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Archived questions from: April, 2009 (see latest in Cheating category)

Cheating: Help and advice

I'm still attracted to him I just have no sex drive, and now there is a Sailor involved!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Q1, ok so heres the thing my husband and i have been together 2 years and my sex drive has gone down a lot.... he is lucky if i want to have sex once a month. when we first got together it was like 2 or 3 times a day i dont know what happend i give ...

I know I can't trust him now.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5677 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We share a computer, and whilst looking through chat logs to find a phone number, I stumbled across some rather shocking information. I found a conversation between him and a guy, 7 months ago,...

He never spends time with me anymore

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - My mate stays gone all day but sleep home everynight. He doesnt have much time for me if any time. I feel he is seeing someone else but he says he isnt. Am i being foolish or is he trying to let me know he is cheating? (but doesnt know which one ...

Please help me I feel so torn

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - 2 months ago I met a man online that lived a few hours from me. We ended up talking on the phone every day. He told me was single at first but a few weeks later I found out he had a baby girl and I asked him if he was married but he told me he wa...

I feel he is cheating but I need to be sure before I confront him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - my mate leaves real early every morning and stays gone for 10 to 12 hours a day he is retired when he comes home he goes to sleep and he phone is ringing for awhile but he wont answer it he shower shaves and smell good but dont pay me any ...

This is not some two-bit affair.....but I'm wondering if he actually loves me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5670 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Some advice please,I am in a relationship with a man who is married and I have been on and off for 30yrs,and i know a lot of you out there are going to be critical of me.but maybe some of you will understand.This man has been married for over 40yrs ...

I told my crush how I felt but I still don't know how he feels!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - So I finally decided to tell my crush how I feel. Didn't work out well. I tried speaking in our native tongue, but I ended up stuttering so I decided to speak in English. I actually planned everything I was going to say, but they all slipp...

Is he being my friend or playing mind games with me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5679 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - A guy I work with is married and we are friends. I gave him the cold shoulder to adjust my self after an hurtful 'emotional affair', we did nothing wrong as he would stress to me. during a abreif make up session he said we are cut from the same ...

His bit on the side is returning to work in the summer....how do I stop these doubts?

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30 April 2009 (F) - Need a bit of advice to cut a long story short my h/b had an affair with a married girl at work i found out he finished it straight away he was off work himself for 6 months we spent all these months together 24/7 she stayed with her husband and ...

What am I doing??

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Okay so long story short i cheated on my Boyfriend of 6 years for a year and a half with the same person no he was not the other guy just a "buddy" if you get me ... the truth about me and him only came out because i got pregnant with his baby now ...

My bf called two other girls tried to hook up with them. Does he want to be single?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5684 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - I recently found out that my bf had called two other girls in the past month and had tried to hook up with them. Nothing became of either of the situations but I was still devastated that he would even think of being with another woman. We have been ...

Should I carry on sleeping with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5684 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I've had the serious hots for the guy in question for as long as I can remember (i.e. all through school) but after he left high school we didn't really see each other. About three years ago we bumped into each other and kept in touch. He text m...

Please tell me if you can think of anything I can do to try and make up for what I did.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5684 days ago

29 April 2009 (M) - About 4 and a half months ago my wife cheated on me. The affair had been going on for almost two months before I found out. When I found out I instantly forgave my wife and asked her to stay with me. She was going to leave me for him. However he ...

I'm paranoid that he's cheating on the 2nd date

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5684 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I met a man recently on facebook. We went out on a couple of dates. I'm keen on him as he was keen on me on my second date and hurried to take things further. I emailed him the other day to say I would ring him on his mobile tonight as I can't get ...

Tempted to cheat on my boyfriend as the sex has dried up.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5682 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - Ive been with my boyfriend for 5 years and everything was going good until we stopped having sex its become like once a week but even then its not amazing. So i went out to a club and met a fella i gave him my number and we have been texting and ...

My boyfriend told his lover that I was a homeless transient who slept on his couch!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5684 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I met my boyfriend through my brother in law and he came from NC all the way to MO to meet me. We fell in love and he wanted me to move to NC with him. I quit my job that I had for a long time and left my family and friends to be with him. ...

To all married men who have cheated.....please help me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5684 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I know I may be asking you to step outside your comfort zone here, but I'm sure you'll be doing more than just ME a favor by answering these few (not so)simple questions as HONESTLY as possible. What makes you cheat? (Of course everyone has thei...

