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writes:ok, I've found out that my boyfriend of 1 year has been texting and ringing another girl and telling her he's totally single. he met her over the internet and its been going on about 2 months. he's planning to go meet her in 2 weeks time.to make things worse now i am 2 months pregnant (unplanned) and he says that he doesn't want a baby and wants me to go have an abortion.he says he is sorry about everything and doesn't want to hurt me but its not a good time for him to have a baby.he's terrified that this girl will find out about me.i've never been soo hurt in my life because he was a really good, decent man before this happened.i have found an email address for this girl so my question is.. should i tell her about me or would this just be a petty thing to do because he will hate me for it!??! advice please?? what would you do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): I too went through the same thing with my boyfriend meeting a lady he met at work. I found out i was pregnant, which was unplanned. I decided to go through with the pregnancy as i couldn't go through with an abortion. My boyfriend finally came around to the idea and now dotes on his baby daughter. However our life is no different. He still rings other women, although he claims they are just friends, although i know this is not true. Having a baby has made it even more difficult to leave, so don't assume that even if he comes round to the idea that it will change him or his ultimately thoughtless and unloving behaviour. Try to decide how you feel about it just being you and a baby, because in the end that is how it may turn out. I am now at the stage where i feel i can no longer take anymore and part of me wishes i'd left a long time ago, but amazingly feel that i could cope alone (i've even suprised myself!!). Keeping my baby was the best decision i ever made but that is just me and you need to make the choice that is right for you. Try to take him out of the scenario(although i know how difficult it is) and think about yourself and what YOU want only. I hope everything turns out well for you. My email address is [email address blocked] if you need to talk. Good Luck and remember that you deserve better and someone that would move mountains to be with you x
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reader, Mikados are lush!  +, writes (25 April 2009):
 He has got cold feet obviously. Not a nice thought, but blatently obvious if he is arranging to meet someone new. Not sure if emailing the girl is the best move, but then whats to say he wont do the same thing to her? She obviously doesn't know the real him, or she wouldn't be wanting to meet him! Hense his not wanting her to find out about you.
You're in it up to your neck, harsh but true. I would go see someone like 'Life' and talk through your options with someone trained in this sort of thing. You're certainly not dealing with a guy thats ready to take on the responsibilities of a baby, so if you go through with it, you're almost definately on your own. You need to understand that.
Good luck
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