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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 May 2019):
 That depends on the country, but in Norway its typically been 17 for girls and 19 for boys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2019): I cannot give you a definative age, OP, but be advised that the age of lost virginity is far younger than the Google search indicates. What is not included in the Goople figures child rape, human trafficing, incest, date rape etc.! Victims of such evil crimes don t get surveyed. As a law enforcement officer in a large American metro area, I speak as someone who has seen first hand actual babies raped by dads or boyfriends. You have been given some very sound advice, here by the aunts and uncles. Heed the advice. Now let me stagger you with some pitiful American statistics! 35 percent of white kids are born to single moms. For hispanics it is 55 percent born, out of wedlock. For blacks, the figure is 75 percent of kids who are born to a single mom! I do not have figures at hand for STD and STI or HIV, but it is estimated that around 80 percent of folks who have sex are infected or carrying HPV which is spread by skin to skin contact and can lead to many forms of cancer! You live in a dangerous world OP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2019): Hold off for Mr Right, not Mr Right Now. There will be many Mr Right Nows.
Once you start having sex you tend to hook up with many. Guys talk and are good at telling you what you want to hear, especially when they know someone had you.
My wife says her first BF took 6 months, her second hook up took hours. It's like putting toothpaste back in the tube, getting virginity back.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (29 May 2019):
 I concur -- the average is about 17-18 years old, but the true issue is -- first time sex for a girl should boil down to one question:
Are you emotionally, physically, and financially able and ready to give birth to and raise a baby girl or boy??
Never EVER forget that no matter what media, your friends, or some hormonally charged boy tells you, the primary reason sex exists is for REPRODUCTION! We have a sex drive because instinctively we want to reproduce and have children. It's not some fun pastime similar to watching TV or going jetskiing, it's a primal even designed to repopulate our species.
That's why I suggest to a girl considering sex to WAIT until they finish school first unless being a single mother is one of life's dreams for you.
Other than that, if you're dead set on becoming sexually active, start with a visit to the doctor, get STI tested and insist your potential partner do the same unless he is also a virgin, and get well-versed on birth control options. I recommend the Depro-provera birth control injection, but you can take the pill every day as well. It's just that many times people forget to take them or take them sporadically, missing a day or even being random with what TIME of day they are taken.
Add to that the wearing of condoms and all the malfunctions/mistakes that happen there with something as crazy as the wrong size. DO NOT rely solely on his using birth control, but insist that he do. Don't let him whine his way out of it, because he shouldn't be having sex either unless he can likewise take care of a boy or girl he brings into the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2019): I agree with Wiseowl. Why should there be a time limit just because it's always talked about on social media/TV etc? It' depends on yourself & your own views.
Having said that - it doesn't always happen like in the fairytales. I kept myself pure for a long time and purposely didn't have sex with my first couple of boyfriends as I knew they weren't Mr Right, but then as I was approaching 30 I slept with a guy out of desperation who did love me only to find out afterwards he was a bit of a psycho -. So is there ever a right time??
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (28 May 2019):
 First of all OP I find it puzzling that you can write on here but you couldn't google it? Just seemed an easy enough question.
The average age at first intercourse in the United States is currently 17 years old, with only 16 percent of teens having sex before they turn 15. The percentage of high schoolers who say they've had sex has been dropping for 20 years, and now stands under 50 percent.
Straight from google.
Does it really matter what the average is? The first time should be up to you..not the average or the majority. Obviously having sex too young isn't wise but I've heard of people having sex as young as 11 and some people having sex for the first time in their 40's or older...
IF you are asking this question in regards to yourself, be smart sweetie and safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2019): WiseOwle I’m disappointed in your sweeping statement and encouraging waiting until marriage. Waiting until in a long term relationship is smart but waiting until marriage often leads to sexual incompatibility and divorce or affairs. Your relationships as a gay man do not fit traditional values so it seems hypocritical to encourage other traditional values on people. Sex isn’t any more special to most people if they wait until marriage than if they wait until in a happy and healthy relationship for 6+ months. People having different values to yourself doesn’t mean they don’t have values or boundaries.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2019): “We live in a world with no filters, values, boundaries, sensitivities, patience, or compassion.” That’s such a ridiculous comment to make. There is an awful lot of compassion, values, patience, etc. in the world. I think that generalisation was crossing the boundary of truth. The wisdom is in the average age not being right for everyone, not in such a bitter view of the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2019): You should be wondering when is the right time and what are the best circumstances for a young woman to have sex? With whom should she be having it?
We live in a world with no filters, values, boundaries, sensitivities, patience, or compassion. It's easy to have sex that means nothing, and might result in an STD or pregnancy. With the wrong person, it will usually end with a broken heart, or you could be forced before you're emotionally and physically prepared to take that step.
The average-age doesn't mean it's the right age for you.
This is a teaching moment. Morals and values are tossed to the side; because people don't like hearing that kind of stuff. Make them feel good, or justify anything.
You have plenty of time to decide. You should be picky with whom you decide to you give yourself. It would be ideal that your partner would be your husband. If you aren't going to wait that long, or be that choosy; then you have to be strong enough and mature enough to deal with the downside of sex. Not just the good parts of it.
Write me off as old-fashioned, that's fine. Somebody will appreciate the wisdom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2019): The right age is what's right for YOU. For my best friend, that was age 15. For me, that was age 26. There are no rules.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (28 May 2019):
 I’ve known several women who have had sex for the first time any age between 17 and 28. Some are older than that because of abstinence until marriage.
The only ones I’ve known or heard regret it was when they looked back and felt too young or it was too soon. I’ve yet to hear anyone regret waiting a bit longer or until they were a bit older.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 May 2019):
 A quick google search says:
"The Kinsey Institute 2017 data from the CDC, which says the average age of “first intercourse” in men is 16.8, while women, on average, have intercourse for the first time at 17.2."
However, what the AVERAGE girl or boy do should be irrelevant. It comes down to WHAT is right for you.
Personally, I was 19. I had dated my first BF for 6 almost 7 months before we had sex. Plenty of my friends (girls AND boys) had started at 16.
There are NO rules for how soon to "do it" is. There SHOULD be rules for making SURE you TRUST the person you do it with, that you know him well, that you BOTH (preferable) use contraceptives and use them RIGHT.
Never feel PRESSURED into having sex. And don't jump on the "band wagon" that being a virgin is somehow a bad thing.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (28 May 2019):
 This seems like a google kind of question, but the best answer I could find was "it depends". It depends on how you define "has sex".
The more useful answer was in the US 17.2. of course the mode may be more important to you than the mean. See a good statistics course for those definitions.
As a return question, Why do you ask? Is it important to you to be average, or to beat the average?
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reader, ConfusedCarrie84 +, writes (28 May 2019):
There isn't an average age really. I think it all comes down to wether you feel ready and have the right person to share the experience with.
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