A
female
age
36-40,
*akota
writes:I recently found out that my bf had called two other girls in the past month and had tried to hook up with them. Nothing became of either of the situations but I was still devastated that he would even think of being with another woman. We have been together for a little over a year and live together and just chipped in for a car to help eachother out. I want him to be sure that he wants to be with me 100% and not with other girls, am I being to controlling? I realize that we did move to fast but we were there for eachother financially and have been there for eachother through a few really tough times within this past year. I love him but want him to know for sure that I am all he wants to be with, especially since we stuch by eachothers sides throughout these tough times this year. So I told him I needed a break, since he has family in town he was the one to leave, I told him im not kicking him out simply because of the fact that legally I can't. But told him to come home whenever he has decided what he really wants to do. I would forgive him but still would be weary on trust. Its been about 4 days yet and he's still not sure. If he's still having doubts on this decision, should I start to figure he wants to be single?
View related questions:
a break Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, jessica04 +, writes (30 April 2009):
 He most likely does not want to be single. He just wants to be able to have his cake and eat it too.
Dump the bastard. You don't deserve that sort of disrespect. What he did was technically a form of cheating. If he wanted to be single, he would have broken up with you.
In the end, you can't decide what he wants, only he can. It's up to you whether you are going to put your trust in a guy who tried to cheat on you twice. Obviously everything you have been through this past year does not mean much to him.
I think you can and should do better than him. But it's up to you and how much you are willing to give to the relationship to make it work. You haven';t told us that he was sorry for what he did, or ashamed. Instead you think you might be the controlling one. I'm sorry, but if I found even suggestive texts on my BF's phone I would be done with him. Who has time for that nonsense?
Just remember that you deserve respect, and if he isn't willing to give it to you, then you need to be strong enough to respect yourself and leave him.
|