Pretty obvious she has been cheating but I cant bring myself to break up with her!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5684 days ago

29 April 2009 (M) - Ive been with a girl for a month or so (known her for alot longer) but recently ive had my suspicions that she might be cheating on me. Things like saying she was at a friends because she wasnt feeling well and needed to stay with her(i heard guys ...

Going through hell

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5684 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - Dear Aunts and Uncles, I have been going through hell of late. So here it goes. I was married for 10 years. 3 of it happy, next three years long distance and unhappy and the past 4 years without having sex and always fighting. I was having a...

How do I show this married man I'm over the affair?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I mistakenly had an affair with a colleague that lasted half a year. We became extremely close but I ended things with him because I wanted more and knew it would be an emotional dead end and the whole act was beating me up inside. Now this man a...

My heart wants to work this through but my mind tells me different... Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5685 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of almost 3 months cheated on me. I found this out recently when his 'girlfriend' called me after an apparent argument they had and tattle-taled on their affair. I was crushed! He admitted to their relationship, (supposedly an old ...

Is a polygraph test the answer?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5682 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I am in a real dilemma and don't know what to do. I am engaged and have been with my fiance for 9 years now and never imagined this horrible nightmare i am now in. We were shopping on the weekend when some girl approached me and said your ...

I need help on being a better girlfriend and not so jealous.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - Okay so, I have been dating this guy on and off for almost 3 years. He says he loves me but I'm so jealous because he used to cheat on me so much. He has changed so much and he treats me so much better. I need help on being a better gf and not so ...

Is he Cheating and how do I confront him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - I am with a man with whom I have been living for three years, recently I have been noticing signs of cheating.About two months ago we were home one night naked when someone knocked at the door. After he recognised the person he went outside for ...

All I wanted was to be loved and so I let him use me, any advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5685 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - Ive stupidly let my ex boyfriend use me for the last six months! Ive being so silly and and fool. Ive been so in love with him ive let him do whatever he wanted so i was afraid of losing him. We spilt cos he wouldnt give me commitment. We were ...

I think my Dad is cheating, what should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5669 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - I think my dad having an affair. I was doing my parents taxes and found a receipt of condoms, my parents don’t use them. I know it can be a lot things but I have had many suspicions! I’ve always been a straight forward person so I confronted him. He ...

Fed up of my cheating boyfriend

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - Me and my current boyfriend have been through a lot. We've been together for a year and a half and during that time hes cheated on me 3 times, but I never let him go because I'm head over heels in love with him. Lately he's been showing less and ...

Help! My wife is having an affair and I want to make my marriage work. What do I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5684 days ago

28 April 2009 (M) - A month ago, my wife admitted to me that she was having an emotional affair with another "man". We are 33/34 and have been married for almost ten years. I was, and still am, absolutely devastated. She is my best friend and I never thought that ...

His search shows him online friend finders

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5685 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - My fiance who I have been with for 5 years, we have a 2 yr. old and my two children from previous marr. I have been finding under his history search for online friend finders. I am mad, he says Im ridiculous?...

Do married men stop thinking about the other woman?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2534 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - When an affair ends, does the married man ever stop thinking about the other woman? Are they easily forgotten? Do men ever feel hurt when an affair ends or are they relieved thats it's over? Do they hide their emotions? Married men, please ...

Help getting over work affair that I ended..

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4927 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - I'm 24 years old and married man is 28 (without kids). About six months ago I began an affair with a married man that I work with. What began as harmless flirting turned into a full blown affair where we were staying back at work alone for severa...

He says he only cheated for sex...can this be true?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - My question is can a man (or woman)who cheats on their partner with the same woman and says it was only for sex nothing more over seveval years can it be true? He would go to her house for coffee and sex,and have gropes in the car if he gave her...

What do you think of my now separated husband? Am I right not to take him back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - I'm in this situation and i'm not sure how to handle in. Here goes, my husband and i recently seperated after being married for 10 yrs.he continues to blame me for everything that lead to the seperation.I believe that i'm a good women i did ...

I've told him no more female friends

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - I have been with my partner for almost 15 years, we were both quite young when we men 18/20. I was his first sexual partner. All couples have ups and downs, we have managed to get through most problems. Of course the usual things bother me althou...

