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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:We have only been together for a couple of months and we barelly see each other. We are both in college and I live on campus, he lives off. He comes to my place about once a week and we usually spend friday night together but never saturday or sunday. His friends live like 30 seconds away from me and he is there almost every day but he rarely comes to see me. I mean if I ask him, he is happy to have me there but he never makes the suggestion himself, I usually make all of our plans. He goes to bars and clubs too with the boys (I trust him though, he is not that type of guy) but I am underage so I cant go. Like tonight, I wanted him to spend the night and do stuff if ya know what I mean (we havent done anything yet) but he went to the bars because his brother came to visit him :( Ugh why is he so lazy in this relationship? What should I do? Do lots of guys act like this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): If I were you I'd consider this more of a friendship than a relationship, and I'd hardly call what you've described as being together! Given the choice of going to a bar with my brother or having a hot night between the sheets, my brother would be put on the back burner and go to the bar on his own.
As for what you should do - the best I could suggest is to ask him whether he considers you to be his girl or just his friend. If it's the former you could tell him you're feeling rather ignored and neglected and if he wants a relationship with you he'd better start putting something into it for a change. If it's the latter at least you'll know where you stand with him and you can start spreading your wings in other directions.
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