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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I feel my husband is using me financially

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2027 days ago

31 May 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I don’t have anyone I can ask for advice that won’t be bias in either my favor or my husband’s favor. This might be long, but I’ll try to condense this. My husband and I are both in our late 20s. We have a daughter together. We’ve been together a total of 13 years and married ... (850 words)

Now that I am pregnant my husband is having difficulty with sex

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2029 days ago

31 May 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, My husband and I are expecting a baby in November. He has two children already but this is our first together. The problem is that since we found out about the baby (it was planned) he has been experiencing erection problems. He has recently opened up to me about it... (193 words)

We had amazing dates, but now he’s left me confused!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2029 days ago

31 May 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone I am a single mum to two small children aged 1 and 5. About 4 weeks ago a met a single dad with 3 children online. We spoke daily and instantly hit it off so set a date for about 5 days later. He called me the day before as wanted to hear my voice and we were both... (811 words)

She thanked me, said she had a good time but also said she is not looking for anything serious

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 2029 days ago

31 May 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - I matched and got talking to a girl on a online dating app.. Few messages later went out for dinner. Holy smokes she is stunning. I don’t have a clue how it went. She kept thanking me and saying she had a good time. But also said she is not looking for anything serious. Has ... (68 words)

What's it like dating someone with a young child?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2030 days ago

30 May 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm currently seeing (nothing official yet) a guy who has a young kid, 3 years old. I never really wanted any kids of my own but I am really starting to fall for this guy and I think he feels the same way. I'm not good with kids, not because I don't like them but because I've ... (164 words)

Thought she was my friend, is it me or has she changed?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2027 days ago

30 May 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - I’m not sure where to start as I’m in complete shock at the moment. a while ago I joined a dating site to find myself a girlfriend as I’ve been single for nearly a year. came across a female who I liked and seem to get on well with each other. it didn’t lead to anything serious ... (186 words)

Why do men stare and smile but never acknowledge

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2030 days ago

29 May 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Why is it that some men stare but never speak? I work with a lot of men at a fairly large grocery chain. I was doing my grocery shopping one night after work and smiled almost instinctively at an extremely attractive man. Later that night I ran into him again and when I... (554 words)

Seeing my ex at works makes it hard for me to make a decision about my job future. Do I follow my heart or my head?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2031 days ago

29 May 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I've posted on here a few times about a relationship I had with my colleague that went south to say the least! We currently only speak with each other about work (barely even that). I basically see him and see red! I didn't behave well after the break up as I had a lot of ... (463 words)

What are some Acts of Service that don't involve a ton of chores or cleaning?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2032 days ago

29 May 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - My husband's love language is Acts of Service. He's an ambitious man with a high stress job, and has to bring work home a couple nights as week. I try to use this time to do some of his/our chores so he doesn't have to do them. I also like to make him tea or a snack while he ... (104 words)

I'm married and am infatuated with a man who is also in a relationship

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2030 days ago

29 May 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I am a married woman and I have developed an infatuation with another man. He is in a relationship too. I don’t know a great deal about him but I know he too fancies me. He has made it clear and has asked me out. I have never been unfaithful before and I have been with m... (247 words)

I've wasted my prime is it too late to get over it?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2031 days ago

28 May 2019 (M) age 36-40 - This is a petty question I'm sure but it's something that holds me back I will try to keep it short. I've had depression off and on since 15 but hit a hard spell at 21 after a relationship knocked me back because of it my life has been frozen. Just kept a standard job, st... (168 words)

Can men get so used to porn that they think of the porn stars as better than normal women?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2031 days ago

28 May 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Is it possible that a man who has been single for a long time and used porn as his main sexual release can become infactuated with porn women and think of them as being better than or above ordinary women. I ask because the man o have met seems to regard women in porn so highly ... (118 words)

What is the average age for first time sex for a girl?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2032 days ago

