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writes:My boyfriend keeps bring up the past, what should I do??Well I cheated on him one time and I know it was wrong but he told me he forgave me and he made me promise I wouldn't do it any more but it's making me mad beacuse every time we get into a argument he brings it up and I feel it's in the past so what should I do? helpppp!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): My bf does this...i've recently admitted to "cheating" a few days ago that happened about 7 months beforehand...yes it took me that long to work up the courage to tell him. I know how you feel though...i had to promise as well and never touch alcohol again...so far so good...hopefully...try explaining (calmly)..that bringing up the past wont do any good. it makes it worse. and its not worth making both of you so so upset. i'm still trying to recover from the huge fight myself..imagine how he feels. But seriously, next time he throw that card at you, ask him calmly, "whats the point of you bringing that up?", see how he reacts.
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reader, Sambuca_Dave +, writes (27 April 2009):
 I would talk to him about it and say you know what happened was stupid and that he said he forgave you for it and you havent done it again so whats the problem. I agree with Steve its his way of gaining the upperhand on the argument.
Dave
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (27 April 2009):
 When he brings it up, ask him if this is still bugging him, and that if it is, he needs to talk to you about it, instead of using it in arguments against you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): I did the same thing to my ex boyfriend. The only reason I brung it up because I was still hurt and annoyed at him and I hadnt actually forgave him even though I said I did. He obviously is still hurt by what you did and its affecting your relationship.Just sit down and talk to him say you are getting hurt by him bringing it up constantly but make sure you are very sensitive of his feelings and make sure you do what HE wants and listen to him. After all it was you who cheated on him not the other way round.You just need to ask him if he really has forgave you and if he hasnt well talk to him about if you have a future.good luckxx
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