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female
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anonymous
writes:Hi i have a question for guys and maybe some girls can give me answers as well. Well i have a boyfriend and i'm in love with him and so is he. I'm 13 and he's 15 and we been together for 7 months. Well to give me pleasure he fingers me and licks me u know where. And sometimes he wants pleasure too but the whole idea of giving blow-jobs is just not right for me i don't like to give them. And he respects my decision. And my question is how do i give him pleasure as well without giving him a blow-job? And he tells me to AT LEAST give him a hand-job but i'm not sure if i even know how to give a hand-job. He tells me it's okay and i don't have to give him pleasure but i really do want to because i don't want to be a bad girlfriend because to me he's a perfect boyfriend. So please people give me answers. ASAP!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): your 13
whats the rush!?
dont do anything you dont want to!
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): hey hunny.
thats really cute that you guys are like this,
&its good that he respects you enough to understand you when you say no.
but yeaa, well for hand jobss.
first;
put some nice lotion on.=]
start off slow, bak &forth bak & forth
slowy,
then start speeding upp
have a nice grip
not too lose,
yet not squeezing it cuz it'll kinda hurtt.
so tightish.=]
get into it,
and have fun.=]
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): hey hunni wats d stri listenin if u really love ur boyfriend and he loves u he won pressure u i 18 n so is me fella we together 7 months an we jus do wat feels ryt an don worry bout givin him a bj i was the same at first but jus tried it out an now it don bother me u no an about the hand job u cant go wrong darlin go wit the flow good luck xxxx
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): I understand your situation... I'm having one similar myself, except we're older. I'd suggest just taking it slow. If you feel uncomfortable in giving him any type of "job" then don't. Kiss his neck. give him a massage. Strattle him when you make out, or something. You don't have to have sex or give him sexual favors for it to be pleasurable. You don't really have to even go inside of the pants. "Just grab" is what he always says... lol. Best of luck!
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female
reader, myp +, writes (23 June 2007):
 just stroke him, thats a handjob, theres no right way to do it you just listen to his response and youll know.
best of luck
message me if you want to talk =)
-Myesha
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female
reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (23 June 2007):
 A hand job is you playing around and stroking him with your hands. The best way to find out what he likes is by talking to him about it. Or when you go to do it listen to his breathing and moaning. You should be able to tell if you do something good by his breathing or his moans, or his body suddenly jerking. It's all about playing around and finding what he likes. Ask him while you're doing it is this ok? if you are unsure. Just relax and go with the flow :)
xxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2007): Your boyfriend states quite clearly that he is more of a giver than a recevier, which is obviously an advantage for you, but I can understand why you feel you should pay him back. It's good that you don't want to give him a blow job and that he respects that decision. I think you should tell your boyfriend how you feel and then he can tell you the best was in which to give him pleasure. Remember that you are very young still and shouldn't really be doing much more than just holding hands and kissing at your age, so just take things slowly - there's plenty more time to do other things! Hope this was of some help
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reader, mickey436 +, writes (23 June 2007):
Hi, obviously i'm a guy, and to be perfectly honest, every guy has his own Sexual needs. Hoever most guys like a bit of foreplay. if you dont like giving him a blow job why not give him a hand job. this is almost as good.
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