28 May 2019 (F)

age 22-25 - how old is the average age when a girl has sex for the first time?? ... (15 words)

A troubling situation is arising my dad is becoming a creep

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2031 days ago

28 May 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Firstly,my dad has never abused or molested me growing up and he was actually very protective of me and my sister. Now even as an adult my father will do anything for me and he has expressed that I'm his favorite child. I never felt weird around my father until a couple of ... (680 words)

I think I really insulted my bf....how should I fix this?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2002 days ago

28 May 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - A few days ago my bf came home from work and he came into our bedroom where I was reading/studying and to get my attention he took his penis out and wanted me to play with it....I told him to go away bc I was busy. When he came back to bed a few hours(nude bc that's how he ... (337 words)

We've never met I'm in the US she's in France. Is there any point in continuing this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1942 days ago

28 May 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - So a couple months ago I noticed a beautiful woman followed me on Twitter. I followed her back and we started exchanging DM's on twitter. Turns out she lives in France. I live in Nevada. But we did click. Our interests lined up in many ways (it's why she followed me) and... (277 words)

I'm worried that my feelings for my FWB man will go stronger once we go away together

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2034 days ago

28 May 2019 (F)

- I met a hot guy four years ago on vacation. He was 21 and I was 25 and we lived states away from each other so we decided to hook up during our respective vacations. We knew the distance would mean we couldn't be together so it was supposed to end there. We exchanged numbers ... (946 words)

My boyfriend overreacts at the smallest of things and is getting too much to bear

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2033 days ago

27 May 2019 (F) age 36-40 - Hello and thank you So I must say I'm annoyed with my boyfriends attitude little things set him off. He over reacts to minor things and its definitely getting to be too much . As an example for the last month he says he has been outside with his neighbor every... (143 words)

What happened to keeping in touch and friendship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2032 days ago

27 May 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-dont-understand-the-change-in-his-behaviour.html Here’s the question that I asked and I followed the advice and didn’t contact him again . After a week or so, I just sent a very friendly text on his story on Instagram asking whether h... (183 words)

Can two women have professional chemistry?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2032 days ago

27 May 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - This is party a follow up question. I made a post a couple of weeks ago about a female client who I thought was flirting with me. I’m rubbish at working this stuff out so needed advice! I’ve just announced that I’m leaving my job so I called her to tell her and say g... (149 words)

I know my ex still loves me but this isn't going to go anywhere

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2034 days ago

26 May 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - long story short Friend of many years became boyfriend. Broke up citing family not agreeing for marriage on his side. At first i thought we are maintaining friendship while he called once in a while. But now it seems like he finds reasons to keep talking to me. It seems lik... (309 words)

Are there any laws on verbal abuse?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 2033 days ago

26 May 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - Hello there, What is your view on verbal abuse? I was having a drink with a kinda newish 'friend' (a friend of my estranged brothers - who are both violent narcissists but no-one knows my past with them) and he suddenly turned the subject into one of the rape laws. Out o... (569 words)

Am I wasting my time, should I break up with him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2035 days ago

25 May 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay, so im 26 yr old female. No kids. Living on my own. I am disabled so i get about 700$ a month to pay all my bills rent and food. It is very hard to live on that amount per month bc the rent and utility bills alone are that each month. Anyways, ive been seeing this boy for ... (285 words)

I can't sleep next to my boyfriend because of his snoring!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2035 days ago

25 May 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi! I am with my boyfriend now 5 months and everything else is great in our relationship except we can't sleep together!! I stay with him a few nights during the week and i just can't possibly sleep next to him! It's impossible for me,i am a very light sleeper and he snores! I ... (154 words)

Something is not right in this relationship with my older boyfriend

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2036 days ago

25 May 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi aunt's. I recently came back from a 3 month vacation and have been indoors and kind of claustrophobic. I live with my current bf and we've been together for a little over a year now. I saw him dressing up today and asked him where he was going because he always wants me to ... (235 words)

