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writes:I was with a guy last year for 4 months. We actually loved each other or so i thought we did. Then he ended it because he was bored. I was really heartbroken.When he ended it he was really horrible to me and called me a cheap slag and said to me that he had cheated on me (but he'd been faithful to me)to hurt me so i wouldn't love him anymore.Even though this happened last year i'm not over him. We're both 15 but i've still got feelings for him and I can't help thinking to myself that if I don't ask him if he wants to give it another go then I'll be wondering 'what if' for the rest of my life.The thing is I'm ready for a long-term relationship now as well but I don't think he is, even if we gave it another go. Am so confused, don't know what to do. Could someone give me some advice please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice, i'm just going to carry on move on now. it's really appreciated.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (22 June 2007):
 I would walk away from him and live your life. He was horrible and harsh to you and dumped you because he was "bored". How do you know he wont get "bored" again! You may still care about the lad, but why run the risk of getting hurt all over again?
If he isn't ready for a long-term thing, but that is what you want then I definetly think you should walk away and move on. You will find, in time, somebody who wont treat you like dirt and will want the same things as you from a relationship! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2007): I hate to be harsh, but 15 year old boys do not make good boy friends, they have too many hang ups, and they are very immature, and 4 months is about average for a relationship that is based on him getting sex (which is what I assume you mean by being in love and him cheating on you) which is what guys this age are after and you gave it to him, that is why he lost respect for you and called you a cheap slag....guys don't respect girls who have sex with them right away even though they act all in love to get you to give it up.
You have learned your lesson I hope, and would not consider going back to a guy that treated you so poorly. In my country, 15 is considerd to young to be in a long term serious relationship for the most part. Kids your age should enjoy their freedom, it is only a short time that you don't have any real responsibilities in your life, and you need to spend this time getting to know yourself and what you like and what you are good at, then you can make better choices about what kind of guy will make you happy and what kind of relationship you want.
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