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writes: Hey, How can I try to fall out of love? I really love my bf, and we're pretty much perfect together, but he really doesn't know how to act like a bf. I need someone that does. As much as it hurts me, I'm tempted to break up with him because he doesn't know how to handle our relationship.I don't know where else to turn. We've already talked about this and he was shocked and appalled that I felt this way, but he's made no new efforts.Any help, please?Thanks so much,GG Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. We've only been together 3 months, but we were best friends for a long while before we got together. We fell in love very quickly. Many people have told me it's not love, and I just think it is because I'm 15, but I feel that I know my own emotions better than they do.
I used to be very emotionally strong--I never cried, but I think I'm 2 for 2 days right now. He even broke up with me once already because he found out he made me cry once and he couldn't take it. I know he loves me too, but it doesn't seem like as much. He doesn't try like I do.
I love him so much--I'd give nearly everything in the world to him if that's what it took to fix our relationship. Could I let him go? Yes. Could I move on?yes, but not in the forseeable future, hahaha.
My boyfriend and I won't be able to communicate for a while, and it'll give me time to think, but fir now it just hurts. I love him, I want him, but my needs are important too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): Sweetie like anonymous says he might be showing his love a different way, theres this old saying that a rabbit treats it babies sweet and leaves em but a wolf treats its babies harsh and stays. Maybe you understood it maybe not [ i'm odd like that=]] I hope you'll find happiness too. It takes a while but it comes trust me =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): Dear GG,
I experiencing something similar. I love my boyfriend. I love him sooo much it even hurts a little. After 10 months together, he made a progress and started acting more like a boyfriend, now he moved away and money is influecing him so much. He has gone back to bad...and now is worse. I am so scared to lose him. He also acts shocked when i tell him how i feel. Almost as if he had no clue. Im not sure how long you guys have been dating for. I personally suggest you try hard to make him see things. What helped me a little bit was posting blogs on my facebook (where i know he could read it) and i would just say things such as "appreciate what you have before is gone...your loved ones are important and need attention" things of that nature. He sent me a text sayin "baby please i hope u never feel like i take u for granted i love you so much"...for a while when he saw i could be hurt he was so sweet but then went back to slacking.
truth is i love him and im willing to keep fighting this battle of his lazyness vs my love. It breaks my heart so much to see that he doesnt try as hard as i do.... as im writting this i cant stop crying. I wish he cared as much as me...maybe he does but does not show it like me.
Your boyfriend might love u just as much or maybe even more, but we dont all show love the same way. Maybe he needs a little coaching
Just remember if u are too hurt,or he is getting hurt in this process... let it go. Do u love him enough to let him go?
whatever u decide...follow ur heart... maybe breaking up is too sudden...if u decide u need time or distance..take it but dont make a drastic decision until you are certain.
best of luck!
p.s. we cant change people but we can help improve them!
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