He wants us to go back to "friends" after being so keen to start with.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2037 days ago

24 May 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I’ve been seeing this guy for a couple of months, initially he was so keen and was talking about our future, plans, and meeting friends/family, but this has completely changed recently! He knew from the start that my father had cancer, which he said he would more than support ... (247 words)

I want to date but don't even know how to get someone interested in me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2035 days ago

24 May 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - So I've gotten myself into probably common predicament and so far I haven't been doing well to get out of it. I'm twenty-six now, finished school last year, have a job but trying to break into a career and eventually be moved out of my parents house by the end of the year. In ... (279 words)

Do I let people set me up for dates?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2028 days ago

24 May 2019 (M)

age 26-29 - So its been quite sometime since I left DC.And I really wish I came back with some better news, but hey life is life and it doesnt always go your way. So on with it. Its been over 6 months since I said to myself that I wanted to start dating again and since then Ive been on... (403 words)

My boyfriend does not reply to me anymore

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2034 days ago

24 May 2019 (F)

age 22-25 - At the beginning of the relationship, we would always talk to each other message each other constantly. Until he stopped talking to me a lot. He asked me awhile back to always reply to him when I came online- so I did. Eventually he started coming online and not replying... (439 words)

Toxic mother relationship during pregnancy

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2037 days ago

24 May 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Ever since I was a child I have been blamed for everything that as gone wrong in my mothers life. Labelled a difficult child, spoilt, etc. Blamed for the break down of her marriage, (even though domestic violence and my fathers infidelity was a major part) blamed for being ... (684 words)

Is it weird that I want to get to know my older tutor better?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2038 days ago

23 May 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - I feel as though this question may seem weird because I have been thinking it sounds weird or just not right or that i shoudnt be feeling what I do . I recently decided to do a 3 week comedy course and its ended now and I really enjoyed it . it was taught by two male tutors ... (297 words)

My girlfriend cant see my point of view and issued an ultimatum

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 2035 days ago

23 May 2019 (M)

age 26-29 - I'm in a bit of a dilemma as I've just started a relationship with a girl who I really thought was the one. We've been going out for about four months now and I really do love her and she loves me. She's just been on a massive rant to me today though which has concerned me. Me ... (211 words)

I don't understand the change in his behaviour

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2038 days ago

23 May 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I started talking to a friend of friend online and connected instantly . It’s been years since I actually found a conversation with someone so connecting . We used to text all the time and this went about for almost a month . He is from my city but is working in a diffferent ... (322 words)

Does he need to see a doctor?!?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2038 days ago

23 May 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I believe I have found the love of my life and started having sex with him the beginning of this year. There is only one problem. I feel he is emotionally very distant after sex. I would like to cuddle after sex but he immediately falls asleep after he ejaculates. He says is it ... (227 words)

Why did he suddenly back off?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2038 days ago

22 May 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I wondered if you could give your thoughts on why this man has suddenly stopped texting me - January he messaged me started texting frequently and then one night after a higher out he rang and told me he liked me and would I go out for a drink with him ? I said I thought ... (197 words)

I think I was used by this person and now they got what they wanted they dropped me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2038 days ago

22 May 2019 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, over the last 7 months I have become very friendly with a former work colleague. During this time I have given up a large portion of my time helping them getting a new job. I would spend my time going through job specifications with them and recently provided a job ... (187 words)

Isn’t it unfair for my life-long friend to put our relationship on hold?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1431 days ago

22 May 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a question that has been bothering me. We are both 26. I have a childhood friend whom I went to school with. We have spent everyday day of our lives together, and as life is coming to a crucial stage (soon we will be with kids, lifes change, move city) but for now he ... (435 words)

I can't stand my partner's family but I can't ask him to give them up. What can I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2039 days ago

21 May 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been with my boyfriend for some years now. We have 3 children together. He has 4, another from a previous relationship that he never gets to see because things ended badly. So when we first got together, he vaguely referenced his family being part of the reason they bro... (391 words)

