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writes:I've had the serious hots for the guy in question for as long as I can remember (i.e. all through school) but after he left high school we didn't really see each other.About three years ago we bumped into each other and kept in touch. He text me and asked me to meet him for a drink so I did. The evening was lovely and we talked about the past and eventually I came clean and told him I liked him a lot. He didn't say much at the time but told me he was in a long term relationship.A week or so later he text me again asking if I wanted to meet him again so I said yes. We went for a drink and then he took me on a drive. Eventually we stopped in a dark secluded spot and he told me he wanted to have sex with me so I did as it was something I wanted too. This has been going on ever since even though he got engaged to his girlfriend and they recently had a baby. I've talked to him about things and told him I understand if he wants to stop as he has a family now, but he said he wants to carry on seeing me as it's just sex. I've asked him if he's seeing anyone else as well and he says he isn't but I'm not sure I should believe him.I'm a single girl and still really like him but should I carry on seeing him? The sex is fantastic and I know where I stand, it's just sex and that's all it ever will be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): I think you need to stop seeing him! I understand that you have had feeling for him for a long time, but you need to look at the big picture (he has family now) you need to move on! If you know that it’s just sex, guess what you can have fantastic sex with someone that will love you and when love is in the picture sex is way better. Don’t you wonder what his soon to be wife would think about this? If he’s moving on you should do the same, don’t do this to yourself.
I recently found out my father is cheating on my mother, it’s crazy I would have never thought in a thousand years he was capable of doing that. Please think about it before it’s too late! You deserve someone that will love you and only you! Good Luck!
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reader, ALONSO80  +, writes (30 April 2009):
try to fill her shoes. WOuld u want your fiance cheating on you the same way he is? The sex might be great, but you have to stop being selfish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're both right and I would never get into a relationship with him because I would know he'd be cheating on me right left and centre. I suppose I only did it because of the whole "good things come to those who wait" thing. I've now realized this isn't a good thing as I found out earlier they've started to plan thier wedding!
I'll have to let him down gently though as we have a lot of mutual friends who don't know what's been going on and they'd get suspicous if we just suddenly stopped speaking to each other. ANy tips anyone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): No you shouldn't you are what people call a homewrecker and its a bad thing to do he has a family, leave him alone and you deserve so much better then that, what if they break up , you two get togehter could you ever trust him?? After he cheated on his fiance with you? Just think about that. good luck
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