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writes:Ive stupidly let my ex boyfriend use me for the last six months! Ive being so silly and and fool. Ive been so in love with him ive let him do whatever he wanted so i was afraid of losing him. We spilt cos he wouldnt give me commitment. We were together 3 years on / off only seeing each other 3 to 4 times a wk.. He tells me he loves me and im the best thing to happen to him. He lets me down so much when hes plans to c me.i get excited and then he dont come cos footballs on and he watched it with his mates. Hes gone to weddings without me saying that they didnt know he was with someone so thats not his fault! Hes gone on lads hols. Hes booked them when were on a break.and we got back together and he still went! Ive found out on our breaks he slept with various different women! He says he was lonely and he couldnt have the one he wanted! Cos i said i couldnt take no more! But surely if he loved me if would of made an effort with me instead of sleeping around! Ive let this man hurt me time and time again because of the empty promises! I dont know why ive let him walk over me. I think cos i thought he was the best i could do i was scared of losing him. Ive told him once and for all now i just cant do this. Cos im so lonely feel used and hurt! I did absolutely did everything for him. All i wanted is to be loved. And i cant believe or understand why he didnt want me properly! Stupid as it sounds if we were together and he had slept with someone else i would of still stayed. Cos i feel that low of myself. Because how he treated me!which i know is crazy!
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reader, RaeMay  +, writes (29 April 2009):
 my best friend went through the same exact thing. except theres more. shes 15 and hes 18 who has kid with someone else. it was her first relationship that involved sex and drugs. she only did it to feel loved and because i have had sex before and she thought it was cool. he basically used her as a booty call. and i told her that over and over but she never listened to me. she said "i love him so much and i dont care if hes using me. i want to be used." i told her that she was stupid for saying something like that. but she refused to listen to me for six months and i knew that he was cheating on her because he slept with my other best friend and more. i never told her about my other bester friend though because she ended up finding out that he cheated on hre with the baby mama. and then she couldnt handle it anymore. so she ended the relationship all by herself all because she couldnt take it anymore.
you have to think about if the guy really loves you. if he did you would be able to tell him that you wanted to take it slow and he wouldnt leave you. he wouldnt use you or cheat on you. or flirt with other girls. girls think that the guys love them because 1)they manipulate the girl into thinking that 2)because they want to feel loved.
honey, there are other ways to get love. family and friends and yourself are the best. a relationship helps a lot but if it goes out like your relationship with this guy then it ends up making things worst.
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