My bf is very jealous of my guy pal! What can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - I am 21 and my boy friend is 23. We have been dating for 18 months and we have a great relationship except for one thing. He is so jealous of my best friend Matt. Matt and I have been best friends since we were 16. My boyfriend has been ...

He blames me for cheating! Does he not want me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - What do i do if my boyfriend is always blameing me 4 cheatin but I'm really not??? Do it mean he don't wanna be with me or just what.... ...

When I want to discuss my feelings my g/f is the rudest person on the earth!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

27 April 2009 (M) - Hello guys. I have been using this site alot lately, thanks everyone for answering my questions. Ive got one more though. My girlfriend met a guy on facebook, and she is arranging to see him in real life. She claims they are; 'Just friends...

Every time we have an argument he throws the past at me...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend keeps bring up the past, what should I do?? Well I cheated on him one time and I know it was wrong but he told me he forgave me and he made me promise I wouldn't do it any more but it's making me mad beacuse every time we get into...

She cheated, and I left but now she will not leave me alone!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

27 April 2009 (M) - I just recently broke up with my girfriend of 5 years. She had an affair with a co-worker last year, and I almost left her then. But I confronted her about it, and she begged me not to leave her. Well we worked things out, and I thought things were ...

Abusive partner, what should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship with this man for 12 yrs. and it's been off and on. He's been cheating, lying and he's even gotten the women he cheats with pregnant, he doesn't respect me, doesn't appreciates me, and when me and him get into an ...

I'm the other girl in my Cousins relationship.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5686 days ago

27 April 2009 (?) - okay im 16 and so is my cousin and we have a been very close friends since i was like 5 yrs old. and now for like two years we have been having realtions and we consider ourselfs as boyfriend, girlfriend now but the twist is he has a girlfriend and ...

We're both married, how do I get him to leave his wife for me?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - i have been seeing this guy for about 1 year and the thing is hes married and before you start to judge me please just hear me out! i really love him. and he loves me too! anyways i am just the type of person that believes that if you want something ...

DID I MARRY A SERIAL CHEATER ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - Dear Aunts My husband who is 49 had been having an affair with a younger women(28 years old)he said he was going though a mid life crises i belived him and gave him another chance,he is no longer seeing this women but i have found out that this was...

Do you think counselling will get us through this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - My Husband of 15 years and 3 children has told me 6 months ago he had a short fling with a very good friend of mine who has since left to live many miles away and has never been in touch with either of us and now I know why? He is been treated for ...

Cheating on fiance, feeling I don't want to get married anymore

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5679 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - I've been dating my now fiance for three and a half years, we have been engaged for almost 9 months, and have a wedding date set for August 1, 2009. We currently live about 1 hour apart. I am a full time student and he works. I will be graduating ...

My husband is having an affair and ignoring my problems

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5687 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - I am 51yrs my husband is 45yrs, I have a son from my prev marriage. My husband is a Christian, I am a free thinker. My husband is having a affair with a Malay girl age 26 yrs, I found out, he says sorry to me and swear not to see her again. O...

Why would he leave me to be with women that treat him like crap?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5687 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - Hi, I am so confused. My ex and I were together for 7 years and our relationship wasn't a bad one although it was rocky towards the end. What I want to know is why he left me to be with women who treat him like crap. I was faithful and I loved him ...

I cheated, tried to fix it, now he's planning a secret tryst...

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - I cheated about 7 months ago. I had been unhappy for years, tried to tell my husband but he brushed me off. Not that he's bad, he's great, just oblivious. He told me he always thought that the fact that he loved me so much was enough, he didn't ...

I've found out that my boyfriend of 1 year has been texting and ringing another girl and telling her he's totally single.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5670 days ago

25 April 2009 (F) - ok, I've found out that my boyfriend of 1 year has been texting and ringing another girl and telling her he's totally single. he met her over the internet and its been going on about 2 months. he's planning to go meet her in 2 weeks time. to mak...

I'm a bit jealous that my girlfriend hangs out with guy friends too.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5677 days ago

25 April 2009 (M) - Hi guys, I am together with my girlfriend for 10 months now, but today she told me she hangs out with guy-friends too. Like one on one, I never knew this before so it came as a surprise. I don't know, I am kind of jealous, she did cheat on me ...