can find a way to sort this out
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reader, SophiaB +, writes (18 April 2009):
 Firstly, do you still want to be with your girlfriend? If so, her best friend will have to live with it! Sorry! But in young people, I tend to find that they are more jealous than older people. So personally, I think that her best friend might like her, or is just jealous of the relationship you both have. And if he doesn't like you, then that's too bad! If your girlfriend is happy, then he should be happy for you both because he is a friend so he should start acting like one right!But, if it is bothering you so bad, you should talk to your girlfriend about it. Tell her how he is making you feel and maybe ask her to have a word with him about it. He might just listen!SB
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