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writes:I just lost my virginity early yesterday morning roughly 4am (we were at a wedding before). I really liked him and I met him briefly before. It wasn't sore but I bled a little--I didn't tell him I was a virgin...do you think he might have known? He used a condom. When it was over I felt down there and I felt kinda gooey and thought it was blood, as I saw the blood stain on the sheet. I went to the bathroom to check, but it wasn't blood. I think it was stuff from the condom, but could I still get pregnant? He says it didn't burst--am I just being paranoid? He also says we are just friends (he said this the next day) and he wants to be possibly f*** buddies! Did I do something wrong? I'm so confused but I don't regret it even though I'm a little upset as he didn't really kiss or cuddle me after and he doesn't want a relationship (which i kind of wanted). I haven't cried over it but I would have liked us to be more than friends. Am I being selfish? I'm so confused, please help!
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reader, GreenTea  +, writes (25 June 2007):
He just wants to use you for sex because its a very pleasurable thing. And if you are willing to be in a sex only relationship go for it. But your not going to turn it around and make it a romantic thing. You didnt do anything wrong.
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reader, ilikenight +, writes (24 June 2007):
 Don't let this b*stard use you. You're not pregnant though if he used a rubber and it didn't break. It is probably just the lube from the rubber. Or vaginal secretions from getting excited. If I were u, I also wouldn't give this guy the satisfaction of knowing he took your virginity. What you can do is tell him he was no good, and that is why you don't want to be sex buddies. That will shatter his ego. And from now on, look for a man that wants a relationship 1st, then sex comes later as everyone else said. Be friends, then lovers.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (24 June 2007):
 As yummy mummy said - If you want a guy who's commited, don't go down that route. Keep in mind that he's only using you for your body and that he doesn't actually have respect for you as a human being.
I suggest that you stay away from this guy and find a man who'll respect you and not use you like this.
Take care lovely xx
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (24 June 2007):
 He wants the best of both worlds- sex on tap without having to commit to you. If you are looking for a relationship I wouldn't go down the route of having a sex buddy. You are in way being selfish, he is. He's the one that used you to get his leg over and wants to continue doing so.
If you aren't sure about being pregnant go see your doc and get a free pregnancy test just to be sure. When females cum some also leak a kinda milky fluid. Having the test will set your mind at ease. If you only had sex yesterday I'd leave it a few days before going though as it may be too early to tell.
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reader, myp +, writes (24 June 2007):
 You didnt do anything wrong, hes just not the best guy to have a relationship with. The thing is you kind of did the whole thing backwards. Since you slept with him before you started an emotional relationship he thinks you want to be fuck buddies, women use men just as easily as men use women. Next time you should reverse this scenario, be friends, then lovers, and youll get the results you want.
And no, if the condom didnt break then chances are youre not pregnant. Most guys, (that i know anyway) dont put a lot of emotional stock into sex, the way women do(at least the ones i know). Women usually want the relationship along with the sex, and the cuddling and affection that comes along with romance. Unfortunately this guy is depressingly ordinary, and just wants a one night stand, or a fuck buddy.
message me if you want to talk =)
-Myesha
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reader, DV1 +, writes (24 June 2007):
 You're not being selfish. Generally when people have sex, they're in love. You didn't do anything wrong. It sounds like he used you, and wants to again. Don't waste your time with him.
DV1
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