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writes:Okay so long story short i cheated on my Boyfriend of 6 years for a year and a half with the same person no he was not the other guy just a "buddy" if you get me ... the truth about me and him only came out because i got pregnant with his baby now me and my boyfriend are pretty much done but not because of me cheating because he forgives me i can't forgive my self and let us move on.. So I am wrong should i just let it go and move on with me and my boyfriend of 6 years or just break the whole thing off .. I can honestly say that i don't love him the way i used to
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): wow what a bf to have. how considerate and tolerant.
you continously cheated on him and do not love him. there is your answer.
please leave him. YOU DON'T DESERVE HIM. you need to learn to love yourself so that you will not stoop so low again. the one that will suffer from your behaviour is your baby. and you need to change your behaviour and hae self respect.
i wish your bf all the love, he will actually go on to have great, passionate love with someone else who will love him and not disrespect him. your bf needs a medal for sticking with you for so long. if you do care for him, please release him so that he can live a complete faithful life with someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): That's one tolerant bf. Yeah generally if a GF gets pregnant with another man's baby, that's a deal breaker. And this 6 yrs guy is just too nice for you. You are the type of girl that gets bored and walks all over a nice guy with a cleat shoe. So it just won't work.
Break it off.. No sense staying with him only to repeat your same behavior later, on account of "not loving him like you used to"...i.e. Getting bored.
As to not being able to forgive yourself: Where was all this contriteness the entire year and a half you were cheating on him?
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reader, purplecloud03  +, writes (30 April 2009):
 if you can say u honestly dont love him the way u used to then end it instead of holding onto something that isnt there
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (30 April 2009):
 YOU DIDNT LOVE HIM WHEN YOU CHEATED ON HIM!!
oh how can this be???
IT BE!!!
How selfish. you cheated on your boyfriend, got pregnant, and you dont know whether to continue with your man???
Cheaters never cease to amaze me. They never think about the pain they cause or the lives of innocent people they destroy. Only themselves. Thats why they always say the "dont know" why they cheat...what a crock!
leave your man.
simply put, he deserves a female that can be honest and actually respect him, cuz you sure as hell dont. You are not worthy of his love or his respect. You certainly proved that.
Remember also that forgiveness is very over rated. Because there is always a caveat to it. He may tell you he forgives you, but he would be a fool to.
Cheaters are incapable of being honest. You'd have probably gotten away with it had you not gotten knocked up
True remorse comes from actions not words. you don't seem one bit remorseful by the way. Let this poor man have a chance at love and at life. Its a given by your question that you will cheat again, so leave the poor schlub!
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reader, siiLviia  +, writes (30 April 2009):
If you're not happy with him anymore, maybe you should let it go... but try giving it another chance before you blow it up, if he forgives you, he thinks you're worth giving it a try...
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reader, malum424 +, writes (30 April 2009):
 Plan and simple no if you don't love him then don't go back to him. In the long run you'll only hurt him and yourself if you do.
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