My boyfriend is divorced but still treats matters as though he is married

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2038 days ago

21 May 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - First I want to apologize for my English. Well my story is very simple. I have a boyfriend, who lives with me 1 year ago and we are together for almost 2 years. When I met him, he was separated to almost 3 years but he still married and promised me that he would divorce. He ... (269 words)

My boyfriend goes too quickly during sex. How do I talk to him about it?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2041 days ago

21 May 2019 (F)

age 22-25 - I don’t know how to talk to my boyfriend about this without him saying i dont like out s*x life or making him feel bad. I love what wr have but he tends to finish too quickly, 2 days ago it was probably 30 seconds, and it has happened before but it never upset me how it did ... (190 words)

My 24 year old son is physically abusive occasionally

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2041 days ago

21 May 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - Hello I really appreciate this site. Thank you for making it. I’d find it very helpful. This time I have a family related question and I’d appreciate an suggestions/recommendations you can give me thank you. What’s happened is that I have a son that is very abusive at ... (206 words)

He talks about sex but never performs. Is he gay?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2041 days ago

20 May 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been with a man for 15 months, We are both in our mid 50s . He says he loves me but he has NO passion. He kisses me but they are little pecks. He will some time kiss my neck and when I am feeling a little excited, he pushes me away. He says it is because he has troubles ... (127 words)

My boyfriend dumped me he said he couldn't be himself with me

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2041 days ago

20 May 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear cupid, My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years, like every couple weve had our ups and downs but love each other greatly. We were living together and decided to not renew our lease because we wanted to buy a house together so we each moved back to ou... (345 words)

My boyfriend doesn't want sex as much and its starting to bother me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2041 days ago

20 May 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been with my boyfriend a couple of years and we do love each other, our sex life I would say is pretty good. We dont live together and see each other 3 nights per week. But the past few weeks on a Sunday evening we have not had sex as usual and he has said we will in the ... (145 words)

I have overwhelming urges to kiss my friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2040 days ago

20 May 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I’ve been best friends with my friend for 3 years now and we spend a lot of time together but recently I’ve started getting overwhelming urges that I want to kiss her. She’s never indicated she feels the same way as we are both girls but I can’t see to get it to go away. I ... (120 words)

My boyfriend stares at and approaches other women, it makes me uncomfortable.

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2020 days ago

20 May 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - my boyfriend keeps looking at other women when we are out and ive seen him literally turn his neck to side and stare for ages at other women also he goes up to women on theyre own and chats to them about anything usually starting with theyre dog to make it look like hes ... (123 words)

One date later, should I pursue this girl?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2043 days ago

19 May 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - I have been internet dating for a little while now and have had 4 dates. The last was a woman from Canada who is visiting over here for a month. She contacted me and explained she was travelling but we chatted a little online and we went for a drink. I have been looking to ... (306 words)

I don't know how to deal with people who ignore other's worries while making theirs sound worse than they are

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2042 days ago

19 May 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - How do you all deal with people who like to make a mountain out of their molehill and when they encounter people who have actually overcome a mountain they act uncomfortable or belittle that person's experience? It's so upsetting to have a serious illness/trauma/financial ... (76 words)

I have doubts about my fiance.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2040 days ago

19 May 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I’m not sure about if I should be with my fiancé or not. I feel because I ask the question that it should be the obvious answer. But I don’t know if my expectations are just wrong. I’ve been with him for 10 years, we have a house together. I think he’s attractive, but... (435 words)

I broke it off ... so how come he hasn't unfriended me on facebook?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2040 days ago

19 May 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, i need some advise. I broke up with my LDR bf of 3 months ,this weekend sent him message on facebook that i want to break up with him and he just said he respect ny decision. But he never unfriend or even blocked me on facebook. Why you think he doesnt do that, is he ... (96 words)