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writes:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-dont-understand-the-change-in-his-behaviour.htmlHere’s the question that I asked and I followed the advice and didn’t contact him again . After a week or so, I just sent a very friendly text on his story on Instagram asking whether he plays guitar? He reply no. That’s it. I took the hint and decided to cut the cord . We had ended conversation on a friendly note where we decided to meet when he’ll come back to the city and he’ll keep me posted about the same so I never really thought it would be a big deal to sent a friendly text . He joined my live chat the same day and unfollowed me next morning. He hasn’t removed me from his followers or blocked but why? I know I shouldn’t read too much into all this and social media but I’m just confused to what have I done ? I did NOT text after his response and left it there. What happened to keeping in touch and friendship? I don’t understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2019): " I honestly thought this would go somewhere and we will discuss about meeting up when he’s back"
In your previous question, which you mention, the above quote had me understanding that you felt so good from your interaction with him that you had *thought* it would lead to a discussion of meeting up... *not* that such a discussion actually did happen.
"I know I shouldn’t read too much into all this and social media but I’m just confused to what have I done ?"
Maybe what you should focus on is Truly, what is it that is bothering you in the way things have unfolded? And Why is it bothering you?
Can you think of any friend of yours, say a female one, who has sent you a message, or contacted you somehow, and which you've left unanswered or not quite answered? or which did not lead to any kind of great conversation?
Yet, you both know that you're still friends, and everything is fine; you're just living your lives.
Should that friend be wondering "What happened to keeping in touch and friendship?" about your not quite responding?
So, where do you think lies the difference between these 2 friendships; in that the lack of talking in one bothers you, but the same does not in the other?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2019): Block HIM!
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reader, N91 +, writes (29 May 2019):
 People say things like that to be polite.
He is NOT interested. If he was, he would be happy to contact you. Stop wasting your time.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (29 May 2019):
 Why don't you just decide whether you feel his TREATMENT of you is OK or not and act accordingly?
As in, if you don't like it.. BLOCK him, unfollow him and TRULY cut the cord.
No one here can read his mind.
You probably didn't do anything besides thinking you were actually friends when HE perhaps didn't think you were for real.
If he has plenty of followers he probably is always looking for greener grass - but who knows.
Doesn't sound like a true friendship. And I certainly wouldn't want to meet up EVER with him either.
Find someone who lives NEAR you to be friends with or in a relationship with... not some "persona" online.
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