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writes:After being single for many years, and close to giving up on relationships for good, I finally came across the perfect guy. The problem is that neither of us seem to know what to do next; we have both had bad relationships in the past. Whenever we talk on the phone, I get terribly nervous, and as I don't want to mess things up, I accidentally end up cutting the conversation short. On the flip side, whenever we are together, he gets nervous, giggles, and can't look me straight in the eyes. In other words, we behave like a bunch of giddy school children. Anyway, this has been going on for a while. I don't want to lose him and I don't want to come on too strong. Any suggestions on what I should do? Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Variety  +, writes (23 June 2007):
 Relax a bit. A lot of people tend to get nervous in a relationship. I am at uni and got with my boyfriend two weeks before we went home for a month for Xmas, so I completely understand the nervous on the phone thing. He has even told me since that he would write down a list of things he had done etc so that he would have something to say if things on the phone got a bit weird. Now we are stonger together than ever and can't seem to shut up! You could try the writing things down...you will soon find common ground. Message me if you want to chat. xxx
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (23 June 2007):
 Try to relax a little bit and enjoy the time you have with this guy and hopefully he'll follow suit.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (23 June 2007):
 Just be YOURSELF! Don't try to be something different. Why don't you go bowling or skating, that will relieve the tension between you, then go for a meal or a drink afterwards. You're both just trying too hard. Next time you're together and you both get all tongue tied say to him "what are we like? We're like 2 schoolkids" He'll be pleased to know that he's not the only one that felt that way and again it will help break the tension between